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43 Melbourne, Australia Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 36–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 27
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them

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My self-summary
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When I was a child I wanted to be a radio announcer: I thought people squeezed into the radio every morning, then grew again every night. these days i like to have more space to move in.

I live in Castlemaine (an arty Goldfields town) and work in Melbourne (research, film-making community projects) -a foot in the city & the country. I am recovering from finishing a phd in documentary making and am wondering what to embark on next ... Learn a language? read two books a week, devote more time to writing about things that make me hot (either angry, gob-smacked or in love)?. I adore shared projects, riotous conversation and expanding possibilities. I am a talker and a listener and spend a lot of time yarning about gender politics, food, racism, interpersonal nuances and films.

Please don't contact me if you are polyamorous, or looking for casual sex. I'm looking for a significant connection with someone like-minded, who values heart and intellect in equal parts.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
making documentaries
working in a social justice/semi legal area
getting hot under the collar & mouthy about racism & police bogans
thinking about other things i'd like to make & write
cooking with herbs from my garden and gleaned from friends
renovating my house slowly
having rowdy conversations about art, life, desire and important and non important things
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
putting together words and images
coming up with exciting projects with other people
having conversations and really listening
being a friend
thinking on my toes
wriggling my ears
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
ability to really listen
talent for spinning a good story
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Grey Gardens (doco)
mystery train
Samson & delilah
you & me & everyone we know
tarkovsky movies
Withnail & i
La Jettee,
The Tall Man Death & Life on Palm island
In Treatment
Zadie Smith
The poetry of Charles Simic
Griffith review
Food: mainly vietnamese & japanese inspired and fresh vegetables and fruit. Love cooking
Music: Gil Scott Heron, Feist, M. Ward, Smog, Cat Power, Ryan Adams, Rokia Traore, Anouar Brahem
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
eros in all its varieties
energetic interchanges with other people
making things
fabulous dinners at home
space to stretch and dance
i know that's more than six, but i'm greedy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what i'm going to cook
Films i've seen & films i might like to make
Critical ideas & things i'd like to change in the world
Social justice, racism ,human rights
art, design, visual stuff
everything, actually
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No typical friday night -depends how i'm feeling & what's inviting
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sometimes i eat chicken soup for breakfast
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are warm hearted, imaginative and value both playful and serious conversation. Thinkers and buoyant communicators welcome. Note: I am not interested in casual sex. I'm not looking for someone 20 years younger or 20 years older. And I don't engage with one line messages. i'm here to connect with someone I have something in common with (head & heart wise plus chemistry). If you think we could discuss movies or the state of the world over a cuppa I'd love to hear from you.