47 New York, NY
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My self-summary
NOTE: I use OKCupid filters, which means I only receive messages from people in my stated age range and stated location. (That means Manhattan/Brooklyn/Queens only. No suburbs.) If you haven't made a decent effort to present yourself properly here, I'll never see your message.

Part Joan Holloway, part Joan Didion. For those of you who don't get that reference, allow me to explain. I'm a writer who is cerebral and socially aware, but not so much that I don't enjoy a good cocktail and innuendo laced conversation.

I spent my first month in NYC living in a convent. True story. No, I was not considering taking a vow of celibacy. But it's a great opener.

I am passionate about various forms of expression and art and inquisitive about what makes us tick. I'm equal parts carnal and creative and believe wit is far more arousing than sarcasm and prefer grit over machismo. I can offer a sympathetic and objective ear and a solid shoulder on which to lean. I believe in the art of diplomacy.

Some fun facts about me:
*I'm not on the marriage or baby track.
*Nobody will ever describe me as "simple" or "naive."
*I try to learn a few new words a day.
*I wear bold colored lipstick when I run. Just because.
*If Zoolander is on TV, I set aside whatever I'm doing to watch it.
*My friendships are ride or die, most spanning back to college.
*I own maybe 8 pairs of shoes but wear my sneakers the most.
*I added a Pee Wee Herman sound clip app to my phone and play it when stressed. My favorite? "Why don't you take a picture it'll last longer!"
*I moved to NYC 20 years ago by myself without knowing a soul.
*I can walk 65 Manhattan blocks in 45 minutes. If Madonna is playing on my iPod, I can do it in 42.
What I’m doing with my life
I started my own business several years ago that flexes the more logistical/planning part of my brain. It also keeps me financially self-sufficient and stable. My business allows me the time and flexibility to write.

Setting goals and achieving them.

I started to write my first book in Jan 2014. The second draft of my novel is just about complete. UPDATED: Now beginning my third draft. Major changes to be made. I feel overwhelmed.

Three months ago I started interval training. Running was always something I wished I could do, and now I'm up to a 12 minute interval.

Waking up at 6am, making coffee, and using my vocabulary app to learn new words.
I’m really good at
Being objective and empathetic.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my skin, eyes and hair when I wear it curly. My curves.

While this might not be something that people notice about me off the bat, they come to learn that I know who I am and what my limitations are.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Serial podcast
Sex, Death & Money podcast
Nerdist from time to time
Writing Excuses

Masters of Sex
The Good Wife
American Horror Story
House of Cards
BBC's Sherlock
The Fall

As for movies - Anything that involves David Fincher, Christopher Nolan or Alexander Payne.

Dead Poets Society for the lessons it taught about the power of words and finding your voice.
Silence of The Lambs
The Usual Suspects
The Social Network
Good Will Hunting
Jeepers Creepers 1 and 2. I know!

Music? I grew up listening to Nat King Cole, Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin. (No Italian grows up without hearing That's Amore on a loop.)
The six things I could never do without
My insight and fiercely intuitive nature
Dogs (Animals, really)
A couple of hours to get lost at The Met each month
A really good sugar based body scrub
Grammar & Thesaurus apps
My Surface Pro 3
On a typical Friday night I am
It all depends on how the rest of the week went. I'm perfectly content getting under the covers and catching up on my reading. Or maybe I'll head to the movies.
You should message me if
You're comfortable in your skin and know who you are. I like flaws. Flaws make us interesting. Flaws are okay.

I'm especially keen on men who have experienced something that has fundamentally changed them for the better.

I'm looking for a guy with whom I can develop something substantive and physically satisfying.

You have thoughts and opinions and you know when and how to voice them. Diplomacy is far more attractive than radical honesty.

If you like tooling around the kitchen and heating up some stir fry, having someone to bounce ideas off of or act as a sounding board after a long day, we'll probably get on quite nicely.