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happy, helpful, and humble

My self-summary Propose an edit

I'm a 34 year old, bisexual male polyamorist in a serious long-term relationship with the girl of my dreams. See my journal for the technical reason to why I am listed as gay.

I'm a little bit of everything, or not much at anything. The entire world is simply too exciting for me to specialize. Still, after years of searching I have found a key to happiness, and that's pretty awesome. My second quest is simply helping out as much as possible.

I think I manage to lead by example rather than judgment, not grabbing more than my part of our planet's resources, giving back to humanity, not being blinded by stereotypes, etc. I'm very curious and open-minded, got plenty of fetishes and interests, yet unfortunately get easily bored with people less so.

I'm still fighting to free my mind from a few culturally and personally inflicted inhibitions. I'm often criticized for taking existence too seriously and life too lightly.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

I think life is doing me, not the other way around. It is simply packed with surprises, great fun, and stunning beauty. I feel almost unbelievably lucky. I have an adorable 10 years old daughter living with me half time and the most desirable and understanding partner imaginable getting ready to live with me full time. I'm friends with everybody, have several jobs that I like, and lots of free time which I mostly spend outdoors, in the kitchen, or out traveling.

Professionally I've been a postal worker, drug smuggler, librarian, 6th grade teacher of math, science, language, and athletics, researcher, receptionist, secretary, editor, foreign investment promoter, business owner, inventor, programmer, designer, copywriter, executive, maid, gardener, accountant, parking enforcement officer, coach, and ombudsperson. My current and most long-last ambition is to become an organic adventure facilitator in the Norwegian forests.

In private I have amongst many things been a child rape victim, second-hand alcoholic, punk, burglar, smoker, drug abuser, runner, skier, surfer, fisherman, best friend, lover, slut, hero, writer, photographer, musician, philosopher, traveler, adventurer, guide, adviser, gourmand, cook, carpenter, hair-dresser, husband, father, happy, suicidal, falsely accused of heinous crimes, plaintiff, defendant, and single parent.

I've studied a little political science at the university, many subjects on the side, and I've laughed and cried from at least 150 novels, 500 movies, 450 albums, and 60 gigs of absolutely all genres. I've slowly soaked in the nature, culture, and people of 135 cities in 23 countries on 3 continents, and I won't own a television.

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

I suck at poetry.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

Do you know you can post links to your other networking sites right in your profile? We'd love to see! Here are some of my favorites:

Variety truly is the spice of life. I like it very hot and succulent, but only slightly carnivorous.

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

  1. fairness and straightforwardness of conduct
  2. firm adherence to a code of moral values
  3. participation in events as a basis of knowledge
  4. undertakings involving danger and unknown risks
  5. the external world in its entirety
  6. the conscious use of skill and creative imagination

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

anthropology, aphrodisia, atheism, back-country skiing, backpacking, ballet, bdsm, bondage, cello, classical music, cooking, diving, environmentalism, erotica, faces, feminism, forests, fruit, geography, golden showers, hands, health, heat, hiking, hips, horses, hot-air ballooning, humanitarianism, ice skating, jazz, kink, landscapes, love, mountains, nature, nudism, pheromones, photography, piano, pornography, rain, rimming, ropes, snorkeling, snow, surfing, swimming, tango, thighs, thunderstorms, traveling, tree-climbing, waves

On a typical Friday night I am Propose an edit

On a typical Friday night I'm walking hand in hand with my spouses, through flowery meadows, hugging under an oak tree while the sun is slowly setting; or sipping Champagne and eating oysters from their salty naked bodies, then bathing them in milk and honey before licking them thoroughly clean; or giving them external and internal massage for hours on end, peaking at us banging so intensely on the wooden floor that we all faint; or going horseback riding with them in our secret primeval forest, so erotic we cannot help but spontaneously merging, right there at the top of the hill, horses watching in awe, ecstatic screams echoing across the valley....

Otherwise I might be doubling up with Hamsun, headbanging Rachmaninoff, or writhing with Jarrett, kneading a sensational dough in the kitchen, having a bath, a shave, a night at the opera, in the garden, the forest, the front row of a movie theater, throwing a dinner party, biking through a foreign city, hiking up a mountain, or something equally typical.

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here Propose an edit

I'm a giver, not a taker, and I'm not possessive. I've been voluntarily celibate for several periods up to 7 years long throughout my life, but I've always masturbated or had sex 1-5 times a day. I love porn, both watching and creating. I fantasize about polyfidelity, but have just entered into a new significant relationship, and whether we choose to stay monogamous or not remains to explore. I have never cheated and never will, but I don't mind at all if you do.

I've been in 2 very fulfilling monogamous relationships lasting 3 years each. I've also been in 4 shorter relationships, had the perfect fuck-buddy, and a pitiful one night stand. That's 8 safe sex, plus 5 somewhat sexual, and 11 asexual dates. I've secretly dated 5 married women and one single man.

I prefer to be around rather androgynous people. General compatibility, unbound intimacy, mutual trust, respect, and great kinky sex, are all obligatory for my relationships to work in the long run. I've been the bad, bad dumper 9 times.

You should message me if Propose an edit

Please drop me a line if you would like to meet me, or if you know me in real life; it's only polite!

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lapjaz: 2600 questions

Ethnicity
White
Height
6' 0" (1.83m).
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Capricorn but it doesn't matter
Education
Dropped out of college/university
Job
Other
Income
$60,000-$70,000
Kids
Has 1 child
Pets
Dislikes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Norwegian (Fluently), Danish (Fluently), Swedish (Fluently), Other (Okay)

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