I've had a personal tragedy in my life recently.  Friends may ask privately.  If you don't know me, don't bother.  It is far too painful to explain it to strangers.

Since then, I have been dealing with an illness.  I do have meds. and am beginning to recover.  If you are interested in seeing me, please feel free to contact me.  I am still very distracted these days, so please don't take it personally if I don't reply right away.

One of my own pet peeves is people who just stop talking to someone, with no explanation.

When I feel the need to end a relationship, I always try to let the other person know what is going on.  I think it is unnecessarily cruel to leave someone hanging, with no information.  Hell, maybe I'm old-fashioned but I also think it's pretty much mandatory to call to let someone know when I can't make a date (and that goes for friends as well).  And that also works in reverse.

In my opinion not giving notification is rather a contemptuous act against the other person.  It leaves that person with the impression that you do not think enough of them to be bothered to let them know that there is a problem or that your plans have changed.

**I must say; if your standard "MO", when you are done with someone, is to just drop that person like a hot rock.  If you would feel no need to tell a person when you consider a relationship to be over.  Or if you think it isn't necessary to give notification of having to miss a date, however tentative.  I am just not interested in you being a part of my life . . . EVER!

I am a kind, sensitive person.  I would not do that to a stranger.  It's one thing if you have tried to give notification, and it was not accepted.  Then perhaps there is no other way.

For me, ignoring someone is pretty much not an option.  If there is no other solution, the effort can even be painful for me.  So I try never to have to go that way.  And it causes me a great deal of emotional pain and confusion when someone does it to me.  So just DON'T.

We all made it through another one.  Hope the last year was kind to you, and that all your dreams come true in this one.

If there were some other way to do this besides all the typing, I would be doing it that way.

You see, I happen to suffer from Carpel Tunnel.  Therefore I ask that, if you are genuinely interested in me, you try to avoid things like making me repeat myself.  It drives me mad, even under the best of circumstances.  When I have to type, it may irritate me enough to cease talking to you . . . permanently.

Ask questions if you will.  Just try for Y/N rather than essay.

And **Please** follow the instructions at the bottom of my Profile. Those are fast becoming minimum expected steps. I'm being contacted by too many people who have way too little information.

Strait up; If I can't get *some* idea who you are, I will not be contacting you back. It just plain hurts too much. And no I'm not talking about "emotional hurt". I mean real pain that threatens to keep me from being able to work.

If you are kind to me, I will be kind in return. I'm only asking that you not make my life harder.

Someone you like is drunkenly flirting with you. You know that with a sober mind this person would never engage in casual sex, but now it seems that they're willing. What do you do?

• Take advantage of the situation
• Absolutely nothing

I had to skip this one. My answer to this is somewhat complex and depends on the person in question and their answer (&/or mine) to several questions.

Are they single or in some form of open relationship? If "No" then I'd do very little.

Would their morals/ ethics be irrevocably compromised? This also relates to the previous question a bit. I do not want to compromise anyone in any significant way.

Are they attracted to me? If the answer is a sincere "Yes" then I'd have a much more difficult time keeping my head.

Is there potential for a continued relationship, or would it just be a one time thing? In either case, and if all the other answers were in the green, I think I'd at least want to 'play' responsibly. And I'd be more careful still if there were longer term potential.

I never want to hurt anyone. And that goes double if it's just for fun. I'm playful and spirited and like to have a good time, just not at the expense of anyone else.

Tongue rings - Hot or Not?

• Hot.
• Not.

I really have no opinion on this one. I only said "Not" because there was no "No Opinion/Don't Know" option.

I have come across way too many of these, and I usually skip them. They wind up not relevant to me.

Please people, if you write an opinion question, leave the option open for someone who has no experience upon which to base one. Or for someone who, even with that experience, still doesn't have one.

Thank you and I'm done ranting now.

If you had an eighteen year old son or daughter who wanted to become an adult film star, how would you react?

• I would encourage him or her.
• I would discourage him or her.
• I would encourage my son, but not my daughter.
• I would encourage my daughter, but not my son.

My concern here is that there are so many diseases that he/she could be exposed to, even if they use "safe sex" practices. Condoms break. It has happened to me, so I know it's not a myth. Any other form of adult entertainment, where disease exposure is not nearly such a threat, I wouldn't have such a problem with.

For anyone interested in meeting me, I will have some time tomorrow, after noon. Yes, Saturday 10/24/09. And I'm only talking lunch or coffee here. I know it's short notice.

And so far, I have time this Sunday, though I have things I must do sometime this weekend.

I will not be on the computer until after noon. Even if you have my phone number, please just message me. If I'm resting/sleeping phone or text messages will wake me.

If I get no replies, I will just tend to some of the many things I need to do. So do not assume that I am desperate, nor should you feel obligated to fill that time for me. Mostly, I wouldn't mind some company, but I'm really tired of slaving over my schedule.

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It occurs to me to mention; the lethargy over my schedule is a frequent problem. I am still a woman, and like to be "called" for dates now and again, not be the one doing all the calling. Therefore, if you are so inclined, call (or IM) me for a meeting or a date. If our schedules permit, maybe something could happen.

Ok this is kind of important stuff for people to know if you want to date me or hang out. None of this is personal to anyone.

1. I have a place of my own now.  This does NOT mean that I will allow new people into my home without meeting them publicly first!
2. I still require the permission of my Poly Primary before I am allowed to date someone new.  But you will probably not need to be much, if any part of that.
3. If and when you are invited to my home, it is important to me that you be respectful of my:  House Rules
4. My neighborhood is friendlier than average, and I'd like very much to keep it that way.

1. I am not interested in moving from my current city and state.
2. Long distance relationships are Ok, so long as exclusivity is not expected.
3. I am currently financially unable to travel, outside the Greater St. Louis Area, 'on my own dime'. [That does not mean I am unwilling to travel.]
4. Any first-time meeting has to be on "my territory".    [Just for my protection.]
5. And, of course, if we do agree to meet, there are no guarantees that anything sexual will happen. [Chemistry must work.]
6. In case you are interested in sex, be advised, I come with rules.