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37 F Austin, TX

My Details

Last Online
Aug 29, 2010
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Full figured
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Dislikes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
I am magick and science and technology and math, spirituality and stardust and love. I am a wife, a mother, a friend. I am divinely human. Witch, lesbian, tattooed and pierced, freaky, geeky. Earth and air and fire and water and spirit and paradigm and order and chaos in various swirlyness. Words and wordless, songs and numbers, poems and prose. Lubricating the universal wheel of awesomeness. A gadget whore, a student of life, steampunk fantasy rolled up. Scared and brave, smart, silly, loyal, tough and fierce, soft and gentle. A tangle of joy and fear, sorrow and glee, a paradox of life, a seed growing toward the sun, embodying the change I want to see in the world.

I am vivacious, sensual, and earthy
What I’m doing with my life
I'm living my dreams and doing what I love.

My wife, pace212, and I co-created the Freak Revolution. We're looking for others like us to build our community with. We're going to help in the shift of the dominant paradigm from control to connection. We believe the only way to create lasting change is through deeper connection with self and others.

She and I had a big lovely illegal wedding ceremony in November 2009, and spent two glorious adventurous weeks in Ireland on our honeymoon! We love each other a lot. We're silly and sweet and mushy together.

On my own(-ish), I'm a writer; I write in our blog a lot. I write microfiction, and I may or may not be writing a book. Another one, because pace212 and I co-wrote The Usual Error: Why We Don't Understand Each Other and 34 Ways to Make It Better together. (:

I'm also a full-time unschooling mom of one awesome frighteningly-close-to-adolescent boychild, a caretaker, family logistician and life planner, errand-runner, and house-maintainer.

And I have the World's Best Cat, Phineas Nix.

My life rocks!
I’m really good at
I'm good at knowing what I'm good at. (;

I'm good at naming things. I name everything I interact with, like my computer, my car, my iPhone, my pillow, etc. I was the kind of kid who named every single doll and stuffed animal and toy, and could remember all their names (and expected my parents to remember all their names).

I'm good at singing. I was in a choir for 8 years in school, I've won awards, and I'm in a band - like 1/2 the population of Austin.

I'm good at being vegetarian, but I suck at being vegan. I'm far too addicted to cheese and ice cream, and none of the soy varieties I've tried come even remotely close. But I've been mostly vegetarian for 13 years now. Wow. That's a long time.

I'm also good at making and following up on plans. I'm good at taking care of things, people, animals, and myself.

I'm good at writing - I write for my business, for myself, and for you.

I'm good at teaching. I teach cool things like communication and how to be awesome. I'm also good at learning new things (part of teaching is learning!), trying new things, and communicating (another part of teaching is practicing).

I love to try new things, so I've gotten pretty good at that, too.

I'm pretty good at exercising, but not always at wanting to exercise.

I'm good with change. I usually like it, and I'm pretty good at going with it. I've gotten good at facing my fears, which helps with change.

And I'm great at laughing out loud. I'm loud and unabashed.
The first things people usually notice about me
My tattoos: I have a big vine-themed tattoo on both of my upper arms, with vivid colors. People remark on my greens all the time. (:

I have vines on my right wrist and on the back of my hand, too - and when I get dehydrated, my leaves wilt. It's pretty cool.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ooh, I like most things, but here are some lists.

* The Story of B by Daniel Quinn (and everything else he's ever written)
* Lessons from the Fat-o-sphere: Quit Dieting and Declare a Truce with Your Body by Kate Harding and Marianne Kirby
* Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert (I loved the "eat" part and the "pray" part, but the "love" part was sadly lacking.)
* Succulent Wild Women by SARK

* Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman
* A Hat Full of Sky by Terry Pratchett
* the Harry Potter series
* The Long Dark Teatime of the Soul by Douglas Adams

* Girls with Slingshots
* Questionable Content
* Tasty Flesh (I don't actually read this one anymore because I'm terrified of zombies, but one of my darlingest friends creates it and it rocks.)

* Moulin Rouge
* Down With Love
* Love, Actually
* Amelie
* Wicked! (this has yet to be made into a movie, but there you go.)
* The Princess Bride
* Labyrinth

* the Poirot series (starring David Suchet)
* Firefly
* Wonderfalls
* Avatar: The Last Airbender
* the BBC Sherlock Holmes series (starring Jeremy Brett)
* Star Trek: The Next Generation
* Babylon 5

* Alanis Morissette
* A Fine Frenzy
* Pomplamoose
* Neko Case
* Imogen Heap
* Missy Higgins
* The Sundays
* Lucy Schwartz
* Hem
* Ingrid Michaelson
* Poe
* Jewel

* Thai
* Italian
* sushi
* Tex-Mex
* chocolate
* frozen pizzas (um, once they're cooked. yeah.)
* cake (the kind that isn't a lie.)

I also love getting lost, traveling, having adventures, being spontaneous, reading, writing, learning, edge-stretching, gossiping, and having excellent conversations.

As I said, I like most things and I love to try new things, so these lists are by far incomplete - but a good start. (:

I also think a list of likes is imbalanced without a list of dislikes, so here are a few things I don't like:

* zombies
* hatemongering
* fearmongering
* the news
* horror movies
* horror in general
* gratuitous violence
* people assuming I'm Christian and/or straight

The six things I could never do without
1) communication. Without communication, there is no connection, and without connection, what's the point?

2) spirituality. I almost deleted this one, because I'm going through a spiritual crisis of faith. But I know, in the end, I'm going to wind up in a very good place (because that's what I do), so I'm sticking with it.

3) music. I'm a very musical person. It's like a mood barometer - if I'm singing, whistling, or humming, I'm happy.

4) relationships. Again with the connection thing. (:

5) changing the world. The world needs some serious changing, and someone's gotta do it. Actually, a whole lot of someones need to do it, and I number among them.

6) growth. Personal growth keeps me moving, like a wild river, and I would know myself in all my parts.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Spirituality, relationships, changing the world, growth, self-work and self-improvement, the nature of society and culture, writing, music.

I spend a lot of time thinking about the things I couldn't do without, which isn't surprising. If I spent a lot of time thinking about things that weren't important to me, I'd find myself rather dull. If I got bored with myself, I might not like myself so much, and then I might leave! And then where would I be?
On a typical Friday night I am
on a date with my lovely wife, watching murder mysteries, playing adventure video games, playing the Sims 3, writing, reading, having awesome conversations, looking for new friends.

I don't know that I have a "typical" Friday night. We do lots of interesting and different things, so our Friday nights tend to be a lot of fun, regardless.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My life used to totally suck. I felt trapped in an abusive, manipulative, co-dependent relationship, I was trapped in victim-mentality, and I had no support network.

I got better. (:
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 25–60
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
It depends on whether you want to get to know me well and be friends or even close friends, or if you just want to have interesting and awesome conversations and maybe hang out and have coffee.

I'm open to either!

As for dating, I'm mostly looking for friends right now. If we're going to date, we'll have to be friends first, anyway, so it's a good place to start either way.

My ideal close friend would:
be compassionate, ambitious, peaceful, and idealistic.
be spiritual but not religious.
be passionate about making the world a better place.
have healthy boundaries and know how to hold them.
enjoy communication ('cause I love to talk and to listen!).
be passionately dedicated to personal growth.
be vegetarian and a non-smoker.
be empowered and biggified.
be queer or queer-friendly.
be sensitive, but not a drama queen.
be sensual but not sexual in manner.
have your shit together.
be generally happy, cheerful, and positive.
love yourself first.

My ideal conversational coffee-mate hanging-out-type-person would have some of the above listed things and/or have something in common with me.

And in general, I love interesting and fun and even challenging conversations, so if you have anything to say or ask, please do! (: