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lookingslowly

48 Woodinville, WA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–53
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:32pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Has a kid, and might want more
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Decency can't be photographed. Just saying.

My friends would tell you that I'm smart, caring, loyal, ethical, direct, trustworthy, and often very focused. Oddly enough, my detractors seem to agree.

I'm looking for someone I can respect, appreciate, like, and cherish. Someone I can share quiet moments with (and perhaps some loud ones). Someone who will grow into a long term partner. Someone whose enthusiasms I can share, and vice versa. Someone to get away with, but more importantly, someone I want to come home to and wake up with every morning. Can't expect to meet that person right-off, but the only way to find out is to try. In the meantime, I'm sure I'll meet a bunch of people whose company I'll enjoy. People worth knowing and talking to.

I've covered a lot of roles in my life. Programmer. Manager. Father. Entrepreneur. Teacher. Researcher. Husband. Friend. Author. And now divorcée, so here I am. I came out of my divorce as primary parent for a couple of reasons. Some good, some less so. My family comes first, but there's plenty of room.

If you aren't ready to be honest with yourself, or you don't want me to be honest with you, I'm not for you. Honesty can be a lot harder than lying, but it's the only way I work and the only way I want the people around me to work.

OKC is a strange place. It seems a lot stranger now that I'm moderating a bit. The one thing I can tell you for sure about it is that nobody manages to capture themselves in a profile. We don't say something, or we say the right thing poorly, or we somehow say the wrong thing well. I find that I do a lot better looking for somebody here to have a glass of wine or coffee with than a life-mate. You don't fit in a summary (or at least, I hope not). I don't either. Nobody here does. So far the people I've met through OKC have been interesting folks.

If i'm not "coffee guy" for you, good luck. If you think I might be, then let's have coffee, or a glass of wine, or a meal. Or maybe a hike. Or a dog walk. We'll talk some. And then I'll walk you back to your car, or your bike, your horse, your Great Dane, or some other means of transportation, or drive you to your doorstep, and say thank you. If we hit it off wildly, feel free to give me a hug. Or not. If I follow up and you're not interested, just say so politely. I'll do the same.

Drop me a note. The worst I'll say is "good luck".
What I’m doing with my life
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Building a new company, figuring out how to be a better single parent, re-immersing myself in guitar and keyboards, reading a lot. Cooking.

Current projects:
- Building a model railroad with my son. He has big ambitions. :-)
- Rewiring part of my house
- Ghostwriting for my dogs (patterpatter.blogspot.com)
- Dog rescue. I keep thinking it's time to shift to something else, but the dogs don't seem to listen.
- Getting out and playing guitar publicly once in a while for fun.

Wondering why men on online dating sites seem to treat people so badly. Recently, someone here said "...of the many men I've had contact with online in the last couple of years, you are the ONLY one who presented himself honestly in appearance, personality and intent; did what you said you were going to do, and didn't turn out to be a jerk or a nutjob." I appreciate the compliment, but I'm horrified.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Breaking complex problems into manageable pieces, whether that's professional or personal. Listening to people. Calling them on their "stuff" in a constructive way when they need that. Teaching. Parenting - though like everyone else that's a work in progress.
The first things people usually notice about me
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To quote a friend: "From my perspective, it is your attentive listening, direct eye contact, and ability to converse about topics that could be considered "boring" in an interesting way."

If I listen, I can learn something from anybody. Which is a pretty good reason to listen.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: sci-fi, business
Movies: Anything that cuts new ground.
Music: acoustic folk/pop, because I play acoustic guitar, but also anything that cuts new ground.
Food: Thai, Indian, or French.

Right now I'm reading Dealers of Lightning, which is about the creation of Xerox PARC (the people who brought you the personal computer). It's incredibly weird to read a book about a group of people when you actually know a bunch of them.

I went down to the Living Computer Museum with my son. Very disconcerting to see the life's work of your friends and colleagues entombed in a museum, and realize yet again that some of those people are gone. Even more disconcerting when my son wanted to know which one I helped create, and sure enough we found it. In a museum.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My son
2. My partner (when I have one)
3. The Dogs
4. Things to read
5. Challenges
6. Music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- How we establish and preserve civil liberties in an online age
- Teaching my son to think for himself effectively
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with my son (age 9) - Friday is the night that neither of us has other things scheduled, so we make the most of it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I went to a farmer's market with my son and a friend last year, and we got separated. She asked him if he knew where I was. He asked "Did we pass any dogs?" Sure enough...
You should message me if
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- You value someone who will value you and treat you with respect.
- You're not a Russian 20 year old (yes, really).
- You're willing to get on the phone or meet for coffee. It's never going to be real unless you make human contact.

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