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34 M San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 26–34
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Outdoor enthusiast and ambivert.

I love running, biking, hiking, rock climbing, but also sitting in cafes writing. I work on weekdays, cook or eat out on weeknights, and drive to Marin or further afield for hiking and climbing almost every weekend. My goal is actively consuming and participating in the world, not just passively watching it go by. Sometimes I pull it off. Looking for someone to share the adventure when it's adventurous, and the interstices when it's quiet.
What I’m doing with my life
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Work. Play. Repeat. I took most of last year off, it was probably the best summer of my life since when I was 6 and caught lizards and mice in a trap I built in the woods. I always let them go.

I stay fit but I make time for being lazy too.

Also, indoor hobbies: writing, in sporadic episodes, a journal that accretes meaning as words collect on pages: impressions of my unapologetically subjective world. It's a dilettante project but maybe it will become a book someday. I'm always trying to find the right balance of thinking and doing.

I work in management at a growing company. I am nourished by my accomplishments and by those of my close friends and partners. I try to help out where I can.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Over-dressing. I've been called out on this many times. Also, last minute trips to Yosemite, to wine country, to Santa Cruz. Buying one way plane tickets. Minimalist living. A life of variety: suites at the W, and sleeping on the ground in the California desert. Restaurant recommendations. Spotify playlists. I enjoy cooking for someone special.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I am not wearing flannel, though I live in SF. Also, I've been told I have a very easygoing personality. Which is .. good?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I found out about Derek Walcott after reading a review in the New Yorker. His collected poetry in "Midsummer" is amazing and embodies my favorite style of writing, in which nothing at all happens but that nothing sure is beautiful.

I have discovered some great bands by reading cool peoples' okc profiles. My contribution: Odesza. Black Dub. RJD2. Ben Howard. Emancipator. DJ Cam. Sbtrkt. Mum. Mice Parade. Okkervil River. Mr Little Jeans.

On literature, I've read and enjoyed Murakami and Joyce and Hemingway and Nabokov and Garcia Marquez and I hope America can have another author as good as Faulkner someday. The Tiger's Wife was good too. Somewhat of an aesthete, I prefer belles lettres to the content itself.

Almost forgot the food part – I am supposed to write "sushi" here. I like cooking.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Things that nourish the mind - TED talks, travel, conversation with intelligent people.

And things that nourish the spirit - sunrises, music, poetry, affection, caring.

If you are the personification of any of these, I might like you a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

The summer when I was six and how to introduce wonder into an adult life.

Whether solipsism is a personality trait induced by city living or merely a non-causal emergent property.

Whether I should run all the way to the bridge or stop at the warming hut.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At [cool venue name], listening to [obscure indie band], reading [New Yorker or some David Foster Wallace novel]. How did you like my attempt at okcupid humor? (insert sound of crickets)

I am sometimes out and sometimes cooking dinner at home, and sometimes starting a road trip. Do you like road trips?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes change my age on okc. It has a surprising influence on search results. I am 35.

Also I keep my passport on the coffeetable to inspire me to travel. It is almost full but it's the same stamp repeated 50 times, not so impressive.
You should message me if
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Just star me, it's way easier. I usually won't write to someone who visits and doesn't star - mutual attraction matters!