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longing4more

49 M Dearborn, MI

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:03am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Hi. About three years ago, through a series of bizarre and unforeseeable circumstances, I became the owner of a humble but charming Mexican restaurant in Brazil. It’s impossible to summarize myself without mentioning this. I spend a lot of time there. Being a small business owner is all-consuming and overrated to the nth degree. I’m constantly distracted with thoughts of how to improve it. You can’t imagine how many events I’ve had to bow out of because of it. And for what? It’s not making me rich – far from it – and it’s not coastal, so don’t envision palm trees and warm ocean breezes. It’s seriously f***ing with my life! On the other hand, it’s a labor of love and it fills me with pride to know that I created it from nothing. More importantly, it's given me a rare opportunity to experience a different culture from a perspective I never could have imagined. It's made me grateful for so many things that our country has to offer and at the same time has opened my eyes to some of our shortcomings. It remains a priceless experience.

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As it seems to be a factor that's excluding me from serious consideration, I should mention that I'm working on a plan that will allow me to oversee my restaurant (and ideally several others) from here. In terms of a small business, mine is still in its infancy. The fact that it requires an inordinate amount of attention right now is to be expected. Things will no doubt change. I guess I just don't understand why more women don't see this as an adventure worth sharing, an opportunity to grow with someone through their adversity. As adversities go, a professional challenge is far better than a drug addiction or inability to get over one's EX...at least in my opinion. So if the idea of being with someone who is still expanding his horizons, still up for a challenge, and still excited to explore fascinating new opportunities in a global community scares you...if, like the song goes, you'd prefer cold comfort over change or the lead role in a cage to a walk-on part in the war, then I'm probably not right for you. Otherwise, well, wish you were here...
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Apart from this, I’m a voracious reader. I’m NEVER without a book. I read when I’m in line at the grocery store, a bank, the DMV, anywhere I can squeeze in a paragraph. Let’s see, what else? I approach life with equanimity. I wasn't always like this; I had to get through my 20's before I began to mellow. I think I’m pretty funny, intelligent, and extroverted. I love people, even the few that annoy me, and I never feel self-conscious or out of place. I’m a citizen of the world. I’m relatively far left on the political spectrum. I talk a lot. My mother is always telling me to shut up. She says that I'd be more intriguing if I kept some things to myself instead of saying exactly what I think. I often wonder if I’ll always feel like there’s an 18 year old boy trapped inside of me. I don’t just mean in my imagination, in many respects I behave like an 18 year old.* When I think about what my father was like at my age, it blows my mind. Why do some people get like that, all serious with no energy and little sense of adventure? I love him, but shoot me in the head if I ever become him. I love the outdoors and I've camped in all the major National Parks in America. Though to be honest, it’s been a couple years since I woke up in a tent. I miss it. I went to U of M. I majored in economics and minored in philosophy, political science, and speech. I later returned to become a certified Social Studies teacher in secondary education. Yeah I know, my educational background doesn't relate to my work at all, but you've likely heard (and perhaps you're living it) that saying, "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans."

Finally, whatever it is, I’m game. There’s NOTHING I won’t try (twice if it doesn’t kill me).

* This shouldn't be seen as an admission of immaturity or, in fact, any character flaw. It means, for example, that I scream like a girl when I'm at the top of a rollercoaster (just for fun, not from fear), that I'm usually quick to agree to strange proposals ("Hey Robert, let's go downtown to the bus stop and offer to take the first person we see anywhere they want for free."), that I make snow angels whenever it snows (the last time was in the middle of the parking lot at a crowded shopping mall), or that I don't hesitate to accept most dares ("I'll bet you can't climb that tree in 60 seconds or less."). If nothing else, I amuse MYSELF. Besides, it’s all harmless fun…at least until you wake up with a restaurant in Brazil…
What I’m doing with my life
Wow. Who worded this, my mother? Doesn't it sound more like an indictement than a question? Why do I feel like any answer short of, "Feeding starving children in India," is woefully inadequate?
I’m really good at
...being modest about things I'm really good at.
The first things people usually notice about me
It's a bit subjective don't you think? None the less, based on what I've actually been told, my eyes; based on my life's experiences - and totally inexplicable - that I always seem to understand whatever it is I'm being told, that I'm always acutely aware of my surroundings, and that I'm always in control of any situation. These are assumptions many people make and, between you and me, they're totally erroneous...but I can't say that I don't like them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read 3 to 5 novels (actual books, not virtual ones) a month. I've been this way since elementary school. My list of favorites includes some the classics, to a few murder mysteries, and even some college textbooks. About movies, I'm afraid that if I try to name a few, I'll forever be obsessing about it. I could see myself editing this section every day if I'm not careful, so you're just gonna have to chat with me if you want more information. I will say this, different is always good. By this I mean Sundance & Cannes award winners, unpredictable plots, Indy films, and movies that actors chose to participate in because they wanted to practice their craft as opposed to make big bucks. If by 'shows' they mean television, I haven't watched much these past few years. If it includes plays, I love 'em. The Fox, Masonic Temple, The Music Hall, Meadowbrook, The Fisher, you name it and I've been there. Cats, Annie, The Phantom, A Chorus Line, Les Misérables, I've seen them all. Music is easy because, other than the lamest of the lame pop/commercial crap (think Lionel Richie's Dancing on the Ceiling) that's sometimes inflicted on us, I love it all. I'll admit to a fondness for the blues, but really I'm all over the map when it comes to music. If it helps to better know me, check out Ann Delisi's Essential Music (101.9FM WDET Saturdays & Sundays from 11am to 2pm). Don't do it for me, do it for yourself. It's Detroit programming at its best! Food, well, for me it's an adventure. There's nothing I won't try and very little I don't like. If pressed though, Asian is first with Middle Eastern/Mediterranean a close second.
The six things I could never do without
1) My morning coffee
2) A good book
3) NPR
4) My Family & friends
5) Fresh air (not like 'to breathe', like 'fresh' air. I love it. I keep my windows cracked even in the wintertime)
6) Music
7) Sex (I debated including this one. There's always the risk that you'll think I'm a player or something. Still, it is what it is...)
8) A purpose

I'm not impaired, I know it's 8, but they all made the cut.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...how to answer this annoying question!
On a typical Friday night I am
'Typical' Friday night? I don't even understand the question...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm far more obsessive/compulsive than average. My family and friends tease me about it all the time.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
...you think we might both enjoy the exchange.

I have to mention something that’s only recently come to my attention. I’ve been told that when a woman politely declines a man’s offer to date, she is most often attacked, insulted, or begged to reconsider. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. I don’t really know what to say about it. If I write to you it’s because there’s something about you that I like. That something varies. It could be as obvious as your appearance. It may be as innocent as the fact that I like the way you express yourself or answer the questions. Perhaps it’s more complex; I identify with some aspect of your life, or we seem like kindred spirits, or possibly even a reason I can’t quite put my finger on. What I'm saying is this: feel free to respond to me, even if only to say, "Thank you but I'm not interested," because you are confident that I believe you're no more obliged to accept my invitation than I am to be just what you’re looking for. After all, if someone said hello to you in a grocery store, wouldn't you at least say hello back? I’ll not let you down…please extend me the same courtesy.

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Thanks for taking the time to read my (admittedly long) profile. It says something about you. I sometimes think that most Americans are so easily distracted by bright, shiny objects that a heavy dose of Ritalin should be added to our drinking water. I sincerely hope you find whatever it is you’re looking for…I hope we all do.