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lestery

46 / M / straight / Single

London, United Kingdom

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 10" (1.77m).
Body Type
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Scorpio but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Kids
Pets
Languages
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay)

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I am curious, open-minded, and amusing.

My Self-Summary

Right. I like all the usual stuff. All those things you like. And I do all those things too. The ones you do. The normal ones. But you want more detail, right?
I value people who hold onto their craziness.
I have a generally positive view of mankind. I like most of us.
I like meeting new people, perhaps especially the random ones. I've made very good friends in cafes and on trains.
I like people who can talk about everything, ideally being silly about clever things and clever about silly ones.
I read a fair amount though less than before. I now buy more books than I can read, which is stupid, but I expect to keep doing it.
I love travelling, reading, films, art, the sea, food from places I've never been to, all that usual stuff that we all like.
I hardly ever watch TV. I have one bit it hasn't been plugged in for months. I'm thinking of putting it under the stairs. Unless you want it.
I'm rediscovering long walks. Part of my attempt to avoid the damn tube as much as possible.
I've lived in a fair few places - US and China for longest - so I guess I have a global take on the world. I keep a connection to the places I've lived. That sense of awareness of a lot of the planet and not just one corner of it is important to me.
I used to love travelling alone but now I prefer doing it with someone.

What I’m doing with my life

Getting as much out of it as I can. Stalling. Getting out and doing stuff.

I’m really good at

Cripes. Talking I guess. Procrastination. Being consistently 10 minutes late. Being a good friend. Finding new restaurants, films, art, music, etc.

The first things people usually notice about me

I need a haircut. My accent.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

WG Sebald, Jane Austen, Philip Roth, Paul Muldoon, JG Ballard, Penelope Fitzgerald. Lots. Of course I read silly books and detective novels too. In fact that's largely what I read. But I like to forget what they are so I can keep reading them again. So before I could list some I'd have to walk over to look at the bookshelf to see what they are and, well, I can't be bothered.

All kinds of music. Alt-rock of all kinds from the 80s on. Folk. Jazz. Baroque and modern classical. Country. Old soul and funk. Bach and Shostakovich, Sonic Youth and PJ Harvey, The Dubliners and Johnny Cash, Curtis Mayfield and Etta James, Billie Holiday and Peggy Lee, Miles Davis and Duke Ellington.

Food. Everything from everywhere. If I've never had it before I want to try it. Now.

For film I'm more arthouse than hollywood. I can watch a good car chase or even a cartoon but you're most likely to find me at curzon soho. But at least I'm embarrassed about that. I really have to watch more schlock.

The six things I could never do without

Friends, family, music, my f***ing computer, a notebook to scribble in, surprises.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Punctuation, especially semi-colons and dashes.

On a typical Friday night I am

Either out at 2am in a new bar I've just discovered with a bunch of crazy people, having dinner with a few friends, or at home with a book and a whisky.

You should message me if

You're bored. You have a general interest in the arts. You're curious. You think once in a while. You'd like a good chat.