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lttlbitt

54 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Feb 14
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I was recently visiting my hometown, Indianapolis. Family Reunion. Haven't been back since I was a young man.
As an Oaklander, I'm always curious to see if 'there is something there', something I've been missing.
Hmmm, maybe your can't go home.

I am a single black guy from SoCal, who much prefers life in the bay area (I miss the heat though).

The most interesting shift I've noticied in getting older is that, as I find my place in the world (and believe me, I am still searching), the world seems to respond to me better.

Somehow I've been making my living doing what I love, mostly in the area of theater. And when I grow up I want to be... -well that answer hasn't changed since I was little: Happy.

Now, if I can just figure out what that means... I think it includes having a strong sense of community, feeling connected to those around me, and feeling that what I do has an impact on my community.

I am art-minded, adventuresome, and analytical
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
It may be corny to say, but at the moment I would like to see if I can use theater to make the world a better place. Under the guise of teaching theater, I find I am improving reading and writing skills, creativity and, most importantly, thinking skills. I reflect a belief to my students that they can succeed in the sly silliness I put them through, confident that even if not one of them ever goes on to a career in theater, the skills I cultivate in them will help them in life... and by helping to pay my bills, they aid me in my other creative pursuits.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Typically, when I'm not doing theater, I hang out in places where I can sing a lot: (karaoke, piano bars). I love to sing, even dance a little. And I love to talk, love to listen, and ...well, other stuff ;)

I am also good at figure modelling. While I am no body-builder, I also get lots of flattering comments on my body ("are a dancer?" is the most common question).

I have also found I can organize and manage things when I am inspired (like producing plays), encompassing a range of skills that I never imagined I had, until I actually did it (then did it again and again).

I like to play and I like things being fair. That includes games board games, card games, dominoes (or Rummikube), word games like Scrabble (but not their dictionary) and Boggle, childhood games like hide-n-go-seek, tag... seems like I can't get around dogs (or cats) or kids without getting goofy.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Did I mention, I'm Black ? I've got a full head of hair which shifts styles, from afro to twisties (mini-dreads) to stuffed under a hat (usually when I am seeking work).

I also have a calm energy, which seem to exude something people often see as the guy in charge/who knows what's going on. Usually I like that, though I am often mystified by it
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Vonnegut, Steinbeck, Twain, Buckminster Fuller, Shakespeare, Comic books. Lots of scripts. More non- than fiction these days. Mostly scripts these days and comics, from Eightball to the seriously Old School superhero stuff.

Film: I enjoy a good movie (e.g. Wim Wenders, Kurosawa, "2001" Diva), but generally have shifted toward spending my time 'doing' rather than spectating.

I generally avoid TV, but I grew up loving cartoons and can still find them charming (from Sponge Bob to Robot Chicken, yay!).

Music: Rock and Roll 50s,60s, 70s, 80s and beyond, from the early Rockabilly Roy Orbison-Little Richard-Buddy Holly, through the Folk movement and into Psychedelia (Heavy Metal --not so much), with a dab of New Age, a little jazz, a little soul (a smidgen of R&B)...

I should mention I minored in Choral music, grew up with choirs as my main exposure to Classical music. While I don't keep up with it much, to this day a Mass or Requiem can take me somewhere, and I've always loved things like Aaron Copeland, DeBussy, and Satie.

Before karaoke took over my musical tastes --read into that what you will-- I loved (and still do) Beatles, Stevie Wonder & Motown, Joni Mitchell, Simon & Garfunkel, Pink Floyd, David Bowie, Joan Armatrading... lots of singer/writers -some of whom unfortunately don't appear much on karaoke lists. The edges of my musical awareness encompass Philip Glass, Steven Reich, Charlie Parker, Cranberries, Leonard Cohen, Rufus Wainwright.

Thanks to karaoke that list includes: Red Hot Chili Peppers, Foo Fighters, Radiohead, Coldplay and most recently Kings of Leon, Adele & Amy Winehouse and more and more...

Food) Omnivore. Not really a steak guy, not a total health food nut. The food experience that may best define me occured when I was being introduced to sushi. I started to ask what something was, and was told to try it first, then ask. I found I enjoy many things, like eel unagi, that I may not have, had I started with a mental image rather than a taste.

That said, I try to limit sugar consumption, am sort of lactose-intolerant and, being a slim person with low blood pressure, rarely worry about calories or fat content. I've been known for making killer oatmeal.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Wit.
Companionship.
Bacon (maybe I could, but it would be a sacrifice).
Sunshine.
Music.
Humility.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex. Love. Racism (welcome to america). New ways to make a living creatively/artistically... Family (want one; could join an existing one)...

Spirituality (want something reflecting a world I recognize. Did I mention I am former-Catholic?)... Getting older, and ways to do it gracefully.

SEX! I'm a Libra, so I struggle to find balance. I want both the immediate comfort of cuddling and all that (at my age it seems silly to save it for marriage), AND I want a relationship that will grow for a lifetime.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Rehearsing, performing, or attending a live play. That and/or singing at either karaoke (throughout the East Bay) or my favorite piano bar, The Alley --the perfect spot for you to get a sneak peek at me.

And hoping I might bump into you. Its ironic for an actor, but I can get a little shy. So don't be afraid to be obvious. I might miss our chance while I'm trying to avoid being another obnoxious guy bugging you :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My place can get pretty messy (What, you wanted to hear something juicy? Sorry to disappoint).

NEW ONE: My all-time favorite tv show was probably The Waltons, and it probably shaped a lot of my notions of family, spirit, and many things good about America (ehh, did I just admit that?)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 39–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You are looking for someone off the beaten path, willing to see if your quirkiness and mine mesh. Nothing would make me happier than to find the woman of my dreams, but why can't we play on the way to finding it?

re: 'woman of my dreams' ...I would love you to be intelligent (college-educated is nice, but I know plenty of intelligent women who aren't).

-A woman of color would be nice, but they don't have a monopoly on understanding issues of race in America, do they? (…maybe just a good head start)

-And while I may notice how cute your permed/relaxed/tinted/highlighted hair is, there is something I deeply love about well-groomed, natural textures.

-Old or young, tall or short, lanky or 'petite', it is all relative, isn't it? Who cares? A few extra pounds, fine (and I love some nice curves!). I prefer someone not dealing with serious weight issues, both because I am not, and beyond a certain point it just isn't healthy.

How well do we get along and bring out the best in each other, THAT'S what I most want to know...

NOTE ON CHILDREN: I sometimes hate the limited answers of the survey, knowing folks will take them at face value. So yeah, I like kids and -like many of you- want to have them (or maybe you wanted to and did). BUT I'm at a point in life where many female peers are past childbearing age.

So if I have to choose between being with someone who can share my history OR someone to have babies. --guess what? I want SOMEONE TO LOVE. I don't care which way it goes, as long as I get that.

So please don't assume (dangerous word that) kids are a requirement for me. I WANT YOU. If you want to have kids, great; if you already had 'em, maybe I'll get to skip to grandparenting with you. If you don't want 'em... so?

My struggle is finding a woman who is not afraid to get close, yet takes the time to get past any initial giddiness. Let's really get to know each other before trying to map out our future together. TRUST ME, I want it too. But I want to be sure it is great, not just 'good enough'

So if you're willing to have fun, maybe even explore new territory... I promise I am not just looking for a fling. Let's chat.