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41 F New York, NY

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Last Online
Yesterday – 11:45pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Part Joan Holloway, part Joan Didion.

I spent my first month in NYC living in a convent. True story. No, I was not considering taking a vow of celibacy. But it's a great opener, amirite?

I'm a social/gender issues writer living in Manhattan who is passionate about various forms of expression and art and inquisitive about what makes us tick. I'm equal parts carnal and creative and believe wit is far more arousing than sarcasm and prefer grit over machismo and muscles.

I'm kind, self-aware, ambitious, supportive, encouraging, compassionate, empathetic, and a little goofy. I can offer a sympathetic and objective ear, and a solid shoulder on which to lean.

I'm looking for a guy with whom I can develop something relaxed, substantive, and physically satisfying Yes. That way. That part is a must.

If you like tooling around the kitchen and heating up some stir fry, having someone to bounce ideas off of or act as a sounding board after a long day, or like discovering new wine bars we'll probably have a lot of fun together.

For search purposes, I lowered my age to 41. I'm actually 45. I'm not on the marriage or baby track.

Some fun facts about me:
*I really want to check out an absinthe bar. For writing research. No, seriously.
*If Zoolander is on TV, I set aside whatever I'm doing to watch it.
*I'm a Dan Savage fan.
*I own maybe 8 pairs of shoes but wear my sneakers the most.
*I added a Pee Wee Herman sound clip app to my phone and play it when stressed. My favorite? "Why don't you take a picture it'll last longer!"
*I moved to NYC 20 years ago by myself without knowing a soul.
*I can walk 65 Manhattan blocks in 45 minutes. If Madonna is playing on my iPod, I can do it in 42 minutes.
*I volunteer to walk dogs who have been abused.
What I’m doing with my life
I started my own business several years ago that flexes the more logistical/planning part of my brain. That allows me the time and flexibility to do something else that I love, writing. I write freelance for a few sites as well as my own.
I’m really good at
Being objective and empathetic.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my skin, eyes and hair when I wear it curly.

While this might not be something that people notice about me off the bat, they come to learn that I know who I am and what my limitations are.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Radio - NPR, SiriusXM talk shows & (gasp!) The Broadway Channel.

Masters of Sex - Great show. If you're not watching it, catch it on Showtime on Demand.
The Good Wife
Mad Men
American Horror Story
House of Cards
BBC's Sherlock
The Newsroom

I have never seen an episode of Homeland or Breaking Bad. I'm okay with that.

As for movies - Anything that involves David Fincher, Christopher Nolan or Alexander Payne.

Silence of The Lambs
The Big Picture
The Usual Suspects
The Social Network
Good Will Hunting
The Town
Jeepers Creepers 1 and 2. I know!

Music? I grew up listening to Nat King Cole, Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin. (No Italian grows up without hearing That's Amore on a loop.)
The six things I could never do without
A walking or running path
Dogs (Animals, really)
Grammar & Thesaurus apps
My laptop/phone
A great glass of Prosecco while revising a submission
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why people make some spectacularly questionable choices with regards to their dating profile.
On a typical Friday night I am
It all depends on how the rest of the week went.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 34–52
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're comfortable in your skin and know who you are. I like flaws. Flaws make us interesting. Flaws are okay.

PLEASE NOTE: I use OKCupid email filters.