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love2lap

43 F Brockton, MA

I’m looking for

  • Bi men and women
  • Ages 28–63
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 7
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Black
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Overweight
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Rather not say
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), C++ (Poorly), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update as of 9-27-14

Finding the person who would want to form a triad or quad with us hasn't been very successful yet (see below: my great aspirations) so I'm taking a little break from the search. I guess I'm just being, for now. I'm still very much interested, though.

Anyone I wrote to, please know the interest and invitation still stand. I'm just letting my ship float through the cosmos on impulse power for a little while. But if you write back, I will respond. :-)

Anyone else who writes me more than a one-liner, I will likely write back as well. Be well! Vanessa

*~*~*~*~*~*~*

Hi there!

There's so much to share about how we got to this relationship configuration. But I have trouble keeping a long story short. It pains me to be this brief, but essentially he (Russ) is mono, I am poly. He has agreed to have a new partner or partners. He considers it an experiment which will allow me to "be who I am." I yearn for a triad or quad relationship, with other partners in self defined relationships with me and/or him. Right now I am in a MFM vee with Russ russell2d2 and Rich sidewinder350.

Onto other things, I love to kiss and affectionately touch my SOs, not 24 hours a day, but whenever it strikes me. Spontaneously. I'm not as physically affectionate with others, I guess, though. I write, I have a vivid imagination and a stressful day job. I love board games, and play Scrabble online at http://www.isc.ro.

Russ and I would love to chat and spend some time with you, have lunch or dinner, share some music, see a movie, start getting to know one another. Rich is more of a swinger and might join us for play, if you should be interested and if we should all happen to click.

Well, I hope to meet someone kind, who likes to laugh. Oh, did I mention movies, do you like those? :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Passing for a cog in a wheel by day, working on my novel by night. And by very early morning. And sometimes by light of my cell phone under the blankets. Learning to connect better with my family and friends. Still promising to make that meatloaf. Starting to connect with other poly people in my area and on FB. Spending too much time on OKC.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reciting great scenes from movies (I'm working on curbing this tendency).

Being tactful but straightforward. Which often gets me in hot water. I forget that people sometimes say things to blow off steam, and I take them too seriously.

I give good microphone. ; -)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My friends say my smile... it likes to jump into conversations before I know it
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
science fiction!
dystopian fiction
Survivor (has started up again!)
classic rock, hard rock, Metallica (the old stuff), Dub Pistols
any burger (hamburger, veggie burger!)
thai, Ethiopian,
most cookies ( trying to quit)
allergic to chocolate and cocoa, my kryptonite!

music:
I have a few favorite musical artists
I enjoy many unrelated genres and individual songs
don't always know who the artist is (!!)

theme song when I walk in the room: "American Woman," Lenny Kravitz version where he eats the microphone at the end

books (totally a sampling, I mean we'd be here forever)
The Handmaid's Tale
The Stand
The Wheel of Time series
Younger Next Year (non-fiction)
Game of Thrones is pretty good till the last book
so many more, yarr!

movies, shows:
LOTR, try watching it in one sitting, good luck!
geeky, wonderful science fiction and fantasy
Harry Potter which I resisted then loved
latest fave: Someone Marry Barry (just check it out, it's hilarious! and sweet)
family guy
family feud (to kill some brain cells when I'm getting too smart)
Continuum - time travel, future tech

other:
I mostly write post-apocalyptic and dystopian fiction.
Every now and then I can write something else. :-)

I like some video games GTA III, IV, the Sims, so on, so on
I like watching other people play
love board games. play with me?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books. I have "the need to read"
intimacy
the freedom to choose
some time to myself (I don't always get it, I need a fortress of solitude!)
ms. goddess (the chaos, the cosmos, nature, the laws of science)
Netflix
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how our dystopian future is probably coming. you should probably learn to do something useful. see: any post-apocalyptic book or movie. yup. :-/

how arrogant we are to think we are at the height of scientific discovery and refined thought! people have thought the same in every era.

What the characters in my book are planning to do. seriously, once i create them, they tell me, not the other way around.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
enjoying the sweet spot of the week: pre-Saturday morning, which is the ultimate!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
ha ha, nice try! :-)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You'd like to make new friends

You are literate but not pretentious, or not literate and not pretentious

You just want to hang out. I want to hang out too. c'mon, let's do it!

you just feel like it

(gasp!) You are the one who wants to come love us!

you want a buddy to watch movies with.

you want to politely jump my bones. you know, after we get to know each other.

your name is ___________ and you really liked my profile!