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33 M Oakland, CA

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Asian, Other
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes cats

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My self-summary
Full time nurse squeezing extra time in to write short fiction/poetry. Off hours spent reading/listening to news and fiction, prioritizing quality family time, and pulling together friends for hikes and basketball. I hit the occasional happy hour with awesome dedicated/exhausted coworkers. I'm an endorphin junkie - much time spent exercising, jumping, and dancing.

But don't be fooled by the vanilla description above. Yeah, I have a Master's Degree and can talk tech and medical speak, but the down to earth side of me learned so much more on the gritty streets of Oakland and organizing protests in SoCal. I can sit down and talk to just about anyone from revolutionaries to conservatives. Dodged rubber bullets and tear gas in LA, sang karaoke in China, fell down a mountain in Korea, cartwheeled capoeira kicks in college, and performed poems at weddings and on stage. While I'm dedicated to working hard to care for people with compassion, work is not the only thing in my life, and I'm reducing work hours just so I can tickle my nephew more often.

Looking for someone who enjoys laughing, dancing, hiking, running, spooning, or some combination of the above. Message me if you want to enjoy yourself.
What I’m doing with my life
Careers: Writer, Nurse Practitioner.

I love doing both.

I spend time away from work exercising, reading, meditating, listening to music/NPR, dancing, and being with friends and family.
I’m really good at
being a Nurse
being a mensch
staying calm
actively listening
dancing while tipsy
dancing while not tipsy
honesty (OKC blog tells me I should claim I'm 6' tall)
taking photos
meia lua

I'm bad at:
Taking selfies
any sport/activity related to the cold
choosing the right direction to go if there is a 50/50 chance of getting it right
finding my keys when they are sitting in front of me
staying quiet when something is amiss
The first things people usually notice about me
Take your pick: I have the long hair of a Korean pop star, the butt of a biker, a beauty mark under an almond eye, and the wit of a writer.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Currently reading several short story collections. Have enjoyed the Death Gate Cycle; Wildseed - Octavia Butler (shapeshifter in slavery, inspired); Born to Run; Malcolm X autobio; Artist's Way; Foundation series - Isaac Asimov, Hunger Games was fun but the Japanese version is darker.
Comics: American Born Chinese, X-men, Same Difference, Deathnote, Onepiece, Monster, Ranma 1/2.
TV (haven't owned a TV in years): Daily Show, Futurama, The Wire. Is this where I put that I've been watching too much Louis CK? Example: The awesome courage women have to date men -
Movies: Usual Suspects, Godzilla (Japanese man in a costume versions), Kung Fu Hustle, Enter the Dragon, Ruthless People, Amelie, Wall-E, City of God, Spongebob Squarepants the Movie.
Music: MJ, Black Eyed Peas, Incubus, Gorillaz, Tribe Called Quest, Red Hot Chilli Peppers, Adele, forget it, I listen to too many people.
The six things I could never do without
Aside from the obvious like family/friends/toilet paper/air?

running shoes
gas stove/oven
written word
a heater
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"Do you work to live, or live to work. **** that." - recent quote from my pop.
On a typical Friday night I am
Some drinks with coworkers
writing perhaps
exercising usually
dancing less often than I would like
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have an 8 pack which I refuse to post in picture form, but there's a part of me that wants to show it off.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 25–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You want to have a good time. I've had coworkers, patients, family, and friends say they always feel better after hanging out with me.

Since I'm part of the only 20% or so bisexuals who actually respond to both men and women (according to the OKC blog), I'll have to break this down based on gender, hate to be sexist.

Message me if:
You're a man who likes to pursue, seduce, snuggle, crack jokes, and can throw me over your shoulder.

You're a woman who likes serious and silly conversation, feminism, snuggling, finding good restaurants, and will let me throw you over my shoulder.