i am a chick, with a body and a head. i like stuff. also things.

i visit NYC literally every month. so if you're a new yorker and i seem nifty to you, don't despair.

i am looking for friends with whom to share long talks over coffee, creek-stomping and swimmin' hole adventures in the summer, playground jaunts with the kid (maybe you have one too?), ridiculous ideas, unpopular truths, etc.

i'm interested in making friends with anyone who's intelligent, quirky, and open-minded in ways the average person who says they're "open-minded" isn't. romantically speaking, i'm only inclined to court women right now (and no, not for threesomes or whatever, but a meaningful one-on-one courtship). i'm not too hung up on it, though, just friends is fine - but i'm open to it if it happens to happen. :-)

i'm a poor communicator (i even have trouble expressing positive emotions like "i love you"), but i've been working hard at it for the last few years and i think i'm getting better. sometimes i'm a neat freak and sometimes i'm a slob, but whichever it is at the moment, i do have some clutter. i'm a hopeless potty mouth. i'm naive and trusting in many respects but there are many things locked away in such dark places inside of me no one will ever uncover them. i've been hurt, i've lost a few of the people i loved the most, but i'm trying hard to heal.

i love to treat people in little ways and sort of constantly shower them in tiny gifts - bowling trips, concerts, movies, fabulous home-cooked meals, a bag of their favorite coffee or tube of their favorite lip gloss - but only if they appreciate me. i'm fiercely loyal and will do anything within reason to help the people i love. i'm pretty much a goofball. i pretty much can't stop myself from yelling "PUPPY" every. single. time i see a dog. i'm a good listener and random strangers often tell me their life stories with no provocation. i can get along with almost anyone (and lots of my friends despise each other as a result). also, i give a pretty killer scalp scritchin'.

i'm a grateful mother to my favorite person on the planet, as well as a frenetic snowball of a cockapoo/terrier/mutt thing and a big dopey pitbull who i find snuggled close to me every morning when i wake up. i spend a lot of time inside my own head. i love beautifully dark art, wide open spaces, bugs, books, old things, and sunny patches of grass. i'm a voluntaryist. i dig absolute individual liberty, the non-aggression principle, nonviolent communication, the powerful potential of permaculture, & the healing power of gentle touch.

so, yah. inasmuch as one can be encapsulated by a few paragraphs, that's me. hi.

living it. i'm not entirely convinced there's any profound purpose or meaning to life. so i'm simply intent on enjoying it to the fullest, and hopefully making it more enjoyable for those i meet along the way, harming no one.

giving people non-sexual physical intimacy without expectations, publicly discussing things that people are not encouraged to openly discuss, gentle touch, cooking, typing, sensuality

i don't really know, but i will say people are shocked when i tell them that i am shy. i guess it's just that initial 'hello' that's so difficult for me.

humm. i'm particularly fond of tom robbins, jonathan carroll, john irving, neil gaiman, barbara kingsolver; but i also loved the hunger games trilogy, the girl who ... trilogy, godslayer/banewreaker - a duo by jacqueline carey, and a ton of other stuff.

although i'm still just dipping my toes into graphic novelry, some of my favorites so far have been chew, transmetropolitan, and anything ed phillips & sean brubaker have done.

when it comes to non-fiction, mary roach, mark derr, and dr. sears are some of my favorites. but i also love maxime schwarz's "how the cows went mad," which follows the history of the spongiform encelopathy -- which spans many centuries, cultures, and species; lt. col. dave grossman's "on killing: the psychology cost of learning to kill in war and society" -- a brilliant and sobering dissection of the traumatic psychological impact killing a fellow human being (much less being in a combat situation for an extended period of time) has on the average person's psyche; and "ghosts from the nursery: tracing the roots of violence" by robin karr-morse.

i think pan's labyrinth is one of the most beautiful masterworks in cinema history, but i have only seen it twice because it's soul-crushing. IMO, real life is more depressing than it ought to be, so when it comes to entertainment, i tend to reach for films that are FUN to watch. off the top of my head -- four rooms, dead alive, noises off!, the in-laws, club dread, cabin in the woods, clue, dr. horrible's singalong blog, the emperor's new groove (shut up), etc.

shows ... sherlock (fuck you elementary - SHERLOCK 4 LYFE), dexter (just enough funny to balance the darkness), superjail!, squidbillies, doctor who, firefly, arrested development, it's always sunny in philadelphia, portlandia, the increasingly poor decisions of todd margaret, home movies, whitest kids you know (hit or miss tho), mr show, ... etc.

music ... mclusky is my favorite thing ever. also love future of the left, the bombay royale, blue highway, nomeansno, big black, shellac (everything steve albini touches turns to gold, i swear), arab on radar's "queen hygiene / bad day at the orifice" is awesome, basia bulat, liz phair, the black keys, les georges leningrad, bonnie 'prince' billy, company flow, janelle monae, shirley bassey, crooked still, dog faced hermans, LOTS more... my taste in music is quite broad...

i love food. like. all of it. haha. but indian, mexican (autentico bitches), italian, thai, and ethiopian all have special places in my heart.

artists: jennybird alcantra, fuco ueda, greg simkins, caitlin hackett, edwin ushiro, michael hussar, so youn lee, madeline von foerster, amy sol, tara mcpherson, jean-pierre roy, trustocorp, camilla d'errico, josh keyes

my child, warm sunlight on my skin (not for more than one winter, anyway), touch/closeness, dogs, books, good people in my life.

the future and how to make it an amazing one for my progeny.

at home.

when i come home from a trip out of town to my son and my dogs, i feel like the most loved and most important person on the planet, if only for a handful of moments. i relish those moments, more than any others.

i'm fantastic in bed and an enthusiastic sensualist, giving people pleasure is something i sincerely enjoy ... but still, i sorely miss being able to just cuddle with someone, without it turning sexual. i long for that with more intensity than any sexual fantasy.

you identify with the ethics of anarchism. if anything i said resonated with you.

if you're a guy, and you understand that i am ONLY looking for friends right now where males are concerned. i've met a few of my closest male friends on OKC.

if you are a woman, and you are interested in me, please don't hesitate to reach out.

or just if you want to. :) i'm a good friend to have.