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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 38–59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Today – 4:44pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Okay)
My self-summary
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My mind is very active; reading and critical thinking are near constants in my life and are a big part of how I engage with the world. I have a strong capacity for logical thinking, but I often feel my way through experiences. I teach literature alongside economic history and political theory at a university.

I share stories. I take lots of pleasure in narrative details. I'm not concise. I'm often moving to music—salsa, around the house, to almost any kind of music (with a few exceptions). I tend to be intense, but also sometimes sentimental. I pay very careful attention. I am drawn toward people who say what they mean and also laughter. I smile when I’m happy. I appreciate gentle hands and lots of generosity, compassion, and intellectual engagement.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm pursuing ways to create community here in NYC. I teach literature; so I spend a lot of time reading and thinking about the many ways our world can be imagined and re-imagined. As a teacher, I'm committed to helping my students find new ways of thinking about what matters to them most.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I love being in water, and I'm an excellent floater ( my swimming is not bad.)
Walking slowly (unless it's cold outside)
Moving to music
Talking and listening
Being tender
The first things people usually notice about me
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Maybe the curls, my eyes, or my voice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Chaplin, Modern Times; Adaptation; Ali: Fear Eats the Soul. I'm a huge fan of Almodovar, and thought Wong Kar-wai's In The Mood for Love was stunning. I loved A Separation.

Books: Edward Jones, The Known World; Naipaul, In A Free State; Rushdie, Midnight’s Children; Diaz, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao; I like lots of Amitav Ghosh's writing. I've read some great short story collections recently: by Dagoberto Gilb and Tania James.

A couple of years ago I came upon a collection of music from Angola in the 70’s and then coincidentally got introduced to more contemporary music from Angola through a dance community. Some other favorites: Roxy Music, Alfredo de la Fe, Orishas, Patti Smith, Neil Young. I never cease to be moved by Miles Davis, Kind of Blue.

I thought The Wire was powerful. I watched the last season with Spanish subtitles so I could practice my Spanish.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
--I'm working on a project on the beginnings of colonialism in the Caribbean, so I'm thinking a lot about how slavery was first imagined and practiced and how capitalism developed in relationship to it.
--After spending time in Havana recently, I was struck by the absence of advertisements and the space that opened up for other forms of artistic expression.
--How to imagine and communicate forms of social justice.
--How to be more creative and open.
--Why it's important to value being thoughtful rather than being smart.
--Ways to deemphasize productivity as our primary goal and focus instead on possibilities for creativity, engagement, and a more equal distribution of resources
You should message me if
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You are generous in spirit and have a desire and capacity for intimacy.
You think critically about society's norms and embrace living differently.
Both of these ways of being are important to me.

I count on myself in many ways. And I want a warm, loving, mutual relationship grounded in generosity and thoughtfulness. That might take time to develop. I'm fine with that. But I would like the spirit of these desires to be present in the intention from the near beginning.