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35 Pittsburgh, PA Genderqueer


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  • Ages 22-40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 9:09am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Atheism and it’s important
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), C++ (Somewhat), German (Somewhat), Latin (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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My name is Ross and I ride the fine line between the ever popular "laid-back", "wild-eyed", and "open minded". I've got some pretty solid passions, I'm quite the geeky nerd, and being around people most of my free time makes me feel alive.

I've recently decided the best word for my sexuality is queer (despite my general discomfort with such a fuzzy word), and my spiritual side is a capital "A" Hard Atheist. I'm considering adopting the term Anti-theist, but I don't feel as though it's something I can do with a clean conscience until I've joined a freethinkers group... Organized religion continues to cause a great deal of harm to the world and my home nation in particular. Individual spiritual practices are usually more harmless than that. Usually. If you want to know more than most would care to: I've got a journal post entitled "My Personal Faith(lessness)" that you can check out.

The ideals that get me all riled up are as follows:
Freedom of Speech+,
Freedom of Religion+,
General Constitutionalism+,
The Bible (Not believing it starts with understanding it after all)-,
Individual Rights+,
Heteronormative Nonsense-, and

I can keep my tongue on a lot of this most of the time, but I've been known to get pretty animated over some of it. It's also true facts that I have no inside voice.

A lot of people on this site throw around the words "nerdy" and "geeky" to communicate things as mundane as their enjoyment of books or video games... Why don't you gobble yourself down some Red Pill, Neo -- and I'll let you know what those terms can really mean:

I haven't purchased a video game system since I saved my allowance forever to buy an 8-bit Nintendo in grade school... But make no mistake about it; I game. I'll game the Dickens out of you if you're into that sort of thing. I Dungeoneer a few Dragons here and there, Poker and Spades are my favorites with a standard deck, and Catan is a second home. I've got somewhere between 5-10,000 Magic cards collecting dust in the closet, as well as an Ulduar 25-geared Gnome Mage and matching Human Priest who've been on ice since mid '09. Lately, though, it's been near-obsession with Dastot, Urist, Cerol, their ilk, and dealing with the insanely dumb things they do (as well as their booze addled shenanigans) in Dwarf Fortress.

Since moving to Pittsburgh my focus has been being social with my friends so roleplaying and boardgaming have taken over my more reclusive gaming habits. I'm sorely disappointed in the NPR station available in this city, though -- so I've had to catch the web and podcasts of my favorite stuff when I get a hankerin'.

I turn just about anything math-centered into a spreadsheet (budgets, diet/excercise, etc.), I'm disappointed in myself if a major meme hits the interwebs for longer than a week and I don't catch wind of it, my Gmail is split into 20-some different self-sorting categories. I really don't enjoy Apple's proprietary nonsense, and I get together with my best friends every Sunday to watch Venture Brothers and Metalocalypse. Oh -- and I have the hyper-white habit of speaking in English to its most proper. I'm one of those people who actually enjoys being corrected when he does anything wrong with his primary tongue. My casual writing is frought with elipses and dashes, though -- to match the meter of my actual speech.

I love hanging out, having good conversation, watching movies of all types, and using the Harvard Comma.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm doing a million different things. Ask me -- I'm always sitting on half a dozen undeveloped business ideas. I lack the motivation to bring most of them to bear, though... So I'm mostly just making people's lives just a little bit better through virtue of insurance sales.

I do my fair share of nesting, and making my apartment feel like home is definitely something I get into every now and again.

I've lost another 30 pounds since the start of the year (that most recent photo with the monkey hat is really starting to show it) and I've joined a gym recently. Just 2-3 cardio sessions a week for right now; but I can already feel it making me more awesome.

I'm not your traditional person when it comes to relationships. I'll tell you how I feel all of the time, I don't keep secrets, and I just want to love and be loved, as we all love so plentifully -- even our friends and family. Don't bottle things up just because that's how these games are "supposed to be" played. If the actual printed rules don't say anything different, I'm a fan of exploring the play space. (And, for those of you who might not have gotten the memo: Life doesn't have any official rules.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Remembering where you left things
Making friends
Standing out
Staying calm
Speaking Up
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't tend to "chit-chat"; I like substantial communication.
I'm a bit on the chubby side, still.
I'm not afraid to jump right into a conversation with strangers. It endears me to many, and just plain annoys others. I didn't really want to be their friend if they're going to be like that, anyway. ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Ender's Game quartet, Zen in the Art of Archery, The Prince, A Wrinkle in Time, Stranger in a Strange Land, Freakonomics, The Bones (A book about superstitions surrounding dice.)

Music:They Might Be Giants, Ookla the Mok, Moxy Früvous, DaVinci's Notebook, Arrogant Worms, REM, Bloodhound Gang, The Bastard Fairies, Gogol Bordello, Elizabeth and the Catapult, The Police, The H.M.S. Pinafore (no, really), Cake, Crash Test Dummies, Suzanne Vega (She IS the grandmother of the mp3, after all!)

Movies:The Princess Bride, Fight Club, Ghostbusters, 12 Monkeys, The Fifth Element, Momento, The Big Lebowski, Legend, The Dark Crystal, Labyrinth, The Last Unicorn, The Matrix, Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, Mallrats (and most other Smith flicks), Shakespearian cinimatizations, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, Sweeny Todd, Mad Max: Beyond Thunderdome, Mad Max: Fury Road

Foods:All sorts... Sushi/Sashimi, Indian, Mexican, Ethiopian, Thai, Greek/Middle Eastern, and most any other ethnic food I've discovered.

Websites: Apart from all the usual social networking options; Lifehacker, io9, spaceghetto, Kongregate, TED, Consumerist, and all the normal random meanderings.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
People close to me
My truly awesome luck
Teh intarwebz
Personal Transportation
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The Problem of Evil
Theseus's Ship, Persistence, and Identity
Statistics, Probability, and Practical Application of Maths
Relationship Dynamics and Gender
Solutions for small, every-day things
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
3 times out of 4 I'm gaming with someone in one way or another. Dates aren't all that uncommon, as it's an easy day to find people free... Some big movie premieres in there, for sure.

I do my best not to keep tied to any particular thing. Friday isn't the only day for revelry, either... Not by a long shot! I'm happy to short myself of sleep any given night for a cheap thrill.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think "hetero-flexible" is kind of telling, and certainly not something I share with every Tom, Dick, and Harry.

I like bold and brash people. Movers and shakers. Think Russell Brand, Roseanne, or Jack Black! If you're not the type; I can probably carry us both on this, but you're going to have to tolerate (if not outright enjoy) that sort of thing!

I like showtunes (though mostly the more modern stuff): RENT, Jesus Christ Superstar, Tommy, Once More With Feeling!, Rocky Horror, etc...
You should message me if
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We have things to talk about! I'm pretty flexible, and I'd like to think I've provided a wealth of topics that you can tap on my little profile, here.

Politics, religion/theology, sociology/psychology, most any other -ology... It's all fair game.

I'm glad to chat online, but I'm certainly here for the primary purpose of meeting people in the flesh. I want new bodies in my life -- chatting with random people online is all well and good, but I'd rather do interesting things out in the world after we've found some basic level of getting along.