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48 M New York, NY

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Last Online
May 20
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
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Likes cats

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My self-summary
“Because we don’t know when we will die, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. Yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number, really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more. Perhaps not even that. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet it all seems limitless.” -Paul Bowles

I think we're all unexplored territories, even to ourselves; at any moment, a new person, a new context can open up a perspective on ourselves and/or the world which we hadn't imagined before. I'm a different person with each person I know; in a way, meeting someone gives me the chance to discover a new version of myself as I learn about the inexhaustible world of the other. Almost all the versions of me are relatively calm and stable, but I like to take risks, especially when it comes to trying something that might have an impact on the world. At the same time, I really appreciate all the ordinary moments, the light and the air, the quiet tumult of the city, the view of the sky from a trail in the mountains.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a software architect, cofounder of an Internet startup in personal health field. I co-direct an art gallery as a side project, though it's at least as important to me as my tech industry work.
I’m really good at
paying attention, curating, managing, meditation, perception, bringing calm to a situation, fixing things
The first things people usually notice about me
relaxed, happy, witty, sharp, helpful, engaging
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Some directors and films I love: Tarkovsky, Kurosawa, Bergman, Miranda July, Jarmusch, Coen Brothers, Kieslowski, stuff written by Charlie Kaufman, most things by Kubrick, Almodovar, etc., etc. Some favorites are: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Seven Samurai, The Future, Solaris, Mystery Train, Rushmore, Before Sunrise, Touch of Evil, Stranger Than Paradise, Wings of Desire.

Musicians/composers I like: Radiohead, Stravinsky, Deerhunter, Beastie Boys, Arcade Fire, John Coltrane, Grouper, The Breeders, Sonic Youth, Chopin, Autechre, Broadcast, PJ Harvey, Cameron Wisch, Massive Attack, Cibo Matto, Elliott Sharp, FaltyDL, Ikue Mori, Stereolab, Leonard Cohen, Martina Topley Bird, Tricky, Thelonious Monk, Nurse With Wound, Portishead, Yo La Tengo

A few of my favorite authors off the top of my head: Dostoevsky, Borges, Woolf, Vonnegut, Hesse, Murakami, Faulkner, Flannery O'Connor, Ishiguro, Kafka...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the feeling of breathing, existential questions, light, new urbanism, 30 Rock, sweet tarts, hard-to-describe perceptions, and the inconceivable
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you're intrigued or intriguing