Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i'm either super introverted, or way too talkative, depending
pretty heavily on how much i trust you, how many deadlines i'm
working against, and how much sleep i got last night.
i'm mulatto, but that's "mixed race" to you, unless i give you
permission for anything otherwise. i'm queer, and kind of an
asshole about it. i'm a femme trans boy who lately seems to be read
a lot as a stud trans girl, and i'm learning more and more about
what that means insomuch as my role within a transmisogynistic
culture, these days. my voice isn't what's important here, so i
don't talk about this a ton. i'm from Detroit and the suburbs at
the same time, because i spent equal time in both places until I
was 18, at which point I moved out of both my parents' houses. I
grew up behind a factory on the east side of Detroit, and also
graduated from a rich-kid school in the suburbs, and my head is
still sort of spinning. I have 8 siblings, and none of them have
the same parents as me. I didn't really choose my chosen family,
they just kind of happened to me.
i used to be all about finding words to identify with, but these
days i'm kind of okay with throwing the "reclaiming &
self-naming" baby out with the "identity politics" bath
i will never call myself an artist, but making art is my jam. i
love to draw, take pictures (especially darkroom photos), play
violin, and write, write, write.
i was raised by lesbian separatists and queer theorists and sex
workers and homeless trans youth, and i live every day trying to do
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
i've worked in the social services sector since i was 16, and i
have FEELINGS about it. i want to do something good, and not let it
be about me; but i know that's not how nonprofits operate. this is
definitely not the revolution, but it's a paycheck, and my job
makes it easy for me not to hate myself, mostly because i have a
lot of free reign to get around state-imposed bullshit. i'm working
hard to build a life that's about supporting people outside of
social systems, in a way that's mutual and based on common
personhood. i think that's better than what i'm doing right now.
But my job lets me give free stuff to sex workers, and pays me to
find loopholes in systems of care, to get marginalized folks "in
under the wire" and that's something i feel pretty ok with.
i'm a youth organizer or a youth worker, i think. i don't really
know what that means. i hang out with highschoolers and teenagers,
and talk to them about the logistics of decolonization. we make
media to create culture/shift for queer youth of color in detroit.
it's the best thing about my life, right now.
We are bad about our website, but i guess you could look at
to get a better idea of what i'm talking
I'm in school, and my family just immigrated to two countries at
once, and and i'm having a quarter-life crisis which means i wear
really awkward clothing all the time, now.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
writing, playing the violin, working with kids, black and white
photography, sex worker support, identifying every random species
of animal I know, being friendly, empathic listening, making plans
and seeing them through, open communication, optimism, being
reliable and working hard, learning new skills.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm kind of shy at first, but I open up quick. I'm a really open
person, in general, so I'm not hard to get to know. At the same
time, I'm really intuitive and sensitive, and listen intently. I
want to know all about you, and I want to make sure you're feeling
okay. If not, I want to know what you need, and support you as well
as I can. I can be really, really passive -- it's something I'm
working on, but it'll take time. I'm really passionate, though, and
I love the things I do. I have lots of challenges (who doesn't),
but I'm a naturally optimistic person, and I always try to stay
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
BOOKS: A Taste of Power, Harry Potter, Getting Mother's Body, The
Next American Revolution, etc.
MOVIES: Chop Shop, Dirty Pretty Things, Goodbye Solo, Winter's
Bone, Frozen River, 20 Centimeters, Mermaid, Pariah
SHOWS: My favorite play, hands down, was In the Blood By Suzan-Lori
FOOD: soul food
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. spending time outside
2. playing my violin
3. writing and reading
4. community organizing and activism
5. family (especially chosen family)
6. kids and animals
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
privilege and oppression politics, racial identity, queer identity,
mental health support (outside of the mental health-care industry),
body image, gender, new projects to start, the politics of sex
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at work, or at home. If I wanna' do something fun, I'll go for a
long walk, do some writing, lounge around a book store for a few
hours, or spend time with friends and family.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i'm so far outside of my own culture that i can't even tell what
things are supposed to be private.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you're political, a community organizer, or have a dedication to
grassroots social justice work that empowers people (this is not
the same thing as volunteering for Habitat for Humanity, or
spending your summer saving communities of color.)
If you understand what polyamory is, and aren't threatened by my
other partner(s) / don't think they should be threatened by
You like art, books, tea, bicycles, 'zines, crafting, being
outside, cooking (and are willing to cook vegan), animals, or
If you're trans, or you know enough about trans culture, gender
etiquette, and cis privilege that you can be a safe person for me
and my many, many trans friends and family to be around (this
includes knowing how to effectively use a gender-neutral pronoun,
or at least being invested in learning).
If you wanna talk about "going natural" (I'm talking about hair.)
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