Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First: I'm empathic, kinda quirky, and an attentive partner/lover.
I adore learning new stuff and connecting with people. Regular,
respectful communication is very important to me, as is emotional
awareness, touch, and understanding the importance of language/the
words we choose.
Second: My freelance work often involves editing leftist academic
material -- so ideally we'd have similar politics and you're at
least somewhat aware of grammar and spelling.
Beyond that: I'm queer and solo poly. My (now ex-)wife and I opened
up our marriage a number of years ago, but we later decided that
after almost 8 years together, we'd each be able to grow best
living apart. So we've transitioned into a great friendship.
I'd like to find someone(s) with whom to explore polyamory in the
context of a longer-term, supportive relationship. However, I'm
also quite content with my life in a solo sense, so if a
relationship isn't flowing, I'm fine to let it go (and become
friends, or not). I've got lots on the go career- and life-wise,
and you should, too.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Some of the stuff that keeps me busy (generally): a full-time
publishing job, freelance editing and indexing work, part-time
school courses, owning a house, training for duathlons and
marathons, learning/practicing Spanish, going dancing at least once
a week, connecting with my loved ones, reading, self-reflection,
doing random community/artsy stuff, writing, seeing awesome live
music/bands, cycling trips...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...noticing spelling and grammatical booboos, sketching the human
form, running long distances (the other week I ran 30 km in 2:20),
being aware of my feelings, cleaning up after messy people
(...really need to stop that...).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Maybe my height...? Also that I'm usually pretty friendly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like so many books/authors, obviously, from Toni Morrison to
Murakami, and Chomsky to Freire...but Ivan Coyote, Audre Lorde, and
bell hooks seem to pop up a lot on my night table.
I'm not a huge mainstream movie or TV person, but when I DO watch
movies, they're usually documentaries.
A lot of my daytime music comes from Radio 3, but I also regularly
go out dancing to salsa, funk, and older hip hop.
I couldn't live without apples. (I eat, like, five a day.
Seriously.) And, as it says on the right panel, I'm vegan.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
As listed above, apples. Time outside, preferably in a forest or by
a body of water. Music/dancing. The people I love. Books.
Also? Reiki. And my bicycle. And my journal.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...gender and sexuality, politics, systems of privilege and
oppression (and how my existence intersects with those), various
social justice issues, how much of a train-wreck we're on
environmentally and politically, co-operatives, anarchism and
philosophical stuff, where my food comes from, my family and
friends (and connecting with them), caring for others and myself,
how to be more conscious and present in my daily existence and
And what the heck I could be doing to be a good person on this
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dancing. Or having tea with someone. Or editing. Or asleep,
exhausted from a busy week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have quite a few scars on my body and some interesting stories
behind them. I actually got a new one in July, too.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...if you have an awareness of (and can own) your emotions and
vulnerabilities. If your conversations tend to be deep and/or
meandering. And, obviously, if you think we'd click or whatever. :)
Fyi, I will not respond to messages that basically just say "Hey,
baby". Frankly, everyone deserves more respect and intellectual
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