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34 M Porto, Portugal

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:01pm
5′ 10″ (1.77m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
More than $1,000,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Thai (Poorly), Other (Okay)

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My self-summary
I am seeing someone now in Beijing. She is a wonderful woman I met here on OKcupid. But fear not, she is cool and much cooler than conventional ideas of monogamy. Thus I am still available, and not just for weddings, bar mitzvahs and graduations. If you are so inclined we might be friends or play partners. Just so it is clear, I like my play to include safe words.


我现在跟我在OKcupid上认识的一个女人交往, 但是我们对男女关系的态度较重视自由。那么,我还可以与其他女孩交往成为朋友或者玩伴。想知道我喜欢什么样的朋友或者喜欢怎么玩请看资料下面那一段中文。


One of the most useful concepts in "dating" and many other endeavors:


It means "you can find but cannot seek." I am still seeking but I try to keep and open mind and recognize the importance of random chance and the potential of unknown unknowns.

I have "interests" that I get "obsessively" into for a while (usually years). Eventually I become less "fixated" on an interest and move on to new ones, though I usually keep up some level of involvement with prior interests. That said, time is a factor, and I now remember little about dinosaurs which fascinated me 30 years ago. Maybe everyone is like this to a degree but friends tell me that my level of fixation high.

Recent interests include:

China,Chinese language and identity
language ideology/ linguistic anthropology
all things Burma / Myanmar
--- especially မႏၱေလး the city of Mandalay
political economy
BDSM ( I am very kinky. I do not really do vanilla only)
VIX and VIX based ETNs and ETFs (VXX, XIV)

I'll show you mine if you'll show me yours. These are the things I am thinking about. Given an interested listener I will talk about them endlessly. But I also want to listen and learn from you, if you too have interests. Your interests need not be the same as mine. In fact, it is better if they aren't, since I look forward to learning what you know.
What I’m doing with my life
Making my own history, just not under conditions of my own choosing. One thing today and another tomorrow, hunting in the morning, fishing in the afternoon, rearing cattle in the evening, criticizing after dinner, just as I have a mind, without ever becoming hunter, fisherman, herdsman or critic.

Walking among the fires of hell, delighting in the enjoyments of genius there which to Angels look like torment and insanity.

Weaving slightly altered quotes into my profile to see if anyone picks up on them. (Hint, hint!)
Reading - Writing - Researching
Enjoying Kink
Making the rounds:

Beijing 北京
Hong Kong 香港
Yunnan 昆明、腾冲、瑞丽
Yangon ရန္ကုန္
Mandalay မႏၱေလး
South Florida
I’m really good at
RACK/SSC Really I am more RACK than SSC
power exchange
Being GGG
impact play (especially single tails)
The first things people usually notice about me
that stuff I keep sniffing
the dog hair
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Gee, James Paul. 1999.
An Introduction to Discourse Analysis: Theory and Method

Fillmore, Charles. 1975.
“An Alternative to Checklist Theories of Meaning.”

Silverstein, Michael. 1976.
Shifters, Linguistic Categories and Cultural Description.

Bakhtin, Voloshinov, Bourdieu, Raymond Williams, Erving Goffman, Borges, Bukowski, 老舍, Amitav Ghosh's The Glass Palace

In my personality section I am listed as less well read. That is both true and false. I am less well read when it comes to most popular fiction (though I have read all of Kurt Vonnegut's oeuvre) and popular non-fiction. But I am extremely well read in my academic interests and political and economic affairs. In fact I probably spend more time reading than I do sleeping.

Brazil; No Country for Old Men; A Serious Man; The Good, the Bad and the Ugly; Breaker Morant; This is Spinal Tap; Team America World Police; American Beauty, Dr. Strangelove, A Clockwork Orange, Taxi Driver, The Searchers, 卡拉是一条狗, Ride the High Country, Magnolia

Mor-lam หมอลำ and Luk-thung ลูกทุ่ง
(NE Thai/Lao music styles; Jintara Poonlarp, Rock Salang ... etc.)

(Los Tigres del Norte, Chalino Sanchez, Ramon Alyala, Raza Obrera, Enigma Norteño, Los Neuveos Rebeldes ... etc)

Bluegrass and related
(Stanley Brothers, Bill Monroe, Carter Family, The Blue Sky Boys, Jimmie Rodgers etc)

Classic Rock, Blues, (older) Country
(Led Zeppelin, Rolling Stones, Grateful Dead, Robert Johnson, Lead Belly, David Allen Coe, Merle Haggard)

Reggae, Ska, Rock Steady (Peter Tosh, Desmond Dekker, Bongo Man Byfield)

Soukous (Tabu Ley Rochereau, Kanda Bongo Man)

I do not intentionally eat land animals, but sea creatures - for the most part -need be more wary.

sushi, Thai food, Burmese food, many styles of Chinese food (山西面食、素食的重庆火锅、北京的炸酱面、饺子、炒菜等), Italian and Mexican food

(the important category or 何以解优, 唯有杜康):

Stranahans Colorado Whiskey
Louis Jadot Beaujolais-Villages
Beers (Guinness, Singh, everything but 澜沧江啤酒)
Ya-dong (
The six things I could never do without
豆豆 the cutest dog in the world
female subs
La Parranda
intellectual interaction
hedonistic pleasures
My quirt collection
A well balanced single tail
(I thought nine was more 吉利)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
1. epistemology

2. kinky sex, this stuff takes planning you know

3. Sino-Myanmar relations တရုုတ္ကဖိ ရွမ္းကအိ ရွိသည့္ဗမာအေနာက္မွာ

4. VIX futures term structure

5. dogs (NOT in the context of 2, but sometimes in relation to 1)

6. intertextuality

7. how to think with more processes and fewer objects

8. how hidden assumptions shape who we are and what we do

9. Why are there no options on here for looking for formal sex or new enemies?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I had cooties as a child.

My listed age is not my biological age, but worry not I am over 21.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You are interesting and interested in something (those usually go together) and might like to get to know someone else who is too.

You are both smart and kinky or at least open to becoming smart and kinky, and you have sense of humor.

你很聪明并喜欢玩虐恋 (SM/kink),或者你想变成一个很聪明并喜欢虐恋的人,而且你最好也有幽默感。

And/or after reading my profile you can't help but mutter to yourself:

"Verweile doch, du bist so schön!"