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36 Berkeley, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–81
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Feb 26
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Working on university
Open relationship
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am blessed with a life full of love. I live with my seven-year-old son and his mother in our fixity-uppity house, with love and play and hard work. My life is also integrated with my girlfriend who lives nearby with her pre-teen daughter. More work; more play; more love.

I'm straightish, meaning I am much more easily interested in women than men. I have never been monogamous. If there's a limit to love, I have yet to reach it. However, the limits imposed by clocks and calendars are much more tangible. Right now, I'm looking for something light. Of course, it could become something very deep over time, but something light and fun is what I'm ready for now. I want to meet people nearby to talk to, who understand this way of life. I also want to meet a woman (or possibly a very special man) for a good crush to get explorey, dress-uppy, dancey and lusty with. In short, I'm ready for something new, but not too big right now
What I’m doing with my life
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I am renovating a huge house, which was once full of housemates, and will be again.

I'm going to school to learn to invent new technological infrastructures for a more collaborative, emerging civilization.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am really good at cooking and eating and dancing and leading and following and building and destroying and rebuilding and writing and reading and talking and listening.

I'm also good at acrobatic bicycling, wearing tights, solving technical problems, and fixing things around the house.
The first things people usually notice about me
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First, they notice I speak in full sentences, and actually listen while they talk. Then, they notice that I don't care at all about my truck, that my desk is messy, and that I'm bad at telephones. Then they notice I'm very different from anyone they've ever met. (Mostly in a good way.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Here are some favorite non-TV-show shows:

Music ---

Here's a great big YouTube audio leanback for ironing your laundry or rotoscoping your jet engine. Circus Contraption

If you're in a mood to dance--like with a partner and everything--here's one of those UCSF MDs and multilingual women of passion.
Rupa Marya, of Rupa and the April Fishes

Sometimes, I sits and thinks; other times, I just sits. Rosin Coven

Video ---

Marvel at the sexiest pair of hands in the whole world. Vi Hart

Spoken word ---

Podcasts. For driving, woodworking, and waiting for the train:
Radiolab, Dan Savage, The Naked Scientists, This Week in Science, Democracy Now, This American Life, Counterspin

Nonfiction Book of the Year ---
Sex at Dawn
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my bicycle
a good kitchen
a deep bathtub
thick, lofty bedding
methodological naturalism

One thing I could do without: the shadowy international conspiracy of morning people standardizing all the schedules everyone is expected to live by. I say it's time to question the hurried morning. Why should we continue to wake up to a torture device, only to scarf down factory-fresh food while rushing out the door with a steaming cup of morning drugs? ¡Viva la Revolución!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"You fuck with Mother Nature and she's gonna get pissed. She don't always act like a lady." -- Schmootzi the Clod, singing Hot Potato

I spend a lot of time thinking about how our culture could be different, and what I can do about it. I think deeply about human civilization as an engineering project, or as a living being in the faltering process of gaining maturity and wisdom. If we were to make contact with an extraterrestrial civilization, I would be deeply, deeply embarrassed. But I'd get over it quick!

Everywhere I look, I see problems, big and small. I also see solutions. These solutions mostly require more and better participation and democracy--not the lame pseudo-democracy we learn about in civics class, but the deep, self-organizing, uncontrollable, idea-driven, living democracy which is possible, but does not yet exist in technical form. There's no reason we can't use our engineering talents for more than building the latest gadgets. We could be redesigning how we organize ourselves, decide what's important, and get things done together. It's time we advance beyond 18th century notions of democracy, and into the collaboration age. That is my life's true purpose.

Also, math and women. I love math and women.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me privately if you want to see my best pictures. The one on my profile is slightly backlit for privacy.

Around here, any woman's inbox will likely be spammed by unappealing men. This causes problems for both the reading and the writing of unsolicited messages. I would enjoy writing you a nice, thoughtful missive, but only if it actually gets read. To receive some personalized writing, please consider indicating a bit of interest by rating my page, saving me to favorites, or even passing me a little note. It's fun.

For friends and activity partners:
You should have experience handling the problems of polyamory (Yeesh, I don't enjoy applying that word to myself). I need someone who understands. I want to meet some of my own kind of people. I want to meet more friends who don't enforce monogamy at every opportunity great and small.

For potential dates:
I'm looking for something light, but I'm open to seeing it through to wherever it goes. It's okay for you to be single, but don't expect me to be. It's okay if you're a man, but don't expect me to be easily interested. Couples, and non-single women are of particular interest to me. I'm willing to travel, but the further the travel, the less frequently it'll happen.

If you write to me, I will reply. I figure if you make the effort to write a genuine message (short or long, but non-form-lettery), I can acknowledge you with a genuine, proportionate reply--even if it's a clear, polite decline. I won't ignore your message. And if what I see seems matchful enough, I'll give you clearer photos, and we'll start a conversation toward the next step.