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36 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:22pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from two-year college
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I decided that my 'Message Me If..." section should be at the top..

Seriously, don't write me if you are not ready to be in a relationship. Be very clear and very ready. I have a full life and want a partner to share it with. If that's not where you are, I hope you find what you're looking for.

Message Me If...

We're at least an 80% match
You actually Want to be in a Real relationship (i.e. you want to be someone's Boyfriend. If you don't, don't waste my time... I cannot stress this enough.)
You're a gentleman
You use standard American English, proper grammar (at least an attempt to), or spell out words (it's YOU not U). Use punctuation. Sometimes it's difficult to understand what you mean without it. Plus, I hate to be the English teacher, but I get some horrific messages that make me question whether some of you went to high school. You would think I wouldn't have to say this but..
You're Agnostic or Atheist (no hardcore Christians; I'm Not a God fearing Christian woman)
You're honest... as in telling the Whole truth, not just not telling lies/half truths or misleading (again, you would think I wouldn't have to spell this out)
You are confident
You're masculine
You like Jazz, even if only a little bit
You're a little cheesy, little dorky, little goofy
You're a hopeful romantic
You're a good guy looking for a good girl
People say you're a sweetheart
You took the time to actually READ what I wrote (this page)... I know it's long.

Really, I am just a nice girl looking for a nice, stand up guy...

I want something easy, fun and meaningful. I'm looking for my complement... Someone to chill at the house with as well as go out, party and have a good time, can roll with life's punches and not sweat the small fights/disagreements (let's face it, we're adults, probably set in our ways a bit. To assume we're not going to disagree would be foolish. How quickly we can get past it is key). Someone to cook for, share mutual foot rubs, push me out of my comfort zone at times and rub my belly when I don't feel well. Call me old fashioned but I take love, romance, sex and emotions pretty seriously (not so much this site, even though the algorithms seem to work well for me). I'm a one-at-a-time dater, as in I only date one person at a time - hoping you are too, looking for something longer term. I'm really not interested in investing time and emotion in someone who's looking for a booty call or a simply sexual relationship. Not that I have anything against it, that's just not where I'm at. If you are... I hope you find what you are looking for... it's not me.

Now that that's out of the way...

I am a California girl with southern roots. My family moved from Southern Georgia when I was a little kid, am the only member of my immediate family to grow up here in California and the south comes out a little in just about every part of my life/me (except politically). I am very feminine... truly a girlie girl (my favorite color is pink and everything), but can hang with the big boys. I'm fairly shy and quiet until you get to know me. I drink often, but not a lot... I know my limits, can handle my liquor and I don't get drunk often. I'm creative, introverted, easy going, passionate, flirty, sensitive, old fashioned, mellow, impatient, driven and complicated.

I love food. I love fatty food. My idea of the four major food groups are bacon, wine, cheese and butter. I love a good burger but try to eat healthy. I try to at least have a salad a day these days. I love cake.

Outside of the kitchen I love theatre (though its been forever since I've seen anything), going to bars, a good cocktail or glass of wine, hanging out with friends, watching movies, "watching the game" and listening to music. I also have a couple writing projects. I'm not terribly physically active; I don't hike, ride a bike or go camping. I can be persuaded to take a walk from time to time... (that walk being on a beach doesn't hurt...)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying it, figuring out what I want it to look like, things and people I want in it and how to attract those things. Currently working as a Pastry Chef in the city. This is my second career and only my second year cooking professionally. Before this, I worked as an actor/singer and did hair/makeup on the side.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking/Baking, singing and acting, feeling things deeply, taking care of people, making things pretty.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes; I've been told that they are intense. I am who I am (and I want you to be you...). My southern accent (after about 2-3 drinks or when I'm really excited about something)...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like a good rom/com, dramas, sometimes suspense, anything with a strong story... not so into horror. I'm into action/Marvel movies (still trying to figure out how that happened...). I like crime tv shows (Scandal, How To Get Away With Murder, Suits, Luther, House of Cards), though I'm a little all over the map with tv (scripted shows, no reality)... Being Mary Jane is my new favorite. S.H.I.E.LD., Orange is the New Black, Agent Carter, Flash, Daily Show, Nightly show, Bill Maher are staples. I like jazz, R&B/Soul, classic Motown and musical theatre... I don't listen to much new/popular music, but if I hear it and like it, I'm a fan. I love me some cheesy 80s/90s music and a sucker for love songs.

I read mostly cookbooks and food magazines but I love fiction as well. Not as much time for pleasure reading right now.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My parents: they are my rocks!
Good friends
Kissing/making out
Delicious food/Good drinks
Creative expression
Coca Cola (one a day; it's my caffeine source... coffee's too bitter)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working. On my nights off, I am relaxing, seeing friends, maybe at a bar, dinner, movie...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My age.

And that I am legally disabled. I've got Rheumatic Arthritis that not only affects my joints but my heart and muscles as well. Thus the reason I don't ride a bike, hike, etc. I've had it most of my life and know how to live with it.
You should message me if
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*** Please send me an actual message as opposed to rating me. I'll never see it and it says so much more about you if take more than 10 seconds to write out a Hello***

*Major Pluses Include*
- You grew up outside of California
- The ability to dress up and go to the theatre
- The ability to teach me something

I will NOT respond if:

You do not have a picture
We are a low percentage match
You ask me for sex or some kind of sexual relationship
You do not use standard American English, proper grammar (at least an attempt to), or spell out words