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lostbird

29 F Des Moines, IA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 20
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Smokes
Drinks
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
As a writer, I think a lot about the world around me -- the good, the bad, the bizarre-- and I practice holding two conflicting thoughts in my head. You know, cognitive dissonance. I enjoy putting myself into others shoes to try to understand their viewpoints and what motivates them. I love exploring the world around me, and trying to figure out how things work, especially our universe.

I'm a writer, a composer, a musician, a fledgling scientist, and a great many other things. When I'm alone, I like to pick up my cat and dance with him either to music or to whatever I feel like singing at the time. Other times, I may go for a walk and once I'm suitably alone outside, I'll belt out a song, whether it is nonsense or an actual song depends entirely on my mood.

I have a great love for friends and family, and I tend to tackle people in hugs, especially those I have not seen in quite awhile. With permission of course. Cuddling is perhaps one of the best pastimes, especially for evenings.

I like to keep my mind active, so conversations could take a deeper turn with me. I may pounce upon scientific ruminations, explorations of imaginary worlds, the state of social justice in the world, or engage in good ole Devil's advocate. If you ask me a question, I'll definitely answer, or I may turn my answer into a question for you. Right back at ya.

Some claim I am a boundless energy source, and if they could just capture me long enough, they'd extract enough energy to power a city for years. But that is if you can catch me. I'm untameable, wild and full of curiosity. I seek the unknown and love to travel. No matter where I go, I love to sit and listen to the stories of others. Everyone has a tale to share, and everyone has worth and value. I hope, in my journeys through life, to help people find that spark within themselves, even in the darkest of times. Because, I admit it, as energetic and idealistic as I can be, I have my dark moments where the injustice in the world seems overwhelming, where nothing seems to go right. All I can do is stand up and fight. Forge my way through the dark and back toward the light, because there's got to be more to life than what's here. And I'll be darned if I don't find some way to make this world a better place.
What I’m doing with my life
I write. I write science fiction. I write poetry. I write nonfiction blog entries. If I'm not writing, then I'm writing music or playing video games. Or biking. Or visiting friends. Or sleeping. Or eating. Or working.

You know, living my life.
I’m really good at
... being energetic.
... at critiquing stories.
... at listening and/or giving someone a hug.
... being an advocate.
The first things people usually notice about me
Heh. My curls? Yes, they are real.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In regards to books:

My reading interests vary. Here are some favorites, most being from the science fiction or fantasy genres, but with a bit of nonfiction as well: Dan Simmon's Hyperion Cantos, Ursula Le Guin's Left Hand of Darkness, Lathe of Heaven, and Dispossessed, Peter Hamilton's Pandora's Star and Judas Unchained, James Triptee Jr.'s Her Smoke Rose Up Forever Anthology, J.R.R. Tolkien's Lord of the Rings, Charles DeLint's The Little Country, Juliet Marillier's Daughter of the Forest, Nancy Green's Annie on my Mind, Markus Zusak's The Book Thief, Brian Greene's The Elegant Universe, Dr. Joan Roughgarden's Evolution's Rainbow: Diversity, Gender, and Sexuality in Nature and People, Kate Bornstein's Gender Outlaw, Bell Hook's Feminism is for Everybody, and Dr. Estes's Women who Run with the Wolves.

Got some books to recommend? Send me a message! We can swap favorites.

In regards to movies and TV shows:

Movies that provoke much thought are high on the list of favorites. I'm open to any movie, though I tend to avoid extremely violent war movies and violent/gory horror. I'm also a sucker for movies like Mulan and Frozen. A few I recommend: The Road, Twelve Monkeys, Mirrormask, Gravity, The Hours, Stranger than Fiction.

I don't really watch much TV, and if I do, it's usually with a friend. Most of the TV shows I watch tended to be science fiction based, fantasy shows, and/or thought-provoking drama. I'm currently watching: Continuum, Orphan Black, and Avatar: The Last Airbender.

In regards to Music:

My tastes in music is all over the place, not really fixed in any particular genres, so here's a fun list of my current favorites: Zoe Keating, Two Steps from Hell, Amy MacDonald, Explosions in the Sky, Cirque de Soleil, Celtic Women, Muse, Nightwish, Florence + the Machine, Rurutia, Apocalyptica, Sara Bareilles, Rokysopp, Kitaro, Virgin Black, and Bear McCreary. Though I have dozens more that I also enjoy. Most of my music tends to be international as well. I love variety.

In regards to Food:

I love asian, especially Thai, Japanese, and Korean. Authentic Mexican is great too - especially mole sauce on corn enchiladas.
The six things I could never do without
My writing kit.
Friends.
Books. (Do I really need one more? Why yes, yes I do.)
Music.
Tea!
Cats. (My little buddy, who loves showing off how absolutely adorable he can be.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
To be honest, I think a lot about my created world of Elivera. I reason through plot ideas, tackling possible side stories and how I can integrate it all into a novel. I like exploring characters, really digging into their pasts and capturing their essence within prose. Sometimes I'll sit down and draw maps of the world, city maps, topographic maps, even maps of the tectonic plates to help me note how the land has changed over millions of years.

I also build languages, and this has left me wondering how much of our lives, identity, and society is tied up in our languages. Does language mold society's thinking or is it the other way around? Speaking of identity, what molds our identity? Obviously it's housed in our brain, the wiring of our neurons influencing our thoughts, personality, even right down to our gender.

I think about society, the problems with society, and how to deal with it. How to capture those problems through stories and how to explore possible answers (or explore new questions) through the art of writing.

When I look up at night, I think about how the light from those stars took thousands if not millions of years to reach our eyes. We are literally looking into the past each time we look up at those stars. How cool is that? And just think, all the matter in our bodies, in our planet, in the things we own - all that came from the stars. I could nerd out on this all day really.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typical Friday? Probably writing or playing a game with friends.

Or I might be out on the town exploring new areas.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ha! This profile makes me sound so optimistic.... if only. I guess you could say I've become a bit of a jaded idealist.

I tend to be fairly masculine in my presentation and behaviors. And yes, I do bind. I identify as non-binary, but OKC doesn't allow for that. So there you have it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 24–38
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
If you enjoyed what I wrote here or found it interesting, then by all means start the conversation. Let's have a discussion; it could be fun! Besides, thinking only takes you so far; after that, it's time for action.