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laughing_sailor

54 M San Pedro, CA

I’m looking for

  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 26–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 27
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Construction
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.

I am a naturally active, happy guy who loves puns, squirt guns and outdoor adventures. I am an independent intellectual and a non-judgemental atheist. My tastes range from good opera to hole in the wall restaurants. I am a good, creative cook and love picnics. Sailing, the tropics and travel are central to my life.

I am looking for a partner in life who is insatiably curious, kind, passionate and sensual - One who wants me as I do her; together, live our dreams and take that daily care that's needed to keep our love strong.

I have written two tests: The Sailing Compatibility Test and the Are You An Adventurous Woman Test. Try them - You may like them and you just might find the results interesting! If you go to the bottom (literally) of my journal, you'll find a companion article to my Sailing Compatibility Test on how to start sailing on a shoestring, have a great time, avoid common problems and get connected to a local sailing community.

"May the sun shine kindly on your face and the warm wind at your back not be your own." - Ed Koepsel

"Wish I said that." "But you will, Oscar, you will." - Monty Python parody of Oscar Wilde/Bernard Shaw conversation.



I am enthusiastic, com&passionate, and playful
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.

While working towards my long-term goal of cruising and documenting the tropics, I am focusing on a balanced life and things that make me happy.

In addition to long-term cruising, I have some seriously cool short and medium-term adventures I'll tell you about over coffee.

I regularly enjoy sailing, diving, picnics, museums, ski trips, hikes and stargazing, as well as walks on the beach and to no place in particular. I am am in shape and working, of course. Good work, though - I've been busted whistling while I work!

 

Work update: I have just earned my first (50 ton) commercial captain's license (There's a zillion certificates that all require classes.)! and am marketing my high-quality instructional boating movies, as well as myself and a friend's business. I'm writing and lecturing more every month. It's a fascinating time with a lot to keep on top of (I like to think of it as herding cats.) and it's coming together, my herd of cats at least walking in the right direction and not hissing at each other.

I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.

Carrying stuff - Packs, groceries, trash, scuba gear and (most) girls before tossing them on a bed. I enjoy chivalry and often tell a manager how well I have been treated by someone.

Outdoor sports (skiing (downhill, cross-country and water), cycling (Wanna go for a pleasant ride?), water sports), computer art (I have stuff on permanent display in a museum - Ooh, aah!), designing and building fine, solid wood cabinetry and teaching. I get a kick out of seeing someone gain insights and am a very good listener.

The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My laughing baby-blue eyes, shiny bald pate, goofy smile, extra-flavorful food and genuine, welcoming nature. If they are listening, my puns and intellect.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: A Canticle For Leibowitz, Walter M. Miller, Jr. (Probably the best-written I have read.); Tales of a Shaman's Apprentice, Mark J. Plotkin; A Fish Caught in Time, Samantha Weinberg; Captain Sir Richard Francis Burton, Edward Rice; K2-The Savage Mountain, Charles S. Houston and Robert H. Bates; The Forever War, Joe Haldeman; Lazy B, Sandra Day O'Connor; In A Sunburned Country, Bill Bryson.

Movies: The Seven Samurai, Akira Kurosawa; Augirre, The Wrath of God, Warner Herzog; The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Phil Kaufman; Snatch, Guy Ritchie; Bladerunner, Ridley Scott; The Last of the Mohicans, Daniel Day Lewis; Men In Black, Barry Sonnenfeld; Pride and Prejudice, Simon Langton; Young Frankenstein, Mel Brooks and Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Monty Python.

Music: Too many artists to mention - Usually early new wave, fusion and straight ahead jazz, latin (I'm a sucker for flamenco guitar.) and 70s rock. In addition, good opera, D'Oily Carte, much that's classical, good blues, some punk/grunge, very little rap (nothing negative) and absolutely nothing country or religious.

Foods: I like many ethnic foods but am, unfortunately, American in that I won't eat most organs, unidentifiable slimy things, kava (the horror, the horror) or monkey.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

Draped over the bow, drinking our first coffee at dawn, with dolphins cavorting, splashing our dangling feet.

Lying on the sand together while snorkeling in absolutely clear water in a large hole in a beautiful coral reef; several schools of hundreds of small, brightly colored fish swimming above, tumbled together by a breaking swell, the sun glinting off their colors, reforming into their separate schools for it to happen all over again over us; blowing air rings through the fish, laughing and kissing with each dive until we have to break for air.

Swooping down a steep bowl with deep, fluffy, really light powder; that delicious pressure through the turn, sinking deep with it building on my chest 'till the snow packs the goggles, when suddenly it's off and the sun's bright and I'm launched flying, making perfect, huge 8's with my partner's track, just a turn behind, flying through her powder trail - a sparkling, rainbow veil in the air.

Sailing downwind on a hot day with that very slow rocking and thrust as each swell passes under the boat, a gentle breeze, the huge, colorful gennaker (sail) up and breathing with each swell, naked with a pretty girl, sliced juicy ripe fruit, cold wine and fruity rum drinks and smiling contentment oozing from every pore.

Lying in zipped-together sleeping bags in a desert, with a red flashlight, star chart and astronomy book, looking at shooting stars and that inky deep purple-blue with that profusion of stars you only see away from the sky glow, fragrant woodsmoke from the campfire lightly permeating everything and lots of oohs and aahs and slow, delicious making out.

Sailing fast upwind, with drinks and snacks served, guests new to sailing so excited at it all, when a tuna hits the lure and the reel is screaming out, the heavy trolling pole is bent right over and we have to reduce sail NOW to land the fish and the wasabe's behind the spices, not in the fridge and everyone's laughing and babbling at it all, so wonderfully unexpected.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Who I am going to do what really cool ocean, mountain or desert adventure with and with what food - I know some breathtakingly beautiful places I'd love to share with someone. What joints should I use in my woodworking project and how can I best do it? How would that song sound transcribed for saxophone? What's a good prank to play on my sailing buddy? I think of work when I'm there and leave it there.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Laughing with friends, BBQing off Santa Monica, under sail - Barking at the seals, maybe whistling at some dolphins, watching the sunset, stars and the lights of LA and hopefully cuddling under lots of blankets with hot mulled wine on the way back, trailing a phosphorescent wake.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't like selling - Constantly dealing with people's lies sucks.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.

You like these kinds of active adventures, are sensual, playful, kind, naturally happy and laugh easily. Bonus for wanderlust, tropical and ocean cravings. Super Bonus for active personality. Although I do like lazy days, I am incompatible with couch potatoes and can't abide drugs, addictions or people playing mind games or being fake.

I am looking for:

  1. A partner for my lifelong travel adventures. If not, then
  2. Some fun dates (Isn't that how it all starts?) or a partner for my next big trip. And always
  3. Sailing friends and
  4. Penpals