Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy

lightness_weight

26 Brooklyn, NY Transmasculine, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Transgender

Transmasculine, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Transgender

Similar users

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Queer, Homoflexible
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Drinks
Socially
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Status
Single
Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Speaks
English, Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i'm a femme, radical, ftm genderqueer transfag. (they/them plz). i'm really hoping to make more queer, trans, and politically like-minded friends/find community here. i'm the kind of boy who'd rather meet you at a lecture than a club. punk shows are a happy medium.

i'm queer as fuck and into the whole spectrum of gender expressions/identities/bodies.

i'm interested in seeking varying forms of connection/intimacy with more than one person which is a fancy way of saying i'm non-monogamous. it is not a fancy way of saying i'm flaky or unaccountable. i'm trying to learn to cultivate more permeable bounds between my friendships and romantic relationships; we'll see how it goes.

i'm pretty introverted and ridiculously shy. v. tender. infj.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
currently taking a break from academia; trying to figure out what i want to do next.
in the meanwhile, i'm a top-knotch latte slinger, i'm starting a shitty punk band with my friends, i'm doing some creative non-fiction type writing, and i'm looking for more queer activist work to do
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
cooking you breakfast.
making coffee.
being big spoon.
feelings.
adapting.
cooking you dinner.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
running/working out, books i can hold in my hands, my bike
well that's three...
i don't think there's a lot i really couldn't do without though
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
gender. feminism. (anti)racism. (anti)capitalism. sex (positivity). critical trans politics. how much i hate mainstream assimilationist gay/trans politics. prison abolition (as lived daily practice, as utopian future). queer spirituality. femme identity. transmisogyny.

lately: how to meaningfully reject success narratives while still navigating(/surviving) neoliberal capitalism (if i had a slogan for this it would be something along the lines of "how to be as punk as my politics"), the costs of inclusion and visibility, radicalism and loneliness, anxiety and identity formation
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
if you want to hang out in person. if you're sassy. if you're cute.
if you're queer; especially queer punks. if you're any kind of genderfuck.
if you're also both queer&trans/gnc (trans men, trans women, trans folx of all kinds) ... i think trans folks getting together is like one of the most beautiful things in the world and i'm super into it.
if you're a power bottom. (definitely not a requirement, but it's something i tend to like)
if you're a hard femme. hard femmes make me swoon.
if you have radical politics... but like actually radical politics none of that neoliberal bullshit.
if you're feminist, anti-racist, anti-capitalist, and generally anti-oppression (a list of these things will never be exhaustive which is frustrating in itself, but i feel compelled to explicitly mention anti-ableism, anti-fatphobia) //don't tolerate racist, (trans)misogynist, and classist behaviors//are open to working together on being better about these things
if you think we'd make rad friends.

also, in the effort of full-disclosure:
i'm really bad about messaging people back; plz don't take it personally it usually is just a matter of how busy i am and how little emotional/physical energy i have for okcupid-ing. i try to communicate meaningfully when i can.