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58 F Oakland, CA

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Has dogs and has cats
English, French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Tall fun-o-phile seeking mentally able fun-o-phile. According to a panel of close friends, I am: creative, smart, funny, direct, down to earth, progressive, independent, a good friend, and a bit eccentric and unconventional.
I have two fantastic children. A daughter living on her own and in college and a son who is also in college.
One of my passions is my work. I’m a psychotherapist… (only when I’m in my office) and I am very interested in people and how we all work. I got into this field after getting a BFA. Art is my other passion. I had always been interested in psychology so I tried to merge the two, then became a therapist. Now I sometimes draw, paint and generally love to create things..
I also love to garden and put my hands in the dirt. It feels good and I am fascinated by the ingeniousness of root systems.
What I’m doing with my life
That's what I'm trying to figure out. I ended a 22 year marriage a while ago, my kids are older, I feel like I'm starting a new adventure!
I have opened my heart again.

I recently moved from a wonderful but huge house to a small, cozy place with a large back yard that I am currently working on populating: flowers, succulents, cacti, vegetables and herbs. LOTS of weeding.
Feb. 2014 update: Lots more plants in but oxalis continues to torture me.
I’m really good at
my work.
grilling wild salmon with lemon and capers.
being a friend.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm 6 feet tall and have red hair. I am not inconspicuous.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Mysteries: Elmore Leonard, Hiaassen, Stieg Larsson - I loved the Swedish films of his first 2 books. Also, Patricia Cornwell. anything by Oliver Sachs. David Sedaris makes me laugh until my stomach hurts. His sister and what she does with lemons. Others: Alice Sebold, Annie Lamott, Caleb Carr and lots of others. I love to read.

Music: all kinds of music. Some favorite artists: Ray Charles, Elvis Costello, Bob Dylan, Tom Waits, The Radiators, Beethoven, Yoyo Ma and Pablo Casals( I love the sound of a cello.), Ron Carter, The Buena Vista Social Club, Aretha, Alison Krauss, Annie Lennox, Bonnie Raitt. I like blues. I like jazz. Pat Metheny. I would like to learn more about opera.

Movies: One favorite film is The Silence of the Lambs. Why I like this film will need to be explained in person. The Lives of Others. Recently saw Beasts of the Southern Wild, which was outstanding. Documentaries. I love watching old films: Nick and Nora films, anything with Bette Davis, Tennessee Williams adaptations. My son just turned me on to 'Dr. Who". Recently watched with friends 5 years of Battlestar Gallactica in 3 months.
Just started watching "Orange is the New Black". Liked Downton Abbey, found Breaking Bad too depressing.
Listen to NPR to get a sense (such as it is) of what the world is doing, adore Terri Gross. Also, Colbert and Jon.

I love going to art shows, modern dance performances, and taking drives to explore new places. While in New York last spring went to the Alexander McQueen exhibit at the MOMA: Exceptional, fascinating work/an interesting man. I'd had no idea that his clothing lines were all based on the history of Scotland.

Food: ...I like food and truly appreciate it when someone else cooks. I like to cook and can cook some wonderful dishes, but I am not very good or creative with cooking and I don't cook very often. On my own I'll eat yoghurt, fruit, nuts and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Cooking and eating is much more fun when there is someone fun to do it with. I love sushi, but rarely eat it because of all of the endangered fish species and mercury. What comes into my mind: chicken lemon piccata from La Traviata on Mission St., Donburri, freshly picked tomatoes and basil with fresh mozzarella cheese. pomegranates, mangoes and anything freshly picked. And I adore good bread.
The six things I could never do without
my kids
good books
good friends
working out
living near an ocean (though I did live in New Mexico for a while and found the colors and geography beautifully peaceful.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how people work. I think a lot about the state of this country and the world. I worry about my kids. I think about how I talk to my dog and wonder if he really understands everything that I am saying. I think that he does.
On a typical Friday night I am
watching a movie with friends, in my yard if it's light out, making something...if it's the first Friday of the month I might be at Art Murmur in Oakland.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 50–68
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
I am looking for a man who is smart, active, appreciates and uses humor, likes new experiences, is independent and wants to share pleasures and good conversation. You're aware of your emotional life, you like women and you don't take yourself too seriously.