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Last online
May 2
5' 10" (1.78m)
Christianity and it’s important
Dropped out of Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Russian (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I have now been back in the bay area for just over 3 years, after 22 years away.

I love music - especially making it. I sing (bass), play guitar, bass, bass trombone, and tuba. 15 pts. if you can figure out my favorite clef.

I have made money as an actor, singer, engineer, field hand, library assistant, research assistant, college instructor, telephone survey taker, political activist, data entry monkey, and writer/researcher of career counseling materials. My new job is working with a well-known environmental group and their database systems - particularly in mobilizing the public around issues and electoral campaigns.

I am part of the small, and often invisible, religious left - in MN, I was a proud member of the first Baptist church to call an out-lesbian as a pastor. Here in Oakland, I am appreciating a chance to be part of a truly multi-racial congregation (which is depressingly rare within our country.)

I can't imagine life without laughter - although some would contend that my puns have helped them imagine such a world.

I really enjoy softball - bridge - board games - hiking - and theater. I would also love to expand my interests - so if you have suggestions, I am game.

I have good relationships with all of my family - and you are sure to know where my parents and sisters live in pretty short order.

I have been pursuing biking a bit more in the last year - and recently got a recumbent bicycle which I have ridden around a fair amount of the East Bay - including a 50-mile charity ride around San Jose in early July.

I am bearded, humerous, and musical
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Fighting the good fight on behalf of the environment - and everything else left in the cold when government is dominated by people who think that greed is good. For the first time in my career, I am enjoying the challenges of working to make something good happen - I was getting really tired of playing "defense" all the time.

Playing tuba in a brass quintet, bass trombone in a jazz band, and singing in a church choir.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Explaining technical things to non-technical people.

Recognizing, following, or sometimes inventing a bass line.

Puzzles - crossword, logic, etc. (although I grant that "cryptic crosswords" a la many English newspapers are a stiff challenge)

Learning public transit systems.
The first things people usually notice about me
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1. My beard - It used to be described as "Grizzly Adams" - I seem to be getting more and more "Santa Claus" these days. 2. Bad puns
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: In general - books are good. It is sometimes disturbing to note how much I put onto my Stacy's bookstore "Literary License" account. (It is, of course, much more disturbing that Stacy's is gone.)

I am a sucker for books that refer to the sport of cricket - whether sociological analysis (like CLR James's Beyond a Boundary) - Fiction (I just finished Netherland by Joseph O'Neill) - or just a basic introduction to the sport (Cricket Explained by Robert Eastaway worked pretty well for me). Now someday I will have to see and/or play the game.

I read a lot of science fiction - and particularly like the work of China Mieville, Kim Stanley Robinson, and John Barnes. I enjoy books that are humorous, and a little "off" - well epitomized by Jasper Fforde, Terry Pratchett, and Christopher Moore. Iain Banks - one of the few contemporary authors to be successful both in SF and straight fiction - is quite good with whatever he writes. I have read Jane Austin - and still don't understand why Darcy (or, for that matter, J. Austin) is so esteemed, although I suppose that made it easier to appreciate Pride & Prejudice & Zombies when it came out this year.

In non-fiction, I find Jasper Diamond's work ( Guns, Germs and Steel, and Collapse) generally interesting and thought provoking - although I am not qualified to judge the merits of his anthropological or sociological arguments, I enjoy reading about the history of science, technology, and mathematics.

I am also working on a slow project of reading all of the plays of William Shakespeare.

Movies: I am not a big movie viewer - so probably have to fall back on the collected works of Monty Python as a favorite here. On the cricket theme - I suppose I can include "Hope & Glory" as well.

Music: I particularly like the work of the Bobs, Solas (especially in the Karen Casey/John Doyle years), the Who, and La Bottine Sorriante. I have recently discovered the work of Jonathan Coulton - and appreciate his geeky humor. In "serious" music, I tend to enjoy relatively modern stuff best (Hindemith is a particular favorite) - although there certainly was a lot of renaissance and baroque music that I enjoy. I am not a huge fan of the hard core classical and romantic periods.

Foods: I am a big fan of the use of smoke in cooking - and I like Mexican, Carribean, and Middle Eastern cuisines a lot.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order - my guitar, a computer, my family, smoked salmon, a way to make the world a better place, and something good to read.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Alternative rule structures - whether imagining different constitutional arrangements for our government (who on earth thought, or for that matter thinks, that a 2/3 majority requirement to pass a California budget was a good idea?!?), or different rules for a fantasy baseball league. (Those in the know will recognize someone who spent some - perhaps too much - time with game theory in graduate school.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Well, how do you define typical. Since arriving in Oakland, I have most often been in front of my computer - but this listing is, in part, about trying to change that.
You should message me if
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you want to.

However, if you voted for the gay marriage ban in California, you probably should not bother.