Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


50 F New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Okay)

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I like to share stories. I take lots of pleasure in narrative details, and I also read a lot. I like moving to music—salsa, around the house, to almost any kind of music (with a few exceptions). I tend to be analytical and intense, but also sometimes sentimental. I pay very careful attention. I appreciate someone who says what he means and also laughter. I smile when I’m happy. I appreciate gentle hands and lots of generosity, compassion, and intellectual engagement.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm pursuing ways to create community here in NYC. I teach literature; so I spend a lot of time reading and thinking about the many ways our world can be imagined and reimagined.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I love being in water, and I'm an excellent floater ( my swimming is not bad.)
Walking slowly (unless it's cold outside)
Talking and listening
Being tender
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Maybe the curls, my eyes, or my voice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Chaplin, Modern Times; Adaptation; I'm a huge fan of Almodovar, and thought In The Mood for Love was stunning. Recently I loved Take Shelter and A Separation.

Books: Edward Jones, The Known World; The Reluctant Fundamentalist; Naipaul, In A Free State; Rushdie, Midnight’s Children; Diaz, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao; I like lots of Amitav Ghosh's writing. I've read some great short story collections recently: by Dagoberto Gilb and Tania James. A couple of years ago I came upon a collection of music from Angola in the 70’s and then coincidentally got introduced to more contemporary music from Angola through a dance community. Some other favorites: Roxy Music, Alfredo de la Fe, Orishas, Norah Jones (her first album especially), Piazolla, Patti Smith, Neil Young. I never cease to be moved by Miles Davis, Kind of Blue. I thought The Wire was great. I watched the last season with Spanish subtitles so I could practice my Spanish.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
--I'm working on a project on the beginnings of colonialism in the Caribbean, so I'm thinking a lot about how slavery was first imagined and practiced and how capitalism developed in relationship to it.
--After spending time in Havana recently, I was struck by the absence of advertisements and the space that opened up for other forms of artistic expression.
--How to imagine and communicate forms of social justice.
--How to be more creative and open.
--Why it's important to value being thoughtful rather than being smart.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 38–59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating