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36 Pittsburgh, PA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 32–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jun 13
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Open relationship
Has kids
My self-summary
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I'm smart but don't take myself too seriously, generally happy, confident and comfortable with myself, pretty self sufficient, and a generous friend. I have a dry sense of humor and a serious aversion to drama. I assert myself when it is necessary but my basic nature is pretty reticent. I lead a very charmed life though I do a good job of recognizing it as such and appreciating what I have.

I love dancing, cooking, knitting, statistics, and people. I need interaction with others and I also need quiet evenings to myself. I enjoy both monkeys and robots. I really don't like whining. I really do like learning things.

I am the sort of person who seeks new experiences (safely, sanely). I like contrasts. I'm vegetarian but I'll eat food from anywhere on the planet. In my professional work clothes you'd never know that I've got a tattoo and some piercings. I have one degree in the Humanities and another in the Sciences. I like kickboxing and yoga. I usually wear skirts with boots.

I live with my long-term partner and our (elementary school aged) children. I am polyamorous. My partner and I have maintained an open relationship for over a decade, so we have a good idea what does and doesn't work for us. I am open to dating and am ideally looking for another relationship that lasts for a long time with friendship, respect, and sexy fun (I'm a switch, GGG, and have a wide variety of interests). I am not looking for hook-ups and I do not want to disrupt my relationship with my partner. I do want another close, loving relationship which complements that which I am currently so very lucky to have.
What I’m doing with my life
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Right now, I am just trying to get it all done competently. After I get the competence thing figured out, I'm going to work on getting it all done gracefully without breaking a sweat.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: the dictionary, John Steinbeck, accessible nonfiction about things I know very little about. I read fiction which has been recommended to me by a friend or NPR.

Movies/Shows: I consider myself video-media illiterate. I have not watched a movie in a theater in over 8 years. I may not have seen a single full length movie last year. I don't own a TV. I haven't even played any video games in the last couple years.

Music: Ye olde standard indie rock. I love live music from the local punk basement show to the symphony (I rarely like arena shows, though). I like to dance to techno/industrial/goth. I also like more formal dancing (swing, ballroom) but it has been a very long time since I've had a regular partner for it.

Food: Vegetarian. Particularly homemade, Middle Eastern, Indian, and Mexican.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This question just begs for a number of uninformative facetious answers. Instead, I'm offering up the six things that are currently bringing me the most joy in my life:
1. Being woken up by my kids clamoring into my bed.
2. Being at a coffee shop with a good cup of coffee and being totally absorbed by my work.
3. Dancing.
4. Crossing things off my to-do list.
5. Eating home cooked meals.
6. Meditation in motion sorts of activities: yoga, running, knitting, playing piano.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Optimization and efficiency. How to cram the absolute most into my time. That includes cramming in purely pleasurable activities. And there are very complex interactions across activities which need to be taken into consideration.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
totally unaware of what day of the week it is.
You should message me if
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You're looking to expand your social circle and think I might be a good addition.

If you're looking for a sexual relationship, I have the following minimum requirements:
- Confidence and passion about something which is not sports or sex. Have some conversation skills and some interesting thoughts. Teach me something I don't know.
- Be kind to and respectful of others. I have no problem with people who are critical because they have high standards, I have lots of problems with people who are assholes.
- Interest in a steady relationship and getting together once or twice a week. I like going out (music or art or dinner or dancing or lectures) and then going in. I am interested in a dependable and emotionally intimate relationship. I am not interested in a co-dependent relationship.
- Physically affectionate.
- Lives within 15 minutes of me because I hate commuting.
- Age in the 30's or early 40's, race unimportant. Height/weight proportionate and physically active (but you do not need to be super fit).
- No facial hair. Yes, I am serious about this. Yes, I realize it is peak-beard and thus I have just eliminated 90% of the males from the running.
- Not sneaking around behind someone's back.
- D/d free. Non-smoker.
- Able to host because of my kids. If we appear to be settling into a steady relationship, I can host and you can get to know them.
- Bonus points if you like dancing.