If you're worried about my kids hindering being able to get to know me, don't be. I wouldn't let them meet anybody for a long time. They're too important for me to just let anyone know them :-) but on that note I also need to make you aware that they always come first... I asked for my kids, I was ready at the time and I was settled down. But it wasn't my happily ever after. We were abandoned, I handled it and finally moved on. I do tend to be brutally honest...it does offend some and I do occasionally apologize. But I intend to keep no secrets from my future partner so there's no point in hiding past grief or shame. I don't regret trying to settle down. It's in my personality to want to. I want to be that 90 year old woman who comes in with her 90 year old husband talking about their celebration of their 75th anniversary. I'm a hopeless romantic and no amount of douchebags will turn me permanently cynical.
(Btw, this is so long because I have merged all my dating profiles and decided all of the information was pertinent.)
Perusing various profiles has shown me that people try to make this easier by listing things they are unattracted to. So I decided to make a list of my own. I am really "turned off" by spelling and grammatical errors. Believe me-I am no genious, but when every other word is deliberately misspelled, it makes me want to throw up. What else...I am also unnerved by the amount of naked pictures in mirrors we seem to be taking nowadays. If, under the favorite books section, you put "I don't reed" it kind of makes me want to slap you. ...I am a BIT sarcastic if you couldn't tell. (One of my more endearing qualities :-P) Highest on my list-bragging about sexual conquests. If you would like to talk about past sexual partners to me in private, a ways into a relationship, fine. But going, "brooo I banged her so hard her t*ts slapped her in the face!" To your friends especially in a public place might make me plot ways to separate you from your testicles. Oh and vulgarity also annoys me. I said the t-word in my example as strictly that, an example.
Here are some things I have identified about myself recently.
I'm incredibly picky.
I need to be motivated.
I'm in love with the idea of love.
I think most people are way too into themselves. I wish I had more time in my life for charity.
I also wish I had a solid career instead of just a job.
I think I have just decided I want to dive into nursing. EEK! :)
I hope to have enough money one day to travel all over-everywhere.
Music inspires me to clean.
I'm incredibly romantic & love to do cheesy things as well as receive them.
I have an incredibly irrational fear of insects.
I admire a hardworking man with big hands.
It creeps me out when men have nicer hands than I do.
Often I think of editing, I catch so many mistakes, no matter what I'm reading.
I have both unlimited patience & a short temper.
It depends on how you speak to me which end of the stick you receive.
Christmas is my favorite holiday, no matter how cliche-my tree is up way before anyone else's and stays up long after they're being hauled away.
I deleted my facebook because I realized it was making me depressed. The only purpose it served was to remind me of all the people who call themselves my "friends"-yet haven't spoken to me in at least 2 years.
Which is when my sons were born.
Their father sees them every weekday.
Inevitably; I see him every weekday.
I don't expect someone to become best friends with my children's father, but they have to respect that no matter what, he will always be in my life now.
I wish I could find someone to be myself with and vice versa. I hate the devastating blow of finding out your other half's true identity.
I think I was born to be a stay at home mom/wife. I'm good at it.
The grass is always greener-I don't want to stop working, either.
I don't care if we don't have any extra, frivolous items.
I just care about having an honest, sweet, hardworking man coming home to me.