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29 M Oxford, OH

My Details

Last Online
Aug 22
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it matters a lot
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay)

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My self-summary
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a midwestern heart, born and raised in the mitten state midst a verdant sea of brussel sprout and honey bees proliferating drupe fruit gemworks.

chicago owned my early 20's, school and doing what kids do and then some. i've been through various sorts of collective living since leaving home (arguably beforehand as well, chore charts run deep), and done a good deal of travel on performance tickets. though not yet out of the continent, i'm intimate with the lower 48 and eastern canada. post-patriach shake down (dead dad) sent me home for periods of time throughout the past few years, trading the street lamps for the stars... then holed up in milwaukee for a time prior to making way to the current paradigm as a grad student in southwest ohio. i've been sharpening the will to work for oneself within a community, doing things for the love of them as opposed to the obligation.

but we'll see won't we.

currently having a hard time living in a little college town with too much propriety and naivety... i'm missing cityscapes and the communities that populate them something fierce...

this is all over the place. i apologize. please do inquire at will, i'm actually quite articulate when the opportunity to be so seems a promising one.

also, to be upfront and crystal clear, i am currently in a committed non-monogamous relationship with an amazingly talented and intelligent lady who lives in milwaukee onlyonVHS (don't take my word for it... take a peek-see, she's a babe) that being said, we're not into one-night stands, depraved drunken liaisons, etc. but would much rather develop some sort of poly-amory if the right candidates were to present themselves... all that aside, i am sincerely in need of friendships foremost. i am very much alien in the town i live in and need to know folks who are open-minded/conscientious/creative/driven/community-oriented in the cityscapes near and beyond... would love to hear what was happening in cincinnati/dayton/hamilton/covington.
What I’m doing with my life
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currently working through a master's program by writing poems and teaching english courses. for years now i've been running a small literary press invested in the handmade artifact (lots of different printing methods, editorial roles, paper making, layout, etc.). just recently off a lengthy tour as a musician and a shorter stint doing some poet's theatre with onlyonVHS, a summer of traveling interspersed with stints in the thumb of michigan growing food, working on a botanicals company with my sister, making soaps, salves, massage oils, etc. self propelled study of homeopathy, of experimental literature and art, political cosmologies, astrological microcosms, ancient astronauts, folk lore, book arts, geology, history, etc.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making messes smell better for the sake of guests. discoursing the devastation, potential, and causality. offering compliments to whirlwinds and breezes alike. constructive criticism over a long lunch break. anxiety-surfing. following through on tasks both menial and over-whelmingly impossible. throwing up antagonistic or otherwise unabashed encouragement. taking terrible pictures from off the walls of restaurants. walking long distances in bad shoes. traveling for free to cheap by singing in front of a bunch of faces and fingers. being sincere about my preference for the cold. loving those undeserving alongside those who are, longing for something substantial, lusting in the morning. being reverent of custodians. navigation by nose. cohesion under pressure. oral sex in three speeds and with varying pressure. and on in dribbling accumulations ad infinitum.

i honestly have a rather agile singing voice, quite a sense of rhythm and an agility behind a drum set, a way with words, a way with people... and references to prove it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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i'm sure there are a variety of things. i currently have on very lively blue nail polish.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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warning: the following lists will contain unabashed plugs for those considered peers or contemporaries, thereby some of this list is perhaps miserably obscure... the purpose in doing this (and i do feel some humbled purpose is essential to validate such an onerous demand of your attention) is of course to entreat you unbury these names and relish in the things they do... i will be sure to catalogue some more well known artists to offer suggestion of my tastes to a broader audience.

definitive of the page:

prose: djuna barnes, herman melville, donald barthelme, aldous huxley, john barth, vaclav havel, italo calvino, alfred jarry, ray bradbury, william s. burroughs, laurence sterne, dorothy parker, jr tolkein, anias nin, samuel beckett, d.h. lawrence, aphra behn, zora neale hurston, okla elliot, eileen myles, unica zurn, megan giddings, shakespeare, others. many others.

poem: wallace stevens, russell edson, walt whitman, sylvia plath, mina loy, guillaume apollinaire, ted hughes, stephen crane, matthew arnold, john berryman, hannah weiner, the baroness elsa von freytag-loringhoven, kenneth patchen, jackson mac low, ed dorn, rob halpern, nick demske, dolly lemke, amos tutuola, franklin rosemont, arimi baraka, ee cummings, catherine wagner, aase berg, mc hyland, daniela olszewska, gene tanta, evan willner, susan schultz, kritsy bowen, matthew klane, erika jo brown, sarah fox, jennifer karmin, laura goldstein, chelsea tadeyeske, cynthia spencer, etc.

definitive of the screen: jans svankmajer, jim henson, jiri trinka, will vinton, meredith monk. documentary, serial productions of an educational nature. animation mostly as of late. been known to enjoy other things.

definitive of song: very album oriented, and with taste buds refusing to settle for any one flavor... that being said...
songstresses such as tori amos, kate bush, fiona apple, pj harvey, etc. industrial staples such as nine inch nails, ministry, einsturzende neubauten, prick, swans, etc. spastic jazz metal amalgamations such as rapider than horsepower, burnt by the sun, yowie, coalesce, naked city, zu, the reptilian, innards, algernon cadwallader, etc. weirdo or eerie folk such as danielson familie, songs:ohia, joan of arc, growth spert, porches, grandpa egg, bowl of dust, leafbird, etc. hip hop such as aesop rock, old dirty, outkast, bone thugs n harmony, clouddead, and so on... wait... what have i done... i can't exhaust all of these... folk music, mo-town, classic rock, r&b, prince... it never ends... huge fan of cassettes so the nostalgia factor is not lost on me.

recent spins: janelle monae, jean grae, ponytail, dark dark dark, the locust.

definitive of sight: gustav klimt, alphonse mucha, jules cheret, aubrey beardsley, russell mills, late 19th century german realism, francesca woodman, rosie ships, edie fake, kenneth patchen, etc.

definitive of nourishment: raw garlic, brussel sprouts and sprouts in general. eggs. spinach. kale. kumquats. pomegranates. carrots. yogurt. beets. lentils. brown rice. dark chocolate, nuts of all sort, morels, shiitakes, maitakes, sea vegetables, fresh things. vegetarian is me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
productivity. language. intellect (of my own and those around me). water. inspiration. collaboration.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how memory is made obsolete by home movies. the sociology of cities, and how size, money, and neighborhood-centric propensity effects the idea of community. collectivism. the roots and implications of myth, folklore, religion. familial disintegration or cooperation as the case may be. the world between the things i sense. universal formulations. human sexuality. the distribution of wealth. the futility of sententious socio-political movements. theorizing vs. acting. food production. language as a cognitive system. the possibility of a larger life force having an investment in the smaller ones which occupy the universe as we know it. the potential of people. growth. the uselessness of art when it becomes merely fashion or antagonism.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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this is a trap.

i have an average sized penis. i am not a manly man. seems those don't feel all too private really. i feel little embarrassment generally.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 19–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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you would like to invite me to something interesting.

you can hold your own in a debate.

you love deeply and sincerely.

you would like to trade a back massage.

you spend most of your time productively.

you appreciate collaboration and cooperation.

you are open to or interested in non-monogamy/polyamory.