tags: hapa, tango, travel
It's been 4 years since I've used this site. Why the 4 years? I went back to grad school and then decided to travel and see the world. It's been amazing.
So the quick update: I'm much less of a partier than I was. I was just in Bali (2013) for 5 weeks (of a 7 month trip) and I much preferred the secluded yoga retreat atmosphere to the beach party scene. I'm way, way, way more into Argentine Tango. I'm thinking about settling down and having a family. None of my pictures are recent, but I'm half Chinese, so (in my own opinion) I haven't appeared to have aged as much I might have otherwise :) These days I don't usually wear anything fishnet, but I still love Burningman even though I haven't been "home" since 2010. I'm going to be lazy and leave my photos as they are and that could still be me at a moment's notice ;)
I think I can find a tango dancer to date easily enough, but I'm here because I'm wondering if I can find that perfect, real someone who is difficult to find in person. Someone beautiful and smart, who gets things done, loves both science and art, helping people and enjoying life. Someone who can adapt and grow. And I would promise to do the same too. I've been a traveller for quite a while now. I'm either looking to plant roots or take someone with me and keep going (and start a family).
You know when you're cooking together and you reach out your hand and the other person just wordlessly knows to hand you the salt. That. Yeah, that. The ideal relationship for me would be characterized by harmony animated by the duals of ardor and rejuvenation, collaboration and individuality.
MY MENTAL LIFE:
Keeping this from my previous profile: "My mind seems to span the range from lots of chaotic activity to intense focused concentration, to tranquil quietude. I was valedictorian of my high school, graduated from MIT with a degree in computer science." I now have a masters degree in, I'll say, the social sciences (economics and public policy), but I'm not working in that field. I had thoughts about changing the world for the better as a career choice, but I don't think that's right for me, so now I know a lot more about the world and I want to make my difference on a personal and local level. Professionally I've decided to go back and try my hand in the tech world (soon, as in now). Recently, I've been working in my old profession but more importantly traveling the globe on adventures. I've now literally circled the planet three times. I like talking and sharing. Communication is important. I could talk about relationships for hours (with the right person).
MY PHYSICAL LIFE:
I am a dancer - in the identity, not professional, sense - of Argentine Tango. Even if you don't dance, height compatibility is a must (so at least there can always be the possibility of dragging you off to Buenos Aires for three months at a time). I'm 5'8", so I'm looking for someone 5'6" or 5'7" (perfect for high heels). I'm attracted to people with a similar build to me. I like to eat healthy, fresh food from farmer's markets if possible. I'm really into vinyasa yoga now.
MY SPIRITUAL LIFE:
I finally found a book that is very close to how I see the world : David Deutch's "Fabric of Reality." It's pretty nerdy, I admit. I categorize this under "spiritual" because of some of the outlandish ideas of eschatology (end of the universe) and uploading/duplicating minds (sort of like spirituality). Although there is a lot of quantum mechanics in it, it is very, very different philosophically from a movie like What the Bleep. And actually, there is something quite important to say here on the topic of spirituality as it is normally conceived. I like spiritual people since they are usually kind, generous, supportive, concerned and attentive. I don't believe a lot the same ideas about reality, but the way of living is both familiar to me and cherished.