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54 Jackson Heights, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 40–57
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Aug 13, 2014
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
A little extra
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), Chinese (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I spend most of my time studying and teaching languages and literature. I'm pretty independent, am OK being single, but would like to be in love and in a relationship. I love to read and to travel and to cook and bake cakes and pies. I love throwing parties for which I cook for three days and give away most of the food afterward. I like cold weather and skiing. I like warm (but not hot) weather and swimming. I love to read about US and international politics. I'm passionately for legalizing gay marriage and for ending the US military "don't ask-don't tell" policy. (Not that I'm pro-military, I'm just pro equal rights and opportunities.) I'm also passionately in favor of ending the discrimination that US gays suffer in regard to allowing their non-US spouses to immigrate to the US. I'm passionately in favor of ending the US hypocritcal approach to immigration -- that it's OK to use Mexicans for cheap labor, but it's not OK to give them a pathway to citizenship. I'm against building a Berlin Wall between the US and Mexico and I'm tired of the US bullying just about every other country in the world.

I am intellectual, politically aware, and sensitive
What I’m doing with my life
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* I'm teaching foreign languages (Spanish, beginning Chinese, and sometimes French or Russian) at a public high school (known as an example of educational reform) in Manhattan. I've also taught Latin to graduate students.
* I just got back from 9 weeks in China, where I was sent on a State Dept. grant to improve my Chinese. I am (maybe) finishing writing a doctoral dissertation in comparative literature after having just finished up a (third) master's degree in Spanish language and culture.
* I've recently gutted and remodeled my kitchen.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
* teaching foreign languages, translating written material
* explaining grammar or spelling confusions
* making a 17-minute flourless chocolate cake
* making food for a party of 20 with a few day's notice
* cutting through the bullshit of an argument if I know the subject matter
* being tactful with important but sensitive communication
* making house guests feel very welcome and comfortable
* organizing/delegating tasks on big projects
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
* I'm tall
* If I'm on the subway, I'm usually reading a book
* I'm kind of intellectual looking
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anna Karenina, Crime and Punishment, Simone de Beauvoir

Films: The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie, Moscow Doesn't Believe in Tears, Te Doy Mis Ojos

Food: mole poblano, Thai Pineapple Rice, golubtsi (stuffed cabbage), roast beef and baked potatoes, garlic green beans, cakes and pies I bake myself, rasberry lime rickies...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* my family and friends
* my job
* television and movies in several languages: ditto my book collection
* my computer, the Internet, e-mail
* good dictionaries
* New York City restaurants and cafes, and the wherewhital to cook whatever I like
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
* my job: my relationships with students, colleagues and administration
* my family
* food: what to cook, what to eat, what not to eat
* health: that I should excerise more, what to eat
* politics: the Presidential elections, the campaign to legalize gay marriage in NYS and to have it recognized nationally
* books, languages I need to maintain or that I'd like to learn
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On Friday night I may meet with a friend for dinner or for a museum visit. However, more commonly, on Friday nights I order in and watch a video, and go to bed early so I can have lots of energy for Saturday and Sunday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a bit of a loner in my private life. In my professional life I meet with people all the time and I'm effective in that. Though I would like to have love and a relationship in my life, I have a lot of older single friends whose lives seem to be going just fine. I'd like to have a relationship -- but so that I can enrich my life and someone else's -- not just to ward off loneliness, which I'm not afraid of.
You should message me if
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* you like foreign languages, international politics, travel, cooking and quiet shared times.
* you like a good conversation more than disco and loud music.
* you're not into drugs, heavy drinking, or other acts of escapism.
* you're NOT a born-again Christian who wants to save my atheist soul.

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