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  • Ages 27-36
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5' 0" (1.52m)
Body Type
Might want kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a goofy lil' gal who likes to work hard and be outside. I'm endearing, loving, full-of-smiles, a bit stubborn, and very strong (mentally and emotionally, at least - my bod has had a tough year but is swiftly repairing).

If I were an animal, I'd be an elephant: I'm intelligent, have a focused, serious side, and I cherish company and community.

I enjoy crafting art projects, reading non-fiction books about stuff I want to learn, hanging out with friends, teaching, planting, dancing, biking, painting, people-watching, public transiting, bodega cat-spotting, and laughing (who doesn't? But I laugh a lot, so I think it's relevant to say here). I love to play! A sport, a game, being a goofball, rollerskating, you name it. Math and art are my favorite things, especially in partnership.

FYI: I've spent this past year battling a rare spinal cancer (chordoma), but I'm in the clear now and not phased by it or upset about it, so you don't have to feel weird about it. I'm still the same upbeat lil gal -- I just have some badass scars now. No, I will not talk your ear off about having cancer, but I'll gladly, openly answer any Qs you have. Just mentioning it here so it's not some weird skeleton in the closet.

I'm delightedly content being just me by my lonesome, but a kindred heart to share the ride with would be icing on the cake.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a software engineer at a wonderful company. Aside from that I do all the funtivities I listed above and more.

I just started volunteering twice a week teaching coding to high schoolers. It's awesome! I'd also like to find a way to put my big data skills to volunteer use for science. I want to draw more and am trying to get a book published (ping me if you know of good agents!).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking to strangers. Laughing to myself. Laughing at myself. Starting (not finishing) various projects. Being a perfectionist AND a procrastinator (tricky!). Quitting stuff I don't like. Finding fun things to do. Observing boring things in a funny way (I think so, at least). Listening to others and chewing with my mouth closed.

Am not good at: brevity, napkins.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm quite short... also I smile broadly and often, and I look like I'm about twelve years old. Because of that I'm easily approachable and therefore approached frequently. It's coo'.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'll tell you what's NOT my favorite: this section! Don't read it. I didn't.

I am frequently made fun of by friends for claiming everything to be 'my favorite,' one thing at a time. Here's a fairly rando list of the first things to mind.

• The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran
• Anna Karenina & War and Peace
• Euclid's Elements (I'm not kidding. I LOVE me some math, especially straight up, original geometry in it's purest.)
• Harold and the Purple Crayon

(Recent faves:)
• A Confederacy of Dunces
• Great Expectations
• Nude Statistics

• Princess Bride
• Shrek (Donkey is the sweetest goddamn character ever invented.)
• Wall-E (I was Wall-E for Halloween a few years back and made an excellent costume, if I do say so myself, and I really do.)
• Little Miss Sunshine
• 40 Year Old Virgin (yep, love it)
• The Green Mile

TV: not my thing, but I loved The Office.

(Most things folks play me and any folksy bluegrass, but some all-time faves include:)
Paul Simon, Tom Petty, Van Morrison, Dispatch, Mumford & Sons, Nina Simone.

As for FOOD, honey badger doesn't give a shit: I will eat whatever is free-est and easiest, preferably not spoiled (except raw onions: foul!).

(I eat meat, but I'm not a huge carnivore, and guess what: I don't really like bacon. "Gasp! What?!" "I know, sorry, it's just too... powerful. Ain't my thang. You can enjoy it though! All yours!")
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
folks I love
heater (I get cold easily - I may perhaps be a species of lizard or insect... too soon to tell, really)
bicycle (mine is temporarily stuck't to my building -- "call the locksmith!" Really though, my lock broke shut, and I haven't dealt with the sitch just yet.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Other people. I like them. I worry about strangers... and friends, and family. I'm a worrier. I know it doesn't help: I was just born anxious, and I do my best to deal with it. I laugh at little kids and dogs every time I see them (who doesn't? Monster.)

I also spend a lot (too much) time thinking about what I'm doing and why and how I can do things better and do more things and whether I'm doing the right things and how to be better and more productive and smarter and kinder and such.

I want to make sure my work has enough meaning and if not how to find work that does. Lately this means coming up with ways to volunteer my skills, as my day job is my dream job and has enough good purpose of its own.

Can I adopt a dog yet? How about now? Ummmm... Now?

AND I think about art and coding projects a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Generally low key. I'm often tired by Friday. I like to have a quiet dinner, post-week beer, ice cream and then read until an early bedtime.

Saturday evenings I like to be with friends, 80's dancing, playing board games, etc.

My ideal fella could happily join me in both types of evenings. I'm not a club-goer, but I like going to chill bars with friends. That said, I much prefer hanging out outside or at someone's home than in a bar. I don't like staying out super-late.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ha! If only there were ONE most private thing: clearly, I have few secrets of my own... not any really. Ask and I'll tell. In fact, don't ask - I'll probably tell anyway.

Ex. Gratia: I HAD CANCER, omgrflol!!! (Nota bene: like a typical too-ironic-for-my-pants, well-educated, snarky, twenty-thirty-something hipster, I only use "lol-speak" in the rarest, most comedic cases. However, I'm not snarky. Hahaha!)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You'd like to meet for a coffee or a beer or a walk or any low-key in-person date (no romantic emphasis on that word). I'm here as a supplement to meeting real people in the tactile, non-Internet world. I'd prefer to message just a few times and meet up somewhere soon. Let's pretend we just sat down on an airplane together and are having a chat (not really, but a great outcome would be becoming friends: if something more develops, that's awesome, but I'm not a big believer in love at first sight).

Also, just do it. A simple message noting a common interest is plenty. I message you fellas without hesitation (unless I'm tired: sorry).

Regardless, if you've made it this far through my profile, I'm impressed. Great job! Thanks for the effort. Double points! Cheers.