Message Her

Join OkCupid

Find better matches with our advanced matching system

—% Match —% Friend —% Enemy

lostbird

28 / F / Gay / Single

Iowa City, Iowa

Her Details

Last Online
May 21
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m).
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
Offspring
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

Similar Users

My self-summary
I'm a queer feminist, a SF writer, and a physicist in training. Life has its way of turning plans on its head, and forcing me to improvise on the spot. Thus I've ended up on quite a few adventures, and no, I won't write them all out here - I can't reveal all my stories and secrets right away, now can I?

I love to explore nature and the nooks and crannies of the urban jungles in which we live. In my eyes, anything in life could be a possible adventure. I also often enjoy a quiet night with a book (or my journal/notebook), my cat, and possibly a cuddle buddy.

A little secret: My cat, Quark, is probably the fluffiest and cutest cat alive.
What I’m doing with my life
I recently graduated from a university with a Bachelor's in physics and a minor in music composition. Currently am working on applying to graduate programs in astronomy - specifically black holes and cosmology.

I am working on two science fiction novels. My plan is to be published someday soon.

I also compose music, typically atonal works, but I have a few tonal pieces as well.
I’m really good at
... being energetic.

... at critiquing stories.

... at listening and/or giving someone a hug.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile. How I often wear a hat, and on the days I don't, how ridiculously curly my hair is.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In regards to books:

My reading interests vary. Here are some favorites, most being from the science fiction or fantasy genres: Dan Simmon's Hyperion Cantos, Ursula Le Guin's Left Hand of Darkness and Dispossessed, Peter Hamilton's Pandora's Star and Judas Unchained, Timothy Zahn's Conqueror's Trilogy, J.R.R. Tolkien's Lord of the Rings, Charles DeLint's The Little Country, Juliet Marillier's Daughter of the Forest, Annie on my Mind by Nancy Green, The Book Thief by Markus Zusak, The Elegant Universe by Brian Greene, and Women who Run with Wolves by Dr. Estes.

At the moment, I am seeking science fiction books by female authors. Any recommendations are welcome.

In regards to movies and TV shows:

Movies that provoke much thought are high on the list of favorites. I'm open to trying any movie, though I tend to avoid extremely violent war movies and violent/gory horror.

I don't really watch much TV, and if I do, it's usually with a friend. Most of the TV shows I watch tended to be science fiction based, fantasy shows, and/or thought-provoking drama.

In regards to Music:

My tastes in music is all over the place, not really fixed in any particular genres, so here's a fun list of my current favorites: Amy MacDonald, Album Leaf, Celtic Women, Muse, Nightwish, Ayaka Hirahara, Rurutia, Apocalyptica, Emilie Autumn, Lily Allen, Mehdi (New Age), Rokysopp, Kitaro, Sigur Ros, Novembre's song "Zenith," and Bear McCreary's Battlestar Galactica soundtracks.

In regards to Food:

I love asian, especially Thai, Japanese, and Korean. Authentic Mexican is great too - especially mole sauce on corn enchiladas.
The six things I could never do without
My writing kit.

Friends.

Books.

Music.

Tea

Cats
I spend a lot of time thinking about
To be honest, I think a lot about my created world of Elivera. I reason through plot ideas, tackling possible side stories and how I can integrate it all into a novel. I like exploring characters, really digging into their pasts and capturing their essence within prose. Sometimes I'll sit down and draw maps of the world, city maps, topographic maps, even maps of the tectonic plates to help me note how the land has changed over millions of years.

I also build languages, and this has left me wondering how much of our lives, identity, and society is tied up in our languages. Does language mold society's thinking or is it the other way around? Speaking of identity, what molds our identity? Obviously it's housed in our brain, the wiring of our neurons influencing our thoughts, personality, even right down to our gender. The complexity that is us.

When I look up at night, I think about how the light from those stars took thousands if not millions of years to reach our eyes. We are literally looking into the past each time we look up at those stars. How cool is that? And just think, all the matter in our bodies, in our planet, in the things we own - all that came from the stars. I could nerd out on this all day really.
On a typical Friday night I am
Depends really. I'm not much of a bar person - it's so hard to hear anything in them, but I don't mind wandering to one if I'm with friends or on a date. If I'm tipsy enough I may even dance with you!

Otherwise, I'm much more likely to be writing my novel, reading a book, going on a random adventure, or playing a game (by myself or with a friend.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Recently left a painful relationship, so will be taking everything slowly.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 23–33
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
.... you enjoyed reading this and are interested in learning more.
.... you also enjoy exploring and/or trying new things.

.... or you just want to meet someone new and hang out. Since you've read this far, why not drop a message?