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33 F Guelph, Ontario, CA

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Last Online
Today – 4:39pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
First: I'm empathic, kinda quirky and an attentive partner/lover. I adore learning new stuff and connecting with people. Regular, respectful communication is very important to me, as is emotional awareness, touch, and understanding the importance of language/the words we choose.

Second: My freelance work involves editing leftist academic material -- so ideally we'd have similar politics and you're at least somewhat aware of grammar and spelling.

Beyond that: I'm queer and exploring polyamory. My (now ex-)wife and I opened up our marriage four years ago, but we later decided that after almost 8 years together, we'd each be able to grow best living apart. So we've transitioned into a lovely friendship.

I would eventually like to find someone(s) with whom to explore polyamory in the context of a long-term, supportive relationship. However, I'm also quite content with my life in a solo sense, so if a relationship isn't flowing, I'm fine to let it go (and become friends, or not). Essentially, I'm into building more commitment if it works for both of us.
What I’m doing with my life
Some of the stuff that keeps me busy (generally): a full-time publishing job, freelance editing and indexing work, owning a house, training for duathlons and marathons, learning/practicing Spanish, going dancing at least once a week, connecting with my loved ones, reading, self-reflection, doing random community/artsy stuff, writing, seeing awesome live music/bands, cycling trips...

Current stuff: just returned from a cycling trip with a friend through rural Cuba, so now I'm focusing on TESOL certification and planning to go back for my MA (which will focus on women's co-ops in the global South, among other things. However, I don't just want some meaningless degree, so I'm working on connecting with co-operative and fair trade organizations in order to actually develop useful, on-the-ground programming and policy change).
I’m really good at
...noticing spelling and grammatical booboos, sketching the human form, running long distances (the other week I ran 40k in 3:30), being aware of my feelings, cleaning up after messy people (...really need to stop that...).
The first things people usually notice about me
Maybe my height...? Also that I'm usually pretty friendly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like so many books/authors, obviously, from Toni Morrison to Murakami, and Chomsky to Freire...but Ivan Coyote, Audre Lorde and bell hooks seem to pop up a lot on my night table.
I'm not a huge mainstream movie or TV person, but when I DO watch movies, they're usually documentaries.
A lot of my daytime music comes from Radio 3, but I also regularly go out dancing to salsa, funk and older hip hop.
I couldn't live without apples. (I eat, like, five a day. Seriously.) And, as it says on the right panel, I'm vegan.
The six things I could never do without
As listed above, apples. Time outside, preferably in a forest or by a body of water. Music/dancing. The people I love. Books. Running.

Also? Reiki. And my bicycle. And my journal.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...gender and sexuality, politics, various social justice issues, philosophical stuff, how much of a train-wreck we're on environmentally and politically (given the current government...*sigh*), co-operatives, anarchism and philosophical stuff, where my food comes from, my family and friends (and connecting with them), caring for others and myself, how to be more conscious and present in my daily existence and actions.

And what the heck I could be doing to be a good person on this planet.
On a typical Friday night I am
Dancing. Or having tea with someone. Or editing. Or asleep, exhausted from a busy week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have quite a few scars on my body and some interesting stories behind them. I actually got a new one in July, too.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 29–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
...if you have an awareness of (and can own) your emotions and vulnerabilities. If your conversations tend to be deep and/or meandering. And, obviously, if you think we'd click or whatever. :) Fyi, I will not respond to messages that basically just say "Hey, baby". Frankly, everyone deserves more respect and intellectual engagement.