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lucidcarbon

37 Columbus, OH Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 23–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Nov 23
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Management
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English, C++

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a stealth provocateur.

I have come to terms with the fact that I'm going to put two spaces between my sentences until I die. It's just the way I was raised.

I am a feminist. I don't understand people who aren't.

I am an intellectual with a secret alter ego as a gym-goer who drinks protein shakes on a regular basis.

I sometimes persist in laying in uncomfortable positions in my bed because I don’t want to disturb my cat.

I have mastered creme brulee, chicken piccata, and beer & Cheeto™ battered fried pickles.

I made a tiny painting mourning the repeal of the Glass-Steagall act. I hung it in my guest bathroom. I'm irrationally proud that two people have paid me to paint them copies.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I like coloring outside of the lines. Or maybe I really like making my own lines and finding people to help color them in with me. I'm happy to help color in (or near) your lines, too.

In the tradition of Eddie Izzard, I’m an Executive Atheist. I've spent about the last 15 years building a career out of organizing atheists, agnostics, humanists, rationalists, and other folk obsessed with checking society's work. I get paid to do this. Really.

I'm still doing that, and now I'm also exploring ethical non-monogamy. I'm happily married to Czareleon and we're polyamorous.

Unlike Eddie, and notwithstanding what you might think from my Gaga profile picture , I typically dress in dude clothes.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Massages: well, it might be more the case that I'm very willing to give them and that my hands do not tire easily than that I'm "good" at them per se. Most people seem satisfied though.

Cooking: I make amazing vegan butternut squash alfredo and amazing sous vide steak (depending on what you're into). Amazingness is my general cooking theme.

Burying the lede.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
So I asked someone what the first thing she thinks people notice about me is and she said "well, this is cliche, but your smile—you should ask someone else."

So I found someone else. She also told me that it was my smile.

So clearly my smile is the first thing people usually notice about me. SCIENCE! (sample size? what's that? We're all Bayesians now, right?)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Here are some things that move me.

Music: The track "The Most Dangerous Woman" on Fellow Workers by Utah Philips & Ani Difranco moves me to tears almost every time I listen to it.

Books: This passage in Shalimar the Clown really stuck with me:

"This is Max, the ambassador, who has recently arrived in India to take up his post, and wants to go to Kashmir, which is the great flashpoint, and see it for himself. When he expressed a desire to go immediately to Kashmir, the Indian Home Minister, Nanda, objected strongly that security concerns were too great, his safety couldn't be guaranteed. Then, for the first time in his life, Max Ofals exercised the power of the United States of America. "The nature of overwhelming might," he would later write in his book The Man of Power, "is such that the powerful man does not need to allude to his power. The fact of it is present in everyone's consciousness. Thus, power does its work by stealth, and the powerful can subsequently deny that their strength was ever used at all. Within hours, Nanda was overruled by the Prime Minister's office, and the visit to Kashmir was green lit."

The sentence "I had thought I would have some revelation of specific evil." from the Bell Jar climbs into my thoughts every couple of months it seems.

Also, I have never before read fan fiction, but Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality is tons of fun.

Movies: I like lots of movies, but right now I'll mention a movie that I hated: Star Trek Into Darkness. I grew up on TOS and TNG. The first reboot movie was okay. Into Darkness had a lot of problems, but the gender stuff was the worst. I seriously think they were trying to see if they could get a negative Bachdel score.

TV: House of Cards, Firefly, & Six Feet Under

Food: yes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Making things
2) Making love
3) Making distinctions
4) The people with whom I make all those things
5) My library card (perhaps to soon be replaced by my kindle)
6) My Lodge cast-iron skillet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I believe today that I will not believe in a year.

How science is as much about constructing explanations that make sense to people as it is about the physical world.

That capitalism might not be what I want to buy.

As much fun as sex is, the best part might be the way it deepens emotional connections.

How love is not so different from what makes my liver cells not try to kill my kidney cells—and how this makes love feel more legitimate to me.

How calling something a miracle isn’t an explanation.

How to inspire and empower more people to think for themselves and make decisions together.

Lunch.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I can often be found enjoying a beer on my balcony with friends, or wandering the Short North.

I'm typically out of town for work a couple of Fridays a month.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm about a Kinsey 1.75.
You should message me if
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You'd like to try my beer & Cheeto™ battered fried pickles.

You have hilarious food to make for me.

You think we might also enjoy non-hilarious food, conversation (hilarious or otherwise), and maybe more together.

In the spirit of full disclosure, I keep myself fairly busy. I'm always delighted to make new friends and if the connection is more than platonic, I'm very open to that... but I'm also happy to simply have new friends. ;-)