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44 Todmorden, UK Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 40–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 3:53am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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My friend summed me up to some people at a wedding by saying ‘she likes pencils, fruit and maps’. It’s true, I do. But I also like other things too…I like to balance frenetic activity with staring vaguely at the wall. Mooching, wandering and people watching. Looking at old buildings and trying to work out their history. Clouds over hills – that sort of thing. Generally, my aim in life is to perfect the art of being a flâneur.

I love Art History - off the top of my head... Simone Martini, gothic architecture, Manet, Caravaggio, ....oh, all sorts really. Realise there is nothing particularly modern here - I do find it interesting and absorbing, but my real passion is the earlier stuff. Always happy in a gallery or generally looking at stuff.

I like walking, and always want to see what is round the next corner, which hopefully will be a café or pub. Also I generally believe a walk isn't really a walk until you wish you'd turned back 10 minutes ago. Though this might sometimes happen after 10 minutes. It’s important to mention that, much as I love being out on a hill, my capacity for long hikes has diminished a bit & I walk with a stick. It’s a marvellous maplewood stick which complements most outfits, but a stick it is nonetheless. I will not be joining you on a marathon.

I'm a reasonable cook, usually of the 'throw it in and see what happens' variety. I generally eat healthy food, but would happily die face down in a big plate of dauphinoise potatoes. Or crème anglaise. And I’ve hit a baking patch at the moment, so in reality claims of healthy living are a slight exaggeration.

I have woolly liberal, left of Labour, green political inclinations. Yes, I recycle. Yes, the Guardian comments pages make me angry. Yes, I want to punch George Osborne.
I have very strong opinions about inconsequential things (like which side of a crumpet you toast first) but am better able to hold a balanced viewpoint on the important stuff. And I hate smileys. I've used them twice, and feel compromised and slightly tainted.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm living somewhere which simultaneously is in the middle of nowhere and the centre of the universe. I really like it here. I'm trying, and failing, to get my house and garden in shape. I have grand plans for vegetables which are still unfulfilled.
I work in a museum and spend a lot of my time trawling through stuff, researching, and looking at photography. It's good.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Buying cheese. Procrastinating. Listening. Talking rubbish (when the mood takes me). Arranging articles of minimal value into pleasing arrangements (well, they please me). Lighting fires. Being curious. Being friendly. Doodling. Being nice to cats.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I really have no idea.

Other people’s observations put to the test.
1) My brother asked whether I could speak without moving my hands. We experimented, and the answer was shown to be no, not really. I do quite a lot of expressive arm waving when enthusiastic. Or when explaining something slightly complicated. Or just generally really.
2) One of my friends pointed out that it is usually possible for people to walk and talk at the same time. We established that no, it isn’t. Well, I can’t anyway. I grind to a halt, and wave my arms about.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Not fond of big lists to sum me up really, as I always end up going 'oh I forgot about that'. And it feels like a school holiday essay. I like to think my taste is eclectic. It's probably not. And I read quite a bit for work, so home reading goes in patches.
My favourite authors are George Orwell (more for the essays than fiction...but I want to go to to the top of Jura where he wrote 1984 and look at the sea), Primo Levi. Wolf Hall - I thought it was astonishing, and liked Bring up the Bodies nearly as much. Short stories are my favourite...Maupassant, Chekov, Helen Simpson etc etc. And 19th C French novels...Balzac especially. I'm hoarding 2 Fred Vargas novels, a graphic novel called 'Here', a book about the colour green in art, couple of back issues of the LRB.

Music - all sorts except heavy metal and really really cheesy pop. Generally choose indie, world, old soul. Happy to hear other people's favourites, as I don't get to hear enough new stuff beyond occassional immersion in 6 music.

Films and TV. Got rid of the telly, but use the i-player. Look for arts programmes, decent comedy and good chunky drama series like The Killing, The Wire, am going to start on Spiral soon, although the best stuff I've seen recently is the Alec Guiness 'Tinker Tailor' and 'Smiley's People'. Like independent and classic cinema.

And now I have run out of steam...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Cherries in season, friends, old fashioned tea shops and greasy spoons (that’s one), blue cheese, weather (in all its variety), time by myself.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My favourite involves food, drink, chat either in or out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a terrible habit of skipping ahead while reading, and have been known to do this while reading a 15 page short story. This probably indicates a serious character flaw, or perhaps an aversion to delayed gratification. Anyway, it’s bad, and I know it’s bad. you know.
You should message me if
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you feel like it.