I am libidinous, loquacious, and non-monogamous.
My Self-Summary
I aspire to be a consumptive late-Victorian vampish heroine with a
14 inch waist and questionable taste in hats, but unfortunately I'm
also rather fond of cake, swearing like a sailor and doing all
manner of terrible things. Truthfully, I suspect I'm probably a bit
more like the syphillitic, gin-drinking whores even Jack the Ripper
wouldn't have bothered with....
.... but a girl can dream.
Some interesting facts you should probably know about me:
1. I'm almost certainly filthier than you. If you think not, we
should talk.
2. I've thrown people out of bed in the past for liking Kaiser
Chiefs. With no remorse whatsoever. You don't need to share my
encyclopaedic geekitude when it comes to music, but there's no
excuse for just plain having crap taste.
3. I'm not a sweet girl, a good girl, or the girl next door. I'm a
feminist fatale with a keen brain, a vicious sense of humour and am
the kind of girl your mother warned you about running into on a
dark night ... while simultaneously being someone mothers tend to
like. People who describe themselves as 'normal' or 'nice' and I
are probably not going to get along. I like people who are not
afraid to show their mettle; I'm not afraid to show mine.
4. I'm very open about things other people wouldn't dream of
revealing about themselves, and deeply secretive about
others.
We weirdos sniff each other out. Eventually.
What I’m doing with my life
Having spent the last year or so struggling to make ends meet as an
"independent scholar", I'm finally caving in and starting a PhD.
Only partially because screwing in libraries is hot, honest.
Living in Hackney. Living as hard and as fully as said ends
allow.
In case you're wondering, yes, I am non-monogamous*, committedly
so, but not evangelical about it. Despite being a bit of a closed
book to most, I love and cherish intimacy; that third space
somewhere between close friends and lovers is where you'll see the
best of me.
*the word "polyamory" makes me sick up a bit in my mouth and
invokes images of unfortunate looking goths holding hands in a
circle, talking about their "sweeties" and thanking The Goddess.
Not my style. I'm more (and I hate it, but it's true) hipster than
hippy. I don't want to celebrate how much you all wuv your
"sweeties" and pander to your superiority complexes about how
honest and compassionate and MARVELLOUS you all are. Non-monogamies
fuck up as much as monogamies, and we're all capable of behaving
badly. On that note, irritating_poly_happy_people, please take your
smug and kindly shove it up your arse. If we're going to get along,
you're most definitely not one of THEM. I thank you.
I’m really good at
Several unmentionables...
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair, generally.
The dirty glint in my eye that gives it all away.
That I'm almost certainly wearing awesome shoes.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books: by people like, and not exclusively...: James Joyce,
Judith Butler, Rosi Braidotti, Donna Haraway, Gilles Deleuze (&
Felix Guattari), William S Burroughs, Old Icelandic sagas, Alasdair
Gray, Emmanual Levinas, Ian McEwan, Michel Foucault, Henri Bergson,
Martin Heidegger, Bruno Latour, Karen Barad, Helene Cixous,
Friedrich Nietzsche, Elizabeth Grosz, Walter Benjamin, Toni
Morrison, Simone Weil, Brian Massumi, Seamus Heaney, Luce Irigaray,
Angela Carter, Antonin Artaud, all the Brit Romantics, Algernon
Swinburne, Georges Bataille, Samuel Beckett, Harold Pinter, Dorothy
Parker, Evelyn Waugh.
Movies: movies are my biggest arts weakness. However, if
pushed, I do love most things by Michael Haneke, film noir, Robert
Bresson and Singin' in the Rain.
Music: Aphex Twin, Rufus Wainwright, 60s garage, punk and
surf, Joanna Newsom, Bjork, Burial, The Cure, Arcade Fire, New
Order, My Bloody Valentine, nuggets & pebbles, Crystal Stilts,
Mountain Goats, Slowdive, everything Nick Cave, Sonic Yoof, Pixies,
Bowie, The Handsome Family, Smashing Pumpkins, Billy Childish, Be
Your Own PET, Wire, Gang of Four, Boards of Canada, Animal
Collective, Godspeed!, Judy Garland, Deerhunter, Stephen Sondheim,
Film School, Panda Bear, Hole, Bauhaus, Ramones, Deftones, dubstep
and grime, PiL, Black Flag, Nina Simone, Deerhoof, Michael Nyman,
Cramps, Suede, Mr Scruff, Devendra Banhart, Polly Jean Harvey, Can,
Serge Gainsbourg, The Tiger Lillies, Devo, Laibach, The
Decemberists, Kate Bush, Einsturzende Neubauten, Lou Reed, The
Magnetic Fields, Dead Kennedys, Kraftwerk, Neil Young, Four Tet,
Bikini Kill, Joy Division, Pulp, Brian Eno, April March, Le Tigre,
The Raincoats, Spacemen 3, Nico, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Cabaret
Voltaire, Negativland, Throbbing Gristle, The Breeders, Joan Jett,
The Hidden Cameras, The Stooges, Vashti Bunyan
The six things I could never do without
sex; solitude; cynical idealism; irony; words; my extraordinary
friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex, intimacy, love, music
On a typical Friday night I am
Cruising for crackwhores.
No, not really.
Taking cra...
Okay, in truth, probably out somewhere in East London both aghast
and enthralled by the local "wildlife", sloshing down wine.
If I haven't anything better to do, that is...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I have a phobia of bananas.
You should message me if
You think you can keep up with me.