Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm smart but don't take myself too seriously, generally happy,
confident and comfortable with myself, pretty self sufficient, and
a generous friend. I have a dry sense of humor and a serious
aversion to drama. I assert myself when it is necessary but my
basic nature is pretty reticent. I lead a very charmed life though
I do a good job of recognizing it as such and appreciating what I
I love dancing, cooking, knitting, statistics, and people. I need
interaction with others and I also need quiet evenings to myself. I
enjoy both monkeys and robots. I really don't like whining. I
really do like learning things.
I am the sort of person who seeks new experiences (safely, sanely).
I like contrasts. I'm vegetarian but I'll eat food from anywhere on
the planet. In my professional work clothes you'd never know that
I've got a tattoo and some piercings. I have one degree in the
Humanities and another in the Sciences. I like kickboxing and yoga.
I usually wear skirts with boots.
I live with my long-term partner and our (elementary school aged)
children. I am polyamorous. My partner and I have maintained an
open relationship for over a decade, so we have a good idea what
does and doesn't work for us. I am open to dating and am ideally
looking for another relationship that lasts for a long time with
friendship, respect, and sexy fun (I'm a switch, GGG, and have a
wide variety of interests). I am not looking for hook-ups and I do
not want to disrupt my relationship with my partner. I do want
another close, loving relationship which complements that which I
am currently so very lucky to have.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now, I am just trying to get it all done competently. After I
get the competence thing figured out, I'm going to work on getting
it all done gracefully without breaking a sweat.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: the dictionary, John Steinbeck, accessible nonfiction about
things I know very little about. I read fiction which has been
recommended to me by a friend or NPR.
Movies/Shows: I consider myself video-media illiterate. I have not
watched a movie in a theater in over 8 years. I may not have seen a
single full length movie last year. I don't own a TV. I haven't
even played any video games in the last couple years.
Music: Ye olde standard indie rock. I love live music from the
local punk basement show to the symphony (I rarely like arena
shows, though). I like to dance to techno/industrial/goth. I also
like more formal dancing (swing, ballroom) but it has been a very
long time since I've had a regular partner for it.
Food: Vegetarian. Particularly homemade, middle eastern, Indian,
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This question just begs for a number of uninformative facetious
answers. Instead, I'm offering up the six things that are currently
bringing me the most joy in my life:
1. Being woken up by my kids clamoring into my bed.
2. Being at a coffee shop with a good cup of coffee and being
totally absorbed by my work.
4. Crossing things off my to-do list.
5. Eating home cooked meals.
6. Meditation in motion sorts of activities: yoga, running,
knitting, playing piano.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Optimization and efficiency. How to cram the absolute most into my
time. That includes cramming in purely pleasurable activities. And
there are very complex interactions across activities which need to
be taken into consideration.
How obnoxious and creepy it is when the age criteria in the "I'm
looking for . . . " ranges from much lower than the person's age to
just a little above the person's age. Like the 38 year old person
looking for someone between ages 25 and 40. Nothing against 25 year
olds (I was once one, too), but if you are 38 and you think you'll
have a good relationship with a 25 year old but not a 41 year old,
I doubt we'll get along very well.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
totally unaware of what day of the week it is.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're looking to expand your social circle and think I might be a
If you're looking for a sexual relationship, I have the following
- Confidence and passion about something which is not sports or
sex. Have some conversation skills and some interesting thoughts.
Teach me something I don't know.
- Be kind to and respectful of others. I have no problem with
people who are critical because they have high standards, I have
lots of problems with people who are assholes.
- Interest in a steady relationship and getting together once or
twice a week. I like going out (music or art or dinner or dancing
or lectures) and then going in. I am interested in a dependable and
emotionally intimate relationship. I am not interested in a
- Physically affectionate.
- Lives within 15 minutes of me because I hate commuting.
- Age in the 30's, race unimportant. Height/weight proportionate
and physically active (but you do not need to be super fit).
- No facial hair. Yes, I am serious about this. Yes, I realize it
is peak-beard and thus I have just eliminated 90% of the males from
- Not sneaking around behind someone's back.
- D/d free. Non-smoker.
- Able to host because of my kids. If we appear to be settling into
a steady relationship, I can host and you can get to know
- Bonus points if you like dancing.
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