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64 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 50-68
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 24
Relationship Type
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Judaism but it’s not important
Post grad
Has kid(s)
Has dogs and Has cats
English, French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm back on okc after a few months off to deal with an eye issue (not a big deal) and to think about what I am truly looking for in a man.
But first, about me: These are the adjectives that were given when I asked my close friends: vivacious/energetic, open-minded, artistic, free-spirited, funny, loyal, direct and intellectual. ( I don't agree with intellectual. I am quite smart, though.)
I work with adolescents and I still love my work after many years. I was married for 22 years, divorced a few years ago and have a 23 year old daughter and a 20 year old son. I'm ready to open my heart again and while I'm comfortable on my own, I would like to have a partner to explore life and have adventures and fun with; a man who knows himself and who can be strong and reliable as well as soft and loving.
I love making things, drawing, gardening, reading, exploring new places, looking at good art, listening to music and dancing with my dog, working out...actually, sometimes I love working out and sometimes I dread it but I feel so much better when I do that I keep on going. I love the water and have almost always lived on one coast or another.
What I’m doing with my life
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Serving others has always been a motivator in my life. I always see several people in my practice for a low fee or no fee and I consult to agencies that serve underprivileged families.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
my work
finding humor in the absurdities of living
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm 6 feet tall and have red hair. I am not inconspicuous.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Lots. Too many to mention but I'll say a few: For music: blues, some jazz, some classical. I'm pretty eclectic. Michelle Peyroux, Bonnie Raitt, Mark Knopfler, Annie Lennox, Pablo Casals, Pat Metheny, Ralph Stanley, Aretha, Patty Labelle, The Radiators, YoYo Ma, many others. I like food but I'm not someone who remembers restaurants by the wonderful meals that I've had there. I cook occasionally and can make some great meals but I'd usually rather do something else. So if you can cook, bring it on. I do like to eat.
Films: I like documentaries and lots of different genres - The Beast of the Southern Wild, anything with Betty Davis, The Silence if the Lambs is one of my all-time favorites, Searching For Sugarman. ...right now I'm blanking on films so I'll add more later.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my kids
good books
good friends
working out
living near an ocean-I did live in New Mexico for a while. All of the water that was swimmable often had rattle snakes lounging about but the land and sky and sun are beautiful to look at. No fog horns, however.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Worrying that Republicans will set womens' rights back 400 years and that big banks and people with lots of money in those banks are ruling our country. I also think a lot about how people work, how our brains work and how some weeds in my garden have amazingly prolific root systems. I worry about my kids. Yesterday I was wondering where does all the garbage we produce go? Does it go on barges that are littering the seas? I'll have to google that...I did and MIT has started a tracking program to figure this out! I was wrong about the barges. I also think about ways to save more water and about shoes..
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There are no typical Friday nights. Anything from dinner, movies, whatever with friends, Art Murmur, walking with my dog, hanging out with one or both of my kids, drawing.......
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me if
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You have a good sense of who you are and you're looking for someone to spend, hopefully, the rest of your life with. You must like to laugh. I am looking for a partner and a friend, which to me is that both of us are able to talk and really listen, we both enjoy having outrageous fun but can also be serious when it's time for that, we have independent lives and respect and value that in the other. Also, you don't take yourself too seriously and you're okay with each of us telling the other when they're being a jerk.