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My details

Last online
Jul 20
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
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I'm a 32 year old charity manager-cum-author-cum-semi-professional musician. I think friends would describe me as clever, funny and slightly bumbling. I'm optimistic that I'm a basically decent human being. I'm quite good at writing in general but apparently awful when it comes to summarising myself.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm the manager of an advice and advocacy service for a disability charity. I'm also a non-fiction author. My first book - on the history of Father Christmas and his links to dark and gruesome European folktales - was published in 2013 and I'm currently researching a new book on the history of the undead.

I'm also a musician and perform in one band as well as writing, programming and producing for another. One of the bands has played the Latitude Festival and South Bank Centre whilst the other has featured on the Festive Fifty and been favourably written about in the Times. We've also played gigs supporting Summer Camp at the Islington Assembly Hall and at the Olympic Park to promote better access to live music for disabled people.

I've also got into running this year and am currently training for the Bristol Half-Marathon.

I'm also trying to travel more. Last year I made it to Austria and Romania for the first-time and I'm thinking of new places to visit...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Remembering obscure facts and trivia - I've been a contestant on Pointless, once had a wall I submitted for Only Connect published on the BBC and I'm pretty decent in a pub quiz.

I like to think I'm a decent conversationalist too.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I can be a bit loud and gregarious. It's probably that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Film-wise, I've a soft spot for an eighties blockbuster - Gremlins, Back to the Future. Ghostbusters etc. and also love Groundhog Day, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind and pretty much any film that uses a science-fiction or fantasy twist to delve into the human psyche.

I read a wide range of books. I really love history books on unusual subjects (examples being books on the history of duelling, the history of anarchism and how the Girl Guides helped win the Second World War). I also enjoy books on psychology and human behaviour - I'm a big fan of Daniel Kahneman and Richard Wiseman, for example. Fiction-wise, I'm a big fan of the Sherlock Holmes and Jeeves & Wooster books whilst Kurt Vonnegut Jr is probably my favourite author.

I don't watch as much TV as I once did but I watch Sherlock, The Apprentice and Doctor Who and various friends of mine have coaxed me into watching things like Brian Pern: A Life in Rock and Toast of London. I can also get glued to The Great British Bake-Off and Come Dine With Me if I start watching them and Don't Tell the Bride is something of a guilty pleasure! My favourite TV show ever is Buffy the Vampire Slayer. I once had an academic essay on the show published in a book in the US, which I sort of think should really be in the "most private thing you're willing to admit" section...

I don't go to the theatre as often as I'd like but I've a friend who gets me cheap tickets for things so I've seen a few players in the last year - The Duck House. Jeeves & Wooster, The 39 Steps plus a play about Christine Keeler (not the Lloyd Webber one about her) and Man to Man, which was incredibly powerful.

I could go into a ridiculously long list of music I like but bands I liked growing up that I'm still a fan of include Suede, Pulp, Hefner, Nick Cave and Elliott Smith. Momus is probably my favourite songwriter ever whilst more recent music I enjoy includes Owen Pallett, Sufjan Stevens and The Indelicates. I also really enjoy a well-put together pop song and find certain Girls Aloud and Justin Timberlake songs to be utterly incredible. SexyBack is my go-to karaoke song incidentally.

Food-wise, I'll eat pretty much anything but really like Tapas, Turkish and Indian food. And Italian. And French. Malaysian or Thai. And indeed pretty much any cuisine in the world. I have an allergy to avocados. Don't worry if that doesn't sound like a real thing - even as someone who has it, I still find it a bit unconvincing.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1.Something to think about.
2. A creative project to work on.
3. Somebody to speak to.
4. A mobile phone.
5. My laptop.
6. Some work I could be getting on with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
It really depends on what I'm writing but I do seem to spend far too much time thinking about and researching how popular fairytales and children's characters have origins far, far darker than most people realise...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I've not had a 'typical' Friday night for ages! My last five Fridays have been:

1. A quiet Christmas drink with my brother and his wife whilst parents looked after my nephew.
2. A drunken Christmas party with some ex-colleagues from my previous job.
3. Promoting and playing at a Christmas gig.
4. Being in Salzburg watching people dress up as a strange midwinter monster called the Krampus and attack passers-by with sticks.
5.Staying at home and having a curry.

It all really depends on the week though...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a bit rubbish at online dating. Basically I get confused when people I don't know start sending me messages, which is a bit silly given that's obviously the entire point. I think I do a decent job of not letting it show though. Except when I write things like this obviously!
You should message me if
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You're willing to be sympathetic toward the above-mentioned confusion. Or better still ignore it entirely...