5'3", brown hair, kaleidoscope eyes, somewhere in between voluptuous and BBW. Guys who are into BBWs tell me I'm not one, while guys who aren't into them aren't into me either. So.

I'm looking for a nice guy, but not too nice. I don't like pushovers. I find I'm most attracted to teddy bear types, but you never know, intelligence and personality count for a lot too. Don't limit me to that. I like smart guys, even a little nerdy. You should be self-supporting, whether you work for yourself or someone else. Please do not live with your parents, even if you work for them.

I have a very high sex drive. VERY high. I am almost always up for it. I want to find a guy who can keep up with me. If you take this paragraph as a challenge... that's because it is.

I'm a HUGE NASCAR racing fan. Hardcore. I do fantasy racing, follow the sport online, and can talk about it for hours. I do not miss races. If you think you might have a problem with this, please reconsider talking to me. I will not give it up for you.

I'd like to find a guy who's mature and self-reliant, one who has moved past the frat-boy partying lifestyle, and has a real meaning and purpose to his life. But that doesn't mean you don't like to have fun, too. Oh, and 'meaning and purpose' does not have anything to do with getting to the next level in whatever online gaming thing you're into. It has to do with employment, giving to others, and making a difference.

I am not interested in married guys. Let me repeat... I am not interested in married guys. If you are married, or otherwise attached, hit the back button on your browser now and leave me alone. I want no part of what you are trying to do. Yeah, I'm serious about that.

I am also not interested in smokers. Any kind of smoking, legal or otherwise. Not even the occasional cigar. I'd really prefer it if you have never smoked at all before, but if you are a reformed smoker we can talk about it. No room for negotiation here, sorry.

I'm not an outdoors type person. Actually, I pretty much hate being outside. One notable exception, though; anything that has to do with water. I love water (lakes, beach, any kind of shoreline, hot tubs, showers, etc), and I will put up with having to be outside if I get to spend time on the water. I like going boating on the lake, beach vacations, pounding surf. I do spend some time gardening, because I love flowers and tomatoes. Otherwise I'd much rather stay inside. Indoor plumbing and climate control are very important to me. To me, camping means staying in a Holiday Inn without an indoor pool.

I'm very protective of my alone time. I need that time to clear my head and recharge my batteries. I'm very comfortable being alone and doing things by myself. It also means that you wanting to spend an afternoon with your buddies ATV riding somewhere (or something like that) won't be a problem for me, provided you make time to be with me sometime, too. I'm not the type of girl who feels the need to be attached at the hip 24 hours a day. However, spending time with me usually means you are going to get laid, so take that into consideration.

Working, self-supporting. Trying to decide what I want to be when I grow up. Trying to give something back to the community I've been taking from for 37 years. Trying not to become a crazy cat lady.

Making myself sound cooler than I really am. Talking about NASCAR. Cooking. Driving. Choosing shoes. Procrastination. Ellipses abuse...

Depends on the context. Depends on who you ask. I have my opinion, but that's worth about as much as the paper this sentence is written on.

Books - biography or autobiography. Medical. True life. Fashion and makeup. Girl stuff.

Movies - few. Not really into them. Amateur porn is fun.

Music - classic rock, club/dance/techno. Pragha Khan to ZZ Topp. Depeche Mode to the Eagles. Erasure to Motley Crue. Take that as you will.

Food - The worse it is for me, the better I like it. And I don't do sushi. I love trying cool new restaurants, small local ones in particular.

Sex, cats, family, garlic, internet, thunderstorms, love.

Yeah, I know that's seven things. I like to push things a little sometimes.

Sex. Life. The rest of the world. How people view me. The image I present. My future.

Sex. Yeah, in case you missed it, sex figures big into the overall scheme of things. No, you can't handle it, I know this already, but you can try.

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• dontbeskirred

Hanging out at home with my cat. And really wanting to change that.

I test positive for HSV-2. And I'm a terrible housekeeper. Yeah, you can talk to me about both things. I don't bite... unless you ask me to. Seriously, it's not that bad (the herpes thing). Stop freaking out. It's nothing more than a minor annoyance, really. Those of you who choose to be assholes about it are far more annoying.

You want to talk about the HSV thing? Look here ----> http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=7790147920837827606 for some really good info on the subject. 25% of people have HSV-2 and 80% of those people don't know they have it. You're actually safer having protected sex with me than you are having unprotected sex with someone without HSV. Just remember... if you haven't had the blood test, you DO NOT know you are clean. Period.

You have actually read my profile and think you have something I might be interested in.

You think you might be able to keep up with me in the bedroom.

You like to talk about racing.

You also have HSV and want to connect with someone else who does.

You're into big girls and are in the Tulsa, OK metro area.

You just want to. :)