I seem to work pretty hard and am really, really good at relaxing. For instance, see the smile in my eyes on a Friday night above after a long week? I have been told by previous dates that I am witty, easy to have fun with, and am a good conversationalist. I keep feeling unsure of what this last thing means exactly, but I have an unabridged dictionary and now think I am just being a kill-joy. Alas, no matter how much it scares me for some odd reason, I am fun to spend time with.

I think I enjoy life so much because of how serious I am about thoughtfully living it. I have always had an interest in helping those that do not have. This has meant doing what I can as an individual to help others and generally working towards a more pleasurable world. Examples include my having lived and studied in South Africa and doing clinical work in lower socioeconomic hospitals/clinics. These experiences have always been meaningful in light of my seeing the world around me through a psychoanalytic lens.

Yep, Freud, analysis, lying on the couch, the meaning of dreams, everything being about sex… that kind of stuff. This is my work, which is inseparable from who I am. Lol, honestly, it’s so cool because it makes so much sense. It’s tricky to understand these ideas which can be very abstract and uncomfortable to think but once you do, you can see so much in life that makes sense. I think this is awesome and feel exhilarated by it. It reminds me of those drawings or sketches that hung on the walls in freshman dorm rooms back in college. You had to hold your eyesight or your gaze in a uncommon or unnatural position to see all these others things that then popped out at you. Psychoanalysis has that quality.

Psychoanalytic work will always be a significant part of my life and I don't think I will retire early (ever?). Thankfully, I will go into private practice so the job will have hours I get to set (though this is not so right now while I am getting licensed). 

In sum, I think a lot, work long hours, and value pleasurable things in life. I feel very deserving to unwind doing things that feel good. This includes enjoying wine, hanging with friends, getting deep massages, sleeping in on the weekends, seeing films, theater, jazz and classical music performances. I enjoy eating well: healthy and tasty foods, cheap foods, dining out at nice/interesting restaurants, and cooking in my kitchen. And as much as I still hate to go, I make it a priority to exercise regularly at the gym. I find the pain of it definitely bearable as long as I have good music playing loudly through my earphones....

Cheers!

I'm a clinical psychologist working with adults, adolescents, and children... graduated this winter so I am now accruing my licensing hours now providing therapy for others (all the ages listed above) and studying for the licensing exam.

having fun and procrastinating.

my blue eyes and my roman nose (I can thank my Italian grandmother for both the good and the bad!).

Highlights include dry wine, Antonia's Line, Matisse's paintings, Spinal Tap, Thai food, spicy foods, jazz, WNYC, Michael Stipe, Grace Paley, Moby, The Smiths, Shontelle, The Daily Show, Kurt Vonnegut, The Royal Tenenbaums, and No Country for Old Men.

dark roast coffee, humor, friends, wine and Quincy my cat (he barks, comes when called, and has multiple digits on each paw. This last thing is supposed to be good luck...?).

my fantasies. I mean anything I am hoping and wishing for. It could be as mundane as the weather or as exciting as something done undressed.

relaxing.... eating and drinking with friends, watching TV, just getting home from work, or getting ready to sleep a lot.

I am pretty much an open book, so the real private stuff is REALLY PRIVATE... the kind of private my unconscious won't share with my consciousness. Needless to say, I won't be sharing it here.

If you are someone serious, relatively smart, passionate, and capable of emotional intimacy. A nerdy/geeky side is a BONUS.