What I have observed (Please note, these are based on personal experience and heavily opinionated):

0. The meat market is over saturated with people who wear nothing but black or white. Please! Notice the people who don't dress the same as everyone else! You are making the situation to get worse!

1. If a guy is tall, always at the bars, has dark hair, has many female groupies, and is older... (there is a very good chance) he has multiple kids by now with completely separate women and doesn't pay child support on any... also competition with the psycho women who stalk him will be harsh. Or he could be gay... Good luck with that.

2. Dating anyone who hasn't finalized their divorce isn't too bad, but moving in with them or moving to live in another state with them is the absolute WORST IDEA I have ever heard. These situations have never worked from what I have seen without massive heart break, cheating, or/and STDs involved.

3. Women who refuse to date their age group 4/5 times will end up with a guy just as immature and way more needy then guys in her age group. These couples are also known for making up a decent majority of the swinger scene. If you are a swinger, watch out, they tend to have deep seeded issues.

4. A guy or gal who always carries condoms isn't a slut. They are the smart ones... only if they keep them up-to-date with the expiration dates. Don't make fun of them or get mad at these people you idiots!

5. Too many people feel that they NEED someone else... this is bullshit. What ever happened to people just being happy with who they are? This is an issue, because everyone rushes relationships and get involved with people they don't even know maybe even hate. Do I even need to explain how wrong that is? Learn to live with yourself and not NEED anyone. Independence is looked down on in our society but seriously, you will be better off in the end when you don't get pulled into serious debt, drug abuse, alcoholism, abuse, etc that your new partner might throw your way.

6. A person who has had a lot of sex is either: A. Someone with self-esteem issues they are trying to compensate for. B. Likes sex and is open-minded about it. The latter (B) is what you want to aim for if intimate sex and honesty is what you are looking for, even if they are extremely rare individuals. Just watch for those who straddle the line or have been known to cheat, although some of those people will surprise you, although if they do stray at least you will know about it.

7. Straight people cheat on each other and put themselves into dangerous situations just as much as queer people. Seriously, shut the fuck up. (from an argument with a guy who I knew was cheating on and being cheated on with his G/F)

8. Most people lie about the number of people they have been with. People who are intimidated by how many people their partner has been with, when they can test clean, has personal issues and should look into that.

9. Although all my life I have been told not to be by other guys and women; being honest really does do a great deal for establishing a foothold for a relationship. Sadly most people reject this idea.

10. Communication: if used in any of these other bullets would help prevent these issues from occurring. Really not sure where this "must be mysterious" stupidity came from because when faced with someone who wants honesty and to actually get to know you, they might just dump your ass outright. Lying about something stupid doesn't help establish trust. Then you lost out on a good thing. Although, if you went that route to begin with you might as well be stuck with someone else who feels the same way.

These are all opinions from experience with friends... I had to witness a few instances these last few days where my knowledge could have helped others, so I present these experiences to you.

At Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade cartoon network had a Foster's float and started up a musical number just to interrupt that with Rick Astley bursting out the front door and Rick Rolling everyone, in person.

Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade Rick-rolled by Rick Astley

Sorry I missed that...

Hope everyone has a great one! Even with the family getting together and being crazy. LOL. Dark meat ftw!

...feel like you are presenting a case to a trial jury on here of mostly a bunch of people who immediately dislike you and will not even give you the time of day?

I make way more friends on here then I meet people worth dating, wondering if other people are having a similar experience.

(Also note: I have changed my profile setting back to bisexual. SO TIRED of the increased attention from women who simply go off pictures and don't bother reading profiles, who then get really upset when they find out I am bisexual even though it was mentioned in multiple places, I will just deal with the guys, they were easier.)

The journal title is reference to something... This is mostly just a random assortment of things going on.

I have to say life went from extremely dull to pretty interesting this last weekend. There is a lot to think about, including Raz's most frustrating thing about me, my need to focus on improvement... well, I might be running out of things to fix in my personality and have one more culprit left to destroy... It is personal, so sorry if I don't mention what aspect of my personality/mentality has to go.

All in all things are looking up. I have run into a ton of people, still no definite friends in the area to hang out with on a regular basis still, but finding things to do when I am stuck at home. Learned I basically can crash most parties hosted by friends without incident... would prefer to be invited, but if that is what it takes that is what it takes. Not sure why anyone would be upset with someone who actually brings food and things to a party as well as never brings the party down, which makes me wonder why I am left off the guest list to begin with. But that is what I am going to do more often.

Still confused by the fact only at one place was "mosh-pit" all about starting fights with other people, spilling their beer, and throwing people from the crowd into the pit... never seen that before. Nor 2/3 of the people smash dancing. It was funny seeing that guy run into a brick support beam head first though. Must have been on some serious drugs.

Found out I still know a lot about first aid, apparently more then the average person.

I find it funny how 1/3 of people find me extremely negative (if by my very odd sense of humor or catching me during particularly bad periods in my life) and 2/3s find me very positive. Out of those who find me very positive half (1/3) think I am narcissistic simply because of the way I talk, comparing stories with people when I meet them, but my life is kind of crazy so it sounds like I am competing with them to "win" the discussion. I never really put two and two together on that. I am not trying to compete with people which would make the other 1/3 of people that I talk to those people who have had similar lives and don't see the way I talk as competitive. These people usually think I am awesome. The more you know...

I have been getting some very odd comments particularly from women I don't know in their 40's. Usually very negative comments that miss the point of the conversation entirely. If they are insults, they are insults that don't really match me as a person, so I have been finding those comments actually quite humorous. GLilyDances is always the exception to this rule every thing she says I hold with the highest regard.

I have been getting IMs from a lot of people lately. Most of which are interested in chatting with me for what I would consider the wrong reasons. Twice I have been IMed by gals who wanted to express how much they would never date me because of the whole sodomy thing... OK, then why are you talking to me? Several female journal writers on here have taken my comments as hitting on them based on their replies that they would never date or have sex with me, when all I was doing is stating a personal opinion about the topic... weird. I have also had a rash of people who are assuming things about me, or reading too much into what I say, trying to cause arguments about things I agree with them on. Last but not least, I have been IMed by a lot of people I can clearly tell never bothered to read my profile. For one, if you don't realize I have a cat, and hate cats, we have a problem. Two, if you don't realize I am bisexual and have issues with bisexual men, we have a problem...

I have the tendency to not IM people after I start several conversations up in a row with them. I believe that if someone doesn't bother to start a conversation with you, they are not interested in chatting with you. Apparently I am wrong about this for a couple people, and they always expect other people to initiate IMs with them... I am not sure how I feel about that. My policy and ideals stand on the matter.

And what happens if I am looking in Charlottesville for matches and there are only 20 total... And I have met all but 7... and those 7 have literally nothing in common with me... I guess I will be driving 100 miles to my dates. LOL, I do better meeting people in person then online, but is kind of discouraging about how few people in the area are on here.

Anyways, I hope everyone else is going into the holidays with gusto. :-p

If you reply please air one grievance at least. Come on, it will be fun. This will be my only journal until Friday-Saturday.

It is when someone tells you how you feel or what you are going to do before anything has happened. Nothing frustrates me more, because most people are horribly wrong and feels belittling.

What is one thing that people do that you hate?

Everyone I know is busy this weekend despite plans laid out weeks ago. So my evening was looking lame then I went out and did something about it... turned out pretty interesting.

+ Brought a friend Chinese Food, more interesting then it sounds, haven't seen this person in forever and only a couple times before that, spontaneous and odd conversations abound.

+ Saw 4 bands at a local club play "hardcore" metal. It was both awesome and incredibly lame near the end. When did mosh-pits become smash dance pits, with the single intent to punch people in the face by rushing the crowd outside the mosh-pit kicking and punching at face level? I know people smash dance at these places, but... NOT EVERY SINGLE FREAKING PERSON THERE and these people usually don't get butt-hurt when someone else hits them, although this evening was an exception to my understanding of the nature of these things. Anyways, when the last band sung nothing but songs about how hard life was and how you should kill yourself, then got pissed because the mosh-pit wasn't big enough, then followed up that rant with a slow song... yeah, it was time to leave. I guess I am too old to tap into that teenage angst these 30 year old guys still have pent up inside themselves drawing a crowd where I was close to the oldest person there and one of 10 people drinking...

+ I crashed a friend's party. I wasn't invited, and kind of tired of good friends leaving me out of the picture, I just showed up bringing food. It was pretty fun, we played drinking games, and after 3 games and who knows how many rounds, I finished one beer. No one seemed to care that I was there, in fact most were thrilled, and most of the other people were lame asses who didn't show. Glad I can be of service when I wasn't expected to show.

LOL, it was an interesting evening. Well worth playing things by ear for once. It would be more awesome if someone else was involved... but I am still finding it awfully hard to meet people in this town compared to other places. I still don't know why, although, I have noticed every group is incredibly niche and tight here.

Went out to see this band, "Shill for the Man" who is pretty awesome in my opinion. As a bonus they were playing after another band that got a recommendation from a friend in DC. Even cooler.

But the headliner, I never heard before.

They pulled up in a tour bus and everything... 8 members to the band... 4 of them were from my high school. Can I do anything without running into people from my high school?!? Especially people who used to steal my Spanish homework from my locker and copy it? Grrr...

Before anyone asks, we didn't supply our own locks. Nor did the school bother to change the combos every year, hence the guy who used to have my locker just gave these people my combo. I guess I am lucky they needed me to be in the dark sorta, because at least they didn't steal anything valuable.

Yesterday I had a moment of being managerial towards my co-developer and exercised foresight into our current plan of actions including anticipation of other key coworkers being out of the office today as well as mind-reading a higher ups mind. Making a one day project turn into an extensive 3-4 day exercise in potential futility. I was given the final say and look what I have wrought... I take charge and increase everyones workload by about 3 times.

Either way, the goals I want to see accomplished will be completed. I am covering all bases without being too complicated. When a higher up says they don't want detailed instructions, but want all the details step by step, they mean they want a pretty diagram with a single reference sheet.

A friend's family is trying to open a restaurant with a full bar and club in town. They paid for the licenses, lease, everything, but weeks before they open the doors on the place, they are served papers to appear in court. Apparently even though everything is under my friend's Mom's name and she has final say on everything, they are claiming that one of her sons is actually going to be running things. Well, he is doing a lot of the work... doesn't mean he is an owner. In Charlottesville that is not decided by legal paper work or anything, it is determined by the guy who owns almost all the bars in town and his army of lawyers.

Why is it such a big deal that one of the sons might have a stake in the business, since he is working to help get it off the ground? He is an ex-con. So they shouldn't be able to get a ABC license while he works there as manager of the bar, big deal, he is going to be working the restaurant side of things. Ok, that might make sense, but the guy who owns most of the bars in town was convicted at attempted murder and assault on two different occasions; an ex-con as well, and has many ABC licenses. My friend's brother, caught stealing just as he turned 18.

One is was rich as hell and is still rich as hell, trying to monopolize the area. The other, never had a lot of money, very successful at getting businesses off the ground then fired once things get lively time and time again. He has dumped every bit of his life saving into this latest venture, along with everyone else in the family.

It looks like they might be taken to court for no reason multiple times to bleed them out of money, bankrupting them, and preventing the business from taking off. Or they can cut their losses and leave...

I hate this town because of assholes like this guy. Since this has happened I have learned a lot about who this guy is, and not sure how anyone could trust someone like that, but then again, he pays off a lot of people in town to keep his reputation strong... and then it all makes sense.