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laidbacklux

33 / M / Straight / Single

Burlingame, California

His Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:04pm
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin
Height
5′ 9″ (1.74m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Pisces and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from med school
Job
Medicine / Health
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I think we all struggle to summarize ourselves in this section, ...here's the thing, fifteen years ago I was mailing off college applications while living (briefly) out of my car. Fast forward to now and I'm a doctor with 3 degrees from ivy league institutions, and I've more facets, friends, hobbies, passions, and stories than I could possibly convey in words or even within a date or two. All this is to say that I am an open book but one with quite a few chapters already. You might read a few random chapters and think you've got me down and then boom, Chapter 5 - So this is what it's like to have scurvy (arrr matey!), bam, Chapter 9 - My Time as a Carnie. So...I am going to assume that there's more to you than your OKC profile, and I assure you that is the case for me...ok, here goes:

I'm a social scientist, an extroverted introvert, an athletic nerd, a mystic atheist, an emotional intellectual, and a serious jokester with a quick yet subtle wit. Full disclosure, I can occasionally be intuitively aloof.

Some things less dichotomous: I'm weird. I'm happy. I'm kind. I speak my mind freely. I'm crazy lucky. Crazy. Lucky.

Relationship-wise, I'm into quirky/goofy/weird, smart, and strong women who have passion for something and who are comfortable in their own skin. I dig the connection/chemistry thing and have truly loved many different types so it's always hard for me to demand some aspect or another. That said, I would love to find someone who didn't flinch at the idea of a 10-20mile day hike or some other moderate level of physical activity. I'm a sucker for witty banter, metaphysical discourse, and meaningful conversations. If you are confident, authentic, passionate, and generally kind, there's a decent chance I'll fall for you.

As far as hobbies: too too many so I'm just going to list as many as I can while holding my breath: hiking, snowboarding, scuba diving, photography, aquarium ecosystems, stained glass, live music, computer geekery...damn, I thought I was a faster typer than that, but that was the deal.

Travelling. My travels usually start with some ridiculous story about how the journey almost didn't happen. They tend towards exhausting/exhilarating though you might be able to talk me into a day at an all-inclusive resort to top off a week of hiking in a rain-forest. Usually on the way in, the planes and trains and their respective stations are where my sleep debts are forgiven. But on the way out, things are different, not much more I can say about that if you don't understand. I've trekked through the Himalaya's, the Sierras, a great many a rain forest, and every desert within Arizona(in a row). I've kayaked through the Everglades and scuba dived throughout the Keys, the Caribbean, Hawaii, Monterrey bay and Los Cenotes. I've driven cross country twice and backpacked through Greece, Peru, Costa Rica, Nepal, Tibet, and China. Listing it out like that makes me want to start planning the next. Deciding between Wonderland Trail, Colorado trail, Lost Coast, suggestions?

So. Now that you've checked out my pictures and read everything thusly, I just want to say that I'm down with the email pre-screen thing for a bit. But I'd get so much more out of seeing the fire in your eyes when you talk about your passion(s), hearing how you think in unedited realtime, finding out what makes you laugh, and then making you laugh. I think you'll have a much better sense of who I am that way too. So let's be digital for a while, but then I'm going to ask you to be analog at a cafe, trailhead, or some after hours museum event. You've been warned.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a freshly minted medical doctor and I'm truly loving it! Moments so powerful, so meaningful, it's both invigorating and humbling almost every day. So, I'm rotating through general medicine and neurology at the moment, and the real fun begins in January when I finally get to solely focus on psychiatry. And just an aside to assuage a few common concerns, I work normal human 8-5p M-F hours, and I'm just not one to read into random things or "analyze" my friends (or dates ;)

What else? Well, I also have a degree in education policy that I've been leveraging to implement social and emotional curriculum into local k-12's. Yes, you can teach things like insight, emotional intelligence, social skills, and empathy...and wouldn't the world be a better place with a few more empathic individuals.
I’m really good at
Wondering, wandering, and willing things to work out in my favor. Listening, laughing, and listing things alliteratively.
Overusing ellipses...

I'm told I'm a damn good snuggler, make a mean Greek salad, and that my soldering joints are silky smooth.
The first things people usually notice about me
Appearance: If I'm smiling, my smile and/or eyes. If I'm not, my conquistadorish facial hair.

Personality: That I'm direct. That I get it. I don't know exactly what people notice about me that leads to very frequent personal divulgences followed by "I don't usually talk about this stuff"-like statements.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies with great graphics/action/super heroes (Things from Marvel, 300, LOTR, Taken, Bond, the last Mission Impossible), interesting ideas (Being John Malkovich, Eyes Wide Shut, Inception) or bizarre interpersonal interaction (pretty much anything from Wes Anderson). Also, Baraka and City of God are in the top 5 but don't fit in those categories.

Shows: TV is dangerous if I am to make a difference on this tiny blue dot...damn Hulu. Lately: 30 Rock, Parks and Rec, Walking Dead, Office, Daily Show/Colbert, re-runs of Quantum Leap. That's enough now get back to work!

Music: David Byrne writes songs as if he knows my inner child personally. Wayne Coyne is one of my spiritual leaders. Bjork nails me to the wall sometimes. I can listen to Dark Side of the Moon, Animals, Abby Road, The Soft Bulletin, Daft Punk's Alive 2007 or Bluffer's Guide To The Flight Deck pretty much any time, over and over.

Books: I have a stack of books I really want to read/finish, but, but, it's sunny outside and there's a mountain over there!

Food: Preferably real, local, and hormone/pesticide/antibiotic free. I don't think I'm a freak about it but if feels like I am when I leave Cali. Generally healthy and delicious but I'll eat (and enjoy) whatever, even fast food on rare occasion.
The six things I could never do without
- Exercise
- Comraderie capable of hilarity, directness, and depth
- New ideas to play with
- Access to the wilderness
- Sunshine
- Capilene 1
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think I'm a true right-brainer. I don't really think in words, just kind of exist in the emotive moment with rare inner dialogue that is usually a tip off that I'm stressing about something or didn't feel like I was understood in some recent interaction. If you were to ask me what I'm thinking at any given moment, I'll usually answer by describing my current emotional state.

My left brain does work though, it's just not where I tend to live. But when I visit, I think about: Things that are counterpertuitive (not a typo), getting to and colonizing mars or the island of plastic in the pacific, convincing policy makers to incorporate social emotional curriculum into every school, using magnets to create free energy, surviving in a swiss family robinson, zombie apocalypse, or massive pandemic scenario. Most common thoughts include: "Wait, what?" "Why?" and "What in the hell?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Having friends over for dinner and drinks, at a friends place for dinner and drinks, finding or making a bonfire, half way towards wherever I'm spending the weekend...or staying home, catching up on music, solitude, aquarium duties. Love me some live music, love me the crowd that starts showing up at 2am, down for chill bar scenes where I don't have to yell to be heard. Not a frequent club guy, usually only with a date and maybe a couple times a year if that. Its a rare weekend where my cheek balls aren't sore from smiling.

When I'm all partnered up and stuff, then friday's and saturday's are date nights! Similar activities as above but the chemistry I tend to have with the women I date, and my affinity towards the snuggle means that we are often racing to get to a restaurant before it closes, we show up late to parties (maybe that's why I like the late crowd), and again, smile muscles are getting their workout.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't like being tickled... at all. If it's a crazy important way for you to bond, I know a Qigong master who says he can fix the issue, but until then, don't even play.

...also, I hate pennies.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
- You liked what you just read
- You're ready
- You can experience but don't live in fear/worry/anxiety
- You're physically and mentally healthy (I'm down with weird, not dysfunctional)
- You've little problem speaking your mind or speaking up for yourself
- You want to join me on a day hike sometime
- You've not been and are not currently a patient of mine.