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44 Melbourne, Australia Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 36–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Mostly vegetarian
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
My self-summary
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When I was a child I wanted to be a radio announcer: I thought people squeezed into the radio every morning, then grew again every night. these days i like to have more space to move in.

I live in Castlemaine (an arty Goldfields town) and work in Melbourne (research, film-making community projects) -a foot in the city & the country. I adore shared projects, riotous conversation and expanding possibilities.

I'm looking for a connection with someone like-minded of a similar age, who values heart and intellect in equal parts. I also want to have a child. A willingness to accommodate this in some way is essential!

I'm a secular humanist who enjoys debating/exploring philosophical and psychological questions. Religious doctrine is something I find troubling -I don't want to share my beloved with Jesus or Allah. I do value aspects of Buddhism but would describe myself as practical rather than spiritual. I'm also more interested in talking about a film, an intriguing piece of art or the government's inhumanity to asylum seekers rather than the havoc we are inflicting on the environment.
What I’m doing with my life
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Making some wicking beds in the garden
eating marscapone, rose-water, honey & ground pistachio on fruit toast
thinking through the narrative curve-balls life throws up
looking at art and design books
hankering after a great movie viewing experience
making 3 commissioned short films about identity and belonging
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
putting together words and images
coming up with exciting projects with other people
having conversations and really listening
being a friend
thinking on my toes
wriggling my ears
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
ability to really listen
talent for spinning a good story
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Grey Gardens (doco)
mystery train
Samson & delilah
you & me & everyone we know
tarkovsky movies
Withnail & i
La Jettee,
The Tall Man Death & Life on Palm island
In Treatment
Zadie Smith
The poetry of Charles Simic
Griffith review
Food: mainly vietnamese & japanese inspired and fresh vegetables and fruit. Love cooking
Music: Gil Scott Heron, Feist, M. Ward, Smog, Cat Power, Ryan Adams, Rokia Traore, Anouar Brahem
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Reflective, wide ranging, critical conversations
Shared dinners (its lovely cooking for and with someone)
Eros in all its varieties
Imagination & the creative impulse
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what i'm going to cook
Films i've seen & films i might like to make
Critical ideas & things i'd like to change in the world
Social justice, racism, gender politics human rights
art, design, visual stuff
everything, actually
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No typical friday night -depends how i'm feeling & what's inviting
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not especially private. But at the moment I'm angry about casual misogynism, bad films and people with poor interpersonal skills.
You should message me if
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You value an open heart and intellect in equal measure, are curious about the world, empathetic, playful and a genuinely interested in a relationship. And we have some common interests. Please don't contact me if you are in an open relationship, a polyamorous relationship or are 15 years older or younger. Very happy to have friendships with any age, but am looking for someone my own age for a romance.