One of the most useful concepts in "dating" and many other endeavors:
It means "you can find but cannot seek." I am still seeking but I try to keep and open mind and recognize the importance of random chance and the potential of unknown unknowns.
I have "interests" that I get "obsessively" into for a while (usually years). Eventually I become less "fixated" on an interest and move on to new ones, though I usually keep up some level of involvement with prior interests. That said, time is a factor, and I now remember little about dinosaurs which fascinated me 30 years ago. Maybe everyone is like this to a degree but friends tell me that my level of fixation high.
Recent interests include:
China,Chinese language and identity
language ideology/ linguistic anthropology
all things Burma / Myanmar
--- especially မႏၱေလး the city of Mandalay
BDSM ( I am very kinky. I do not really do vanilla only)
VIX and VIX based ETNs and ETFs (VXX, XIV)
I'll show you mine if you'll show me yours. These are the things I am thinking about. Given an interested listener I will talk about them endlessly. But I also want to listen and learn from you, if you too have interests. Your interests need not be the same as mine. In fact, it is better if they aren't, since I look forward to learning what you know.