are you my sweetheart?! i have been patiently awaiting you!! (or
maybe not so patiently!)
if *all three* of these apply to you:
1. you are ready for long-term love, partnership and family.
2. you express openly and honestly your desires, thoughts, needs,
boundaries, fears, concerns... and especially your love.
3. you have a healthy spirit.
like, no kidding, i will not be happy in a relationship with you if
those three things are not true about you. no hurt intended, i just
know who i need and know that he is out there looking for me
**signs that i look for when considering these: STABILITY.
RESPONSIBILITY. AUTHENTICITY. SELF-MOTIVATION. CONFIDENCE.
OPENNESS. AFFECTION. SELF-EXPRESSION. DEEP HONESTY. PEACEFULNESS.
HAPPINESS. LOVINGNESS. RESPECT. HEALTH. DECISIVENESS. CLARITY.
HONOR. INTEGRITY. and no, this is not too much to ask for if YOU
are right for ME. thank you for your attention to this. i am
looking for you, my love! eager to finally meet you!**
it would be super exciting if:
you love music
you are open-minded.
you are in touch with your culture
.. and your nature.
you love your family.
you are comfortable with yourself.
you are independent.
you love babies.
you love kids.
you are romantic
you are affectionate.
you are open
you are talented.
you are passionate.
you have a healthy sex drive.
you know tantra or are open to it.
you are interesting.. and interested.
you are curious
especially about yourself.
you ask questions.
you are full of surprises.
you do not get bored.
you are pansexual or appreciate the use of such a term.
you are literate.
you take care of yourself.
you want to love me. :)
you are positive.
you are encouraging.
you are comforting.
you know who you are.
you are in constant inquiry with yourself.
you know what you want.. what you are committed to.
you like to cuddle
you are considerate.
you are respectful.
you are efficient with and respectful of time and energy.
you love raw
you eat organic
you hug people hard because it feels so yummy!
you know what im talking about. :)
i recently realized that it might be beneficial to have a "you
should NOT message me if" list.
so here it is...
and FYI, some of these criteria are very important, even though i
have nothing against people who DO fit these descriptions. i just
know what i need in a potential partner to be happy and healthy,
and would like to NOT waste our time or create unnecessary hurts. i
am healing from things in my life, and i know what i need to
continue to feel good.
ok, so... I would prefer that you not message me if:
you are turned off by my "message me if" list.
you say things like "you're gay" as an insult.
you try to convince people to have sex w you.
you have a violent temper.
you call people Mexican just because they speak Spanish (and you
you get drunk more than once a month (this will not be good for
you regularly eat at fast-food restaurants like Burger King and
Subway (this will also not be good for me).
you don't throw away your trash.
you laugh when someone gets hurt (am i too sensitive?).
you honk at people when their car breaks down and they are blocking
you are not planning on having a family soon.
you are not open to a polyamorous relationship.
you are passionate about your organized religion.
you are just looking for a good fuck.
you are not similar to me in lifestyle at all, yet want to date me
because you think i would make your life better.
you put people in a box.
you don't want to hear what i really think and feel. (i.e. you will
likely get defensive if i say something you take as
you watch CNN or FOX News for actual news.
you are an addict or alcoholic who has been sober less than 6
you overeat every day.
you are over 20 lbs overweight (no offense.. i love many people
dearly, no matter their size. i just already have enough goin on w
me and my eating issues).
you prefer to live alone.
you don't like dogs.
you don't exercise.
you are hesitant to email me.
you don't like to kiss in public.
you smoke weed constantly (this will not be good for me, nope
you are full of excuses.
you complain a lot.
you don't read.
you think that sex follows making-out every time.
you rarely go outside.
you don't have a passport and you don't want one.
you don't say anything when you feel upset by something.
you watch TV for hours every day.
you are passive aggressive.
you don't make changes in yourself when you notice things aren't
working how you would like them to.
if you read all of this and are smiling... please message me
i love people and relationships.. yes, very much.
so i am here.
i do want to build a family
my heart is open.