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ladysalamander

65 F Cambridge, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:51am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Skinny
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Taurus, and it matters a lot
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Retired
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I've been officially single, i.e., divorced, for thirteen years, and up to four years ago lived with a partner who remains one of my best friends. My son and daughter are the two most important people in my life - I couldn't possibly demean them by including them in my list of six "things" - and I'm lucky in my wide and varied circle of close friends. I've discovered I love being independent, and living on my own suits me very well, so I'm not looking for a live-in or long-distance relationship. However, although I'm good in my own company, I'm a social animal and feel far more complete with a lover - much more satisfying! Close companionship and physical contact are very important to me as I'm a true Taurean - tactile, loving, generous, warm and sensually aware.

You can see that I'm petite, and I like to keep myself in good shape. I'm long-limbed relative to my height and don't weigh much, so I don't want anyone heavy - it matters if I'm underneath! The artist I model for is a fan of my clavicles and rib definition, but I'm not skinny as such and I'm curvy in the right places. I make no apologies for my short hair - the received wisdom is that men usually prefer long glossy tresses, but I know mine suits me and I like it that way. My style is on the alternative side, but not hippy, more Fairtrade and vintage. It's also quite a sharp look, because of my hair - I don't do pink, floaty or girly - and it can be rather androgynous at times. Boots feature very prominently in my wardrobe, and I love natural materials, especially leather. I'm always in minimal maintenance mode when I'm walking or trekking, but I take care to be well-groomed and can look elegant when the occasion demands it. I'm aware of my posture, and carry myself with confidence.

I think of myself as a pagan because I feel such an intense connection with the earth and its energy. That might be anywhere in the world, but especially here in Northern Europe, where I am always aware of the changing seasons; I love the buzz of city life and its cultural embarras de richesses, but my heart is in the country, living with the constant cycle of fertility and regeneration. That's what all the old songs, festivals and rituals are about - it all comes down to sex in the end. My personal philosophy is to be kind to others and try not to hurt anyone, and I'm totally honest and direct. I love the open spaces (the Peak District in particular), so I stay fit and in trim by walking, dancing and healthy eating. I'm a linguist by training, and I like spending time abroad, especially France and Germany, although more recently, further afield. Also, anything arty, mythological or archaeological (cairns and stone circles, anyone?) and warm weather when I can enjoy my sports car with the top down!

I'm basically serious-minded, and I can get very passionate about humanitarian and environmental issues, but I'm creative and have no problem lightening up. I'd say my sense of humour is on the witty side - I appreciate word-play and sharp wit in others (I never miss Sandi Toksvig on The News Quiz). It can also be pretty off-beat and anarchic - I do love the surreal and the absurd, and mourn the passing of Hoffnung, Beachcomber, Jacques Tati and Spike Milligan. And Steve Bell is in grave danger of becoming a national treasure. (Which tells you that my politics are definitely left of centre.)

I should add that I have a predilection for dressing up in black and white, including make-up. This obsession with all things monochrome, however, is not part of some arcane ritualistic or fetishistic cult, nor yet an indication of my deviant sexual proclivities, but a perfectly acceptable and (relatively) innocent activity called Molly dancing. (Sorry, guys!)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Although I'm in theory retired, I'm a bit of an urban crofter, so the days are pretty full. During the day, I do courses with Cambridge U3A - languages, astronomy and literature (Blake at the moment - fabulous!), work for a NT property as a room and tour guide, do occasional rôle-play work for Addenbrooke's Hospital, and sometimes model for art classes. Music is a huge part of my life, so most evenings you'll find me playing and singing in Irish and English sessions around Cambridge, dancing in the Fens, calling for ceilidhs, or at a gig or concert.

That's what I'm doing with my TIME. What I'm doing with my LIFE is waking up to the fact that we only get one crack at this, and finally becoming the person I always wanted to be: independent, feeling a deep connection with the earth and other people, at ease with myself, and entirely comfortable in my own skin.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
......singing, colour and design, cryptic crosswords, playing my bodhrán (and I do play it - I don't just hit it with a stick), baking, gardening, reading maps, and calling for ceilidhs! And I'm lucky to be blessed with a really good memory, though I try not to be a walking encyclopaedia.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My elfin face and my smile. And I often wear a striking hat!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My passion is MUSIC! It always has been; I grew up with classical music, but I also love world, jazz, fusion, and especially folk, in which I'm involved in many ways - singing, playing, dancing (a lot), and ceilidh calling.
I hardly ever watch television, but I couldn't manage without a radio - I'm a Radio 4 addict, spiked with Radio 3 for Late Junction and jazz. I do have a wide screen, however, for DVDs, as I'm a movie buff - I love cinema, particularly arthouse, world cinema and cult classics, with a dash of fantasy and sci-fi thrown in. I also love the theatre, the Globe especially (but definitely not shows), and all forms of dance, and I don't go as often as I'd like.
And I LOVE art! There's rarely a month goes by without a visit to an exhibition somewhere, Cambridge or London particularly.
I love reading, as long as something's well-written, and I tend to go for literary fiction (Michael Chabon is a current favourite), the classics, especially Dickens, George Eliot and Zola, mystery and the supernatural - and I need poetry to feed my soul. John Donne, Robert Burns, Charles Causley and Seamus Heaney move me like few others poets. I wish I had more time for reading, but I spend a lot of time on music practice, especially on my dulcimer, which I love to bits.
I'm seriously into good healthy food - fresh, organic and as local as possible. Kind friends say I'm a great cook (baking a speciality), and I appreciate good wine and champagne! I'm mostly vegetarian - I don't eat meat, but I do enjoy fish, and feel better for it. I try to avoid processed food, and my favourite kinds are Italian, French, British, Scandinavian and Indonesian, but especially North African and Middle Eastern. I like to share food with friends and family - good company and sparkling conversation.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music ( times six!)
Art
Literature
Open spaces
Good food and wine - and coffee!
Human contact
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
....the smell of my lover's body. (You, perhaps?) You can keep all the perfumes and colognes - it's the pheromones that do it for me. I have a heightened sense of smell, and the natural scent of my lover I find intoxicating. As a true Taurean, I often seem to be on sensory overload, and I can even get an electric charge simply from your touch.

.....what an awesome world we live in. When I'm walking, usually alone, I never cease to be amazed by the breathtaking beauty of this planet, and consider myself so blessed to be able to absorb it with all my senses.

.... the future, and how best to maximise the time ahead of me. Not packing things in, or ticking off items on a bucket list, but moving forward and learning from experience without bitterness. I've never been one to bear a grudge - I've seen people eaten up with rancour and festering in negative energy, and it can take years off your life. I've been through deep trauma in the last two decades, but hey, life is a terminal, sexually-transmitted condition - embrace it!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
......calling for a ceilidh, playing and singing in a music session (bodhrán and hammered dulcimer), at a music gig or concert, or sharing food with friends. I like to spend balmy summer evenings on my bedroom balcony with a glass in hand, gazing at the beauty of the wonderful East Anglian sunset, and later, at the incredible night sky.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm an artist's life model. Oh, and I have a thing for boots.........
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 55–70
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
.....you are a musician! (Intelligent, of course - the two usually go together.) Not a given, but you must love music, and if you play, you will understand the commitment that it entails.

......you have a smile, sparkle and energy, and you keep yourself in good shape. If you also like slow, organic food, the pleasure of preparing it and enjoying it with good wine, then so much the better.

......you are independent, adventurous, comfortable in your own skin, and compassionate.

......you are serious about things that matter, and totally honest and direct; but also fun and creative, with an offbeat sense of humour.

......you are kind, warm, and generous-spirited, and can laugh at yourself, and me!

......you want to talk with me, dance with me, sing and play with me; or revel in the quiet moments, as we enjoy music to lift the soul and intimate time together, by day or night.

.......you are sensuous, loving and tactile, willing to seize the day and take that leap into the unknown.

(......and, like me, you want the moon on a stick!)