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36 Bellevue, WA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 29–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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Last online
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5' 3" (1.60m)
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Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English, German (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am not complicated. I'm straight-forward but kind hearted. I'm extremely mindful of myself and others.

I live a pretty active lifestyle with my focuses being CrossFit/olympic lifting, hot yoga, running, and rowing... tho not particularly in that order. I grew up in a fairly conservative Japanese household, and was taught that failing was unacceptable. Through CrossFit and lifting, I'm learning that failing is actually essential to growth; it teaches you where your limits are, and how to persevere when you pick yourself back up. The hot yoga has taught me how to breathe through tough times and how to let go; that just living in the current moment is so much more rewarding than spending time worrying about what has happened or will happen. I'm currently training for a half marathon in Feb of 2016. It's been a long time since I've done distance running but I'm slowly learning to love it again. It would be nice not to run on my own all the time. My other big goal for the next 12 months is to row 1 million meters. Sometimes you start working out because of the physical element but, over time, it impacts your life in more positive ways than you ever expected.

Here's an important thing also - I don't necessarily mesh well with those who are super dedicated to the same things I'm into. It's cool if you wanna try my stuff out but it's totally okay if it isn't really your thing. We don't have to share everything. What's more important is to be on a similar wavelength when it comes to drive and ambitions and lifestyle IMO.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm busy spending my time in ways that make me happy. I work, but it doesn't rule my life at all. I don't think being double booked and frantically fitting too many things into one day makes you cool. I'm trying to simplify my commitments and just do the things that bring me joy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Learning. Staying focused on goals. Being independent. Staying grounded and grateful. Understanding that everything worth having is worth fighting for. Making time for what matters.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The best compliment I have ever gotten, from a complete stranger: "You walk like a fighter."

I hope it's true.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm starting to read more but it's a slow process. Yes, I like music and movies. Right now, I'm in a phase of using food as fuel; which means I'm mostly paleo but trying to learn how to fit in good carbs. I love eating out and splurging once in a while but it wouldn't be special if I did that all the time.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
[1] Acceptance
[2] Savasana
[3] Movement
[4] My eyesight
[5] Failing
[6] Water
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Being and living in the present -- or as one blog called it, "staying where my feet are".

Figuring out what constitutes 'an athlete' and what, if anything, I want to do with the knowledge I have of CrossFit and movement.

Why people don't fight harder for the things they want. If something or someone is great; isn't it worth getting vulnerable and fighting for what could be?

How people who message you here expect to hold an engaging conversation and learn about someone else if they don't ask questions. I ask a lot of questions. If I don't get any back, I'm probably moving on.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going to yoga then maybe making dinner from scratch, or reading in coffee shops, or taking a bath.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Even if you don't do CrossFit, this article extends to all fitness, and life, and is about getting real with yourself and your efforts. It's in this section because most people won't admit that sometimes they do things the safe way. I do too - but this is my reminder that we shouldn't.

When it comes to relationships and dating, this is the best way I can describe how I view it.

I'm competitive; and not just in my own right. I'll want you to be great at whatever it is that you are passionate about. I'll push you to get there; I'll be your biggest fan.

I am not 'laid back', I get motivated about things I am passionate about. Does this mean I am an emotional, uptight mess? Absolutely not. I've got my shit together, I get excited about life, and I don't sit around waiting for great things to happen to me. I hope you're the same.

I love the word 'surrender'. In society, it has always seemed to have a negative connotation but I have never viewed it that way. To me, it means having the strength to accept without judgement (in body, in thoughts, in feelings, in situations, etc.). It's not easy and I'm not great at it, but I take it a day at a time. :)
You should message me if
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You believe strongly in acceptance and understanding; that everyone is who they are and just because they might have different beliefs, passions, or personality traits, doesn't mean it's wrong or needs to be changed. In fact, it doesn't. It just is.

Also, do you relate to any of these qualities?