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33 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 13
Asian, Other
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Patients have been hitting on me a lot. I think I fill some sort of male nurse fantasy, but I have a strict policy not to date patients or coworkers, effectively eliminating most of the new people I meet from the dating pool. One patient outright told me I’m a catch – handsome, professional, funny, gentle, and trustworthy; as embarrassing as that was it's still better than the patient who kept asking me if he could touch my “oriental” hair.

I enjoy listening to and sharing stories/adventures. It really is no wonder that I am a writer and a nurse - stereotypically this would make me a sensitive, tough as nails, compassionate person, which isn't too far from the truth.

I believe in constantly developing oneself, whether that is physically, mentally, or spiritually. I am a fulfilled person because I continue to grow in these areas while remaining close to family, friends, and loved ones. But in truth, it would be nice to hang out with another person who challenges me even further (in a good way, not a challenging me to my wits end kind of way).

I’m here to meet somebody fun who challenges me to enjoy my life more.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m enjoying my 30’s. I get paid to do what I love and continue growing and learning in a challenging career. I’ve found temporary balance (I’m not ignorant enough to believe that things will be balanced forever). I leave work at work and have an awesome life outside of the clinic that I have worked hard to build and sustain.

I use up my energy healing and supporting others, baby sitting my nephew, partying with friends, writing poetry/shorts, trying new foodie spots, planning events/activities for friends, and searching life and city for inspiration. I recharge my batteries through running, joking loudly and occasionally cursing with my family (in a good way), meditating, hiking, reading, cooking, listening to NPR and music, eating ice cream, weight lifting, and dancing to music videos on YouTube (that last one’s a secret so you can’t tell anybody). Occasionally my replenishing efforts take more energy than they return.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making people feel better after they talk to me (it's my super power)
making people think
being a mensch
actively listening
parking, driving in reverse
dancing while tipsy
dancing while not tipsy
honesty (OKC blog tells me I should claim I'm 6' tall)
taking photos of other people
meia lua

I'm bad at:
Taking selfies
any sport/activity related to the cold
choosing the right direction to go if there is a 50/50 chance of getting it right
finding my keys when they are sitting in front of me
staying quiet when something is amiss
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My patients tell me I'm a great listener (they're buttering me up, but it's nice to hear). Friends have told me they always feel better after hanging out with me and that I'm a good soul. An enemy told me I'm arrogant (funny, I felt the same way about him). Students listening to one of my speeches told me I was inspiring. On a date I was told that I look much better than my picture.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A few books: Wildseed - Octavia Butler; Born to Run; Malcolm X autobio; Artist's Way; The Hunger Games was fun but the Japanese version is darker.
Comics: American Born Chinese, X-men, Same Difference, Deathnote, Onepiece, Monster, Ranma 1/2.
TV (aka internet): Daily Show, Futurama, The Wire.
Movies: Usual Suspects, Godzilla (Japanese man in a costume versions), Kung Fu Hustle, Enter the Dragon, Ruthless People, Amelie, Wall-E, City of God, Spongebob Squarepants the Movie.
Music: MJ, Black Eyed Peas, Incubus, Gorillaz, Tribe Called Quest, Red Hot Chilli Peppers, Adele...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
corrective lenses
comfy shoes
a towel
a heater
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"Many a false step is made standing still." - fortune cookie.

"What is the sound of one hand clapping?" - Lisa
*clap, clap, clap* - Bart's hand.

"Never let a good crisis go to waste" - Churchill
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Happy hour with coworkers, writing, reading, dancing, or exercising. Sometimes doing all in one night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think my nephew is cuter than all of the babies I've come across, and I feel guilty for feeling that way since I'm a FNP.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I’m on OKC to meet awesome people who inspire me. I’m not looking for anybody to fix my life, I believe in taking care of that on my own. I can get along with anybody, but I enjoy myself most with people who laugh hard and feel passionate about something that they do in life. I click naturally with someone who can hold both intelligent and silly conversations. I love spontaneity and enjoy quirky characters.