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41 F New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 37–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Please do not contact/rate me if you live outside of NYC or if you're outside of my specified age range. Those messages are filtered and automatically deleted.

Part Joan Holloway, part Joan Didion. For those of you who don't get that reference, allow me to explain. I'm a writer who is cerebral and socially aware, but not so much that I don't enjoy a good cocktail and innuendo laced conversation while flaunting my curves.

I spent my first month in NYC living in a convent. True story. No, I was not considering taking a vow of celibacy. But it's a great opener, yes?

I'm a social/gender issues writer and small business owner living on The UES of Manhattan. (Don't let that scare you. I don't own a tiny dog or spend all my money on handbags and shoes.)

I am passionate about various forms of expression and art and inquisitive about what makes us tick. I'm equal parts carnal and creative and believe wit is far more arousing than sarcasm and prefer grit over machismo and muscles.

I'm kind, self-aware, ambitious, supportive, encouraging, compassionate, empathetic, and a little goofy. I can offer a sympathetic and objective ear, and a solid shoulder on which to lean.

If you like tooling around the kitchen and heating up some stir fry, having someone to bounce ideas off of or act as a sounding board after a long day, or like discovering new wine bars we'll probably have a lot of fun together.

For search purposes, I lowered my age to 41. I'm actually 45.

I love the idea of fighting the good fight with someone and creating our own, possibly non-traditional, relationship. Maybe that will mean marriage and monogamy. Maybe it wont. I like the idea of making our own rules together.

Some fun facts about me:
*While I've never wanted kids of my own, I'm not opposed to dating someone with kids.
*I really want to check out an absinthe bar. For writing research. No, seriously.
*If Zoolander is on TV, I set aside whatever I'm doing to watch it.
*I'm a Dan Savage fan.
*I own maybe 8 pairs of shoes but wear my sneakers the most.
*I added a Pee Wee Herman sound clip app to my phone and play it when stressed. My favorite? "Why don't you take a picture it'll last longer!"
*I moved to NYC 20 years ago by myself without knowing a soul.
*I can walk 65 Manhattan blocks in 45 minutes. If Madonna is playing on my iPod, I can do it in 42 minutes.
*I volunteer to walk dogs who have been abused.
What I’m doing with my life
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I started my own business several years ago that flexes the more logistical/planning part of my brain. That allows me the time and flexibility to do something else that I love, writing. I write freelance for a few sites as well as my own.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being objective and empathetic.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably my skin, eyes and hair when I wear it curly. My curves.

While this might not be something that people notice about me off the bat, they come to learn that I know who I am and what my limitations are.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Radio - NPR, SiriusXM talk shows & (gasp!) The Broadway Channel.

Masters of Sex - Great show. If you're not watching it, catch it on Showtime on Demand.
The Good Wife
Mad Men
American Horror Story
House of Cards
BBC's Sherlock
The Newsroom

I have never seen an episode of Homeland or Breaking Bad. I'm okay with that.

As for movies - Anything that involves David Fincher, Christopher Nolan or Alexander Payne.

Silence of The Lambs
The Big Picture
The Usual Suspects
The Social Network
Good Will Hunting
The Town
Jeepers Creepers 1 and 2. I know!

Music? I grew up listening to Nat King Cole, Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin. (No Italian grows up without hearing That's Amore on a loop.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A walking or running path
Dogs (Animals, really)
Grammar & Thesaurus apps
My laptop/phone
A great glass of Prosecco while revising a submission
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It all depends on how the rest of the week went.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're comfortable in your skin and know who you are. I like flaws. Flaws make us interesting. Flaws are okay.

I'm looking for a guy with whom I can develop something relaxed, substantive, and physically satisfying.

***NOTE: I have absolutely ZERO interest in meeting/chatting/messaging with guys in their twenties/ guys from out of town/guys from other continents. I use OKC filters, so if you do decide to ignore this bolded statement, understand that your email will automatically be deleted and I'll never see it. *****