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30 • Des Moines, IA • Transmasculine
I’m looking for
- Ages 24–38
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends
- Last online
- Feb 10
- 5′ 6″ (1.68m)
- Body type
- Graduated from university
- Seeing Someone
- Doesn’t have kids
- Has cats
You know, living my life.
... at critiquing stories.
... at listening and/or giving someone a hug.
... being an advocate.
My reading interests vary. Here are some favorites, most being from the science fiction or fantasy genres, but with a bit of nonfiction as well: Dan Simmon's Hyperion Cantos, Ursula Le Guin's Left Hand of Darkness, Lathe of Heaven, and Dispossessed, Peter Hamilton's Pandora's Star and Judas Unchained, James Triptee Jr.'s Her Smoke Rose Up Forever Anthology, J.R.R. Tolkien's Lord of the Rings, Charles DeLint's The Little Country, Juliet Marillier's Daughter of the Forest, Nancy Green's Annie on my Mind, Markus Zusak's The Book Thief, Brian Greene's The Elegant Universe, Dr. Joan Roughgarden's Evolution's Rainbow: Diversity, Gender, and Sexuality in Nature and People, Kate Bornstein's Gender Outlaw, Bell Hook's Feminism is for Everybody, and Dr. Estes's Women who Run with the Wolves.
Got some books to recommend? Send me a message! We can swap favorites.
In regards to movies and TV shows:
Movies that provoke much thought are high on the list of favorites. I'm open to any movie, though I tend to avoid extremely violent war movies and violent/gory horror. I'm also a sucker for movies like Mulan and Frozen. A few I recommend: The Road, Twelve Monkeys, Mirrormask, Gravity, The Hours, Stranger than Fiction, Interstellar.
I don't really watch much TV, and if I do, it's usually with a friend. Most of the TV shows I watch tended to be science fiction based, fantasy shows, and/or thought-provoking drama. I'm currently watching: Continuum, Orphan Black, and Avatar: The Last Airbender.
In regards to Music:
My tastes in music is all over the place, not really fixed in any particular genres, so here's a fun list of my current favorites: Zoe Keating, Two Steps from Hell, Amy MacDonald, Explosions in the Sky, Cirque de Soleil, Celtic Women, Muse, Nightwish, Florence + the Machine, Rurutia, Apocalyptica, Sara Bareilles, Rokysopp, Kitaro, Virgin Black, and Bear McCreary. Though I have dozens more that I also enjoy. Most of my music tends to be international as well. I love variety.
In regards to Food:
I love asian, especially Thai, Japanese, and Korean. Authentic Mexican is great too - especially mole sauce on corn enchiladas.
Books. (Do I really need one more? Why yes, yes I do.)
Cats. (My little buddy, who loves showing off how absolutely adorable he can be.)
I also build languages, and this has left me wondering how much of our lives, identity, and society is tied up in our languages. Does language mold society's thinking or is it the other way around? Speaking of identity, what molds our identity? Obviously it's housed in our brain, the wiring of our neurons influencing our thoughts, personality, even right down to our gender.
I think about society, the problems with society, and how to deal with it. How to capture those problems through stories and how to explore possible answers (or explore new questions) through the art of writing.
When I look up at night, I think about how the light from those stars took thousands if not millions of years to reach our eyes. We are literally looking into the past each time we look up at those stars. How cool is that? And just think, all the matter in our bodies, in our planet, in the things we own - all that came from the stars. I could nerd out on this all day really.
Or I might be out on the town exploring new areas.
I tend to be fairly masculine in my presentation and behaviors. And yes, I do bind. I identify as non-binary, but OKC doesn't allow for that. So there you have it.
Life is an adventure. Why waste it in deliberation?
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