I'm looking for someone I can respect, appreciate, like, and cherish. Someone I can share quiet moments with (and perhaps some loud ones). Someone who will grow into a long term partner. Someone whose enthusiasms I can share, and vice versa. Someone to get away with, but more importantly, someone I want to come home to and wake up with every morning. Can't expect to meet that person right-off, but the only way to find out is to try. In the meantime, I'm sure I'll meet a bunch of people whose company I'll enjoy. People worth knowing and talking to.
I've covered a lot of roles in my life. Programmer. Manager. Father. Entrepreneur. Teacher. Researcher. Husband. Friend. Author. And now divorcée, so here I am. I came out of my divorce as primary parent for a couple of reasons. Some good, some less so. My family comes first, but there's plenty of room.
If you aren't ready to be honest with yourself, or you don't want me to be honest with you, I'm not for you. Honesty can be a lot harder than lying, but it's the only way I work and the only way I want the people around me to work.
OKC is a strange place. It seems a lot stranger now that I'm moderating a bit. The one thing I can tell you for sure about it is that nobody manages to capture themselves in a profile. We don't say something, or we say the right thing poorly, or we somehow say the wrong thing well. I find that I do a lot better looking for somebody here to have a glass of wine or coffee with than a life-mate. You don't fit in a summary (or at least, I hope not). I don't either. Nobody here does. So far the people I've met through OKC have been interesting folks.
If i'm not "coffee guy" for you, good luck. If you think I might be, then let's have coffee, or a glass of wine, or a meal. Or maybe a hike. Or a dog walk. We'll talk some. And then I'll walk you back to your car, or your bike, your horse, your Great Dane, or some other means of transportation, or drive you to your doorstep, and say thank you. If we hit it off wildly, feel free to give me a hug. Or not. If I follow up and you're not interested, just say so politely. I'll do the same.
Drop me a note. The worst I'll say is "good luck".