(Just thought I'd repost this here as a good "how-to" for interaction with me and probably a lot of other girls too.)

My master plan of going out to have fun dancing and get hit on lots last night worked surprising well. Full moon, perhaps.

I talked momentarily to a very cute guy when I got in, and the encounter even set me up with an actual conversation starter if I could run into him again. I kept spotting him and then losing him as he'd move off before I could get there. Frustrating. I was also trying to watch his behavior, as my (feeble) gaydar had been set off during our encounter. Finally, before I got a chance to talk to him, I saw some definitive male-male hand-on-butt action and gave it up as a lost cause. I suppose he might be bi, but by that point I didn't feel like chasing it down and/or embarrassing anyone by finding he isn't. Really nice smile, though. Darn.

But I did get actually hit on by a few other guys...I just wish they a) wouldn't touch me uninvited, and b) didn't feel the need to use lines. Ugh. I'm not an ice queen, but they make me come off that way. Treat me like the intelligent woman I am, not some piece of meat to be suaved (shut up - couldn't think of a better word).

If I'm dancing, putting your hand on my waist to turn me around to acknowledge you and then presenting yourself to me like "ay? what do think? you want to do me or what?" is Not Going To Work. All of those actions plus past experience with short normal Mexican guys at that club say that you just want to grind on me, and -ew-. I'm less annoyed by the random waist brushes as guys just keep on walking by (and a part of me kind of likes them), but at the same time I'm generally not comfortable with random people randomly deliberately touching me.

If you want to talk to me:
- DON'T tell me that I couldn't possibly keep dancing alone. I've been doing it just fine for 18 years and have long since come to prefer it. Also, this may not be obvious, but if I'm dancing on the stage it's because there isn't enough room for me on the floor, and therefore I don't -want- to go down there just to dance by you. You can join me if you're that eager.
- DON'T give me a lame line about how you don't know how to dance (yeah, right) and ask me for instruction. I'm going to look at you as if you have two heads (and not in the hoopy Zaphod way).
- DON'T then ask me if I'm "on something" and be surprised when I say "...the floor." That whole exchange says a) you do drugs and I'm not interested in drug users, and b) you wouldn't appreciate my sense of humor anyway. Asking me if I'm from another country after I give that response just clinches it.
- DON'T ask me if I want to dance. I'm already dancing (90% of the time when this question is asked), plus I don't dance "with" people. Dance by me if you like, and if we catch each other's attention, let body language do a bit of the intro work. This one generally seems to only be perpetrated by non-goths. Goths Get It.
- while I appreciate the offer of a drink, a) it's generally not wise to accept drinks from strangers in this day and age, and b) I feel weird about random strangers offering to spend money on me. DON'T assume that my declining your offer of a drink is the same as my declining to talk to you. I'm kinda literal that way - you ask a question, I answer it.
- DO walk up to me, offer a hand, and say somthing like, "Hi, my name's X. Looks like a good crowd tonight, huh?" It may sound inane, but it also makes you sound like a human being who wants to strike up a conversation with another human being.
- DO compliment me on my dancing or my outfit, if you must. I'll get flustered, but it's a hell of a lot better to start off on a nice foot like that than having you present yourself to me for grindage or any of the other "don't"s.