Highlight of...the time and reality check
Helped somebody obtain full time employment (JLO)- 2nd time as an
NCS adviser, 1st time since being with this 2nd company- it feels
rewarding when you help somebody achieve their goal. :).
To do: need to go out and celebrate by dance
1) I've been on this site for about 5 years and while in a
relationship didn't delete my profile
2) I met someone here, fell in love, stayed together for 2
beautiful years (I prefer to remember the beautiful moments)
3) We broke up during engagement, 10 days before marriage- no
cheating involved, just too different takes on life and a LOT of
'good friends' influence'
4) We were in love but have not been in touch at all
5) Myself- Available only for a new relationship, no flings, based
on compatibility. I'm a bird and I'll fly the nest with no
happiness, after unsuccessfully trying to save it if we both
believe it's worthwhile, rather than cheat or offend.
The Rat Race...may be ok in the beginning or when changing jobs.
But how much should it control our lives after? Really, dear
friends, look after yourselves before it's too late. Life is meant
to be lived and danced through, not be enslaved by it. We need to
find time, if we care about ourselves.
Listen to this...
Vivir Mi Vida (Live My
Tough times behind, but I have now made it: I am now not only a
professional careers adviser with National Careers Service due to
voluntary work experience and results, but also have been put
forward for a qualification scheme. I am very ambitious and, though
this year has been the year of changes and, to be honest, it has
involved quite a bit of sacrifice, I'm glad I made this decision
and have been seriously acting on it since last year.
I'm going through a 'could be (much) better time' stage, but I
still manage to keep a shiny face and smile at life and people. Do
keep in touch if you like smiling.
I need to bring this closer:
How can I put this? I'm not very religious, but I am a Christian
and this is how I wish to remain. I'm not saying any religion is
better than the others, it's just that I was born and raised in a
certain way, filtered things through and in the end...
Sorry, I have friends from many cultures and backgrounds, I have
lived with them, dined with them, we hang out together, but I'm not
attracted to them. In fact, after a relationship with cultural
clashes, I would prefer someone from my own country, or, at least
with a Latin background, but who envisages his future in the UK. I
would also see that person, not only as a partner, but a good
Why do we cheat?
(don't be fooled by the title, watch the video- it's about avoiding
routine, but not with an outsider)
Same tactics, different approach
I hope I can say Congratulations to all those who no longer have an
account and I hope it means they have found their match. I made
quite a lot of friends on this website. It's not just any dating
site, but I consider it a quality social platform.
Moved to a new place- check
Became a career trainer with a financial and travel training
provider - check
Been offered full time contract with National Careers Service -
Next: Go to the park and have a great time dancing- pending
I had a full weekend with double birthday celebration. Dance night
and Sunday bbq. Did I mention, I have great friends and
This weekend I'm in, though...house duties bound...
Yesterday I probably spent one of the best days in London at the
'Bachata in the park outdoor event'- a picnic with dance, games and
nice conversations with old and new friends, which ended with a
birthday dinner in Nando's. You could just feel the freedom and
harmony in the air. Life can't get any better than that. :)
I KNOW I have a very long profile. That is because I know who and
what I want, but it may not be mutual. I am also aware I make
mistakes, we all do.
Hm...Qu'est-ce que l'amour?
But before we get to this point, let's just be friends. I have my
lifestyle and you have yours. The first step would be to accept we
are two people, not one, and we shouldn't try to change a partner
to suit one's needs. Neediness in a relationship is hardly a good
I also know about 'less is more', but sometimes less is not enough
and we end up discovering that we wish we had known certain details
before getting too involved.
Also, I love animals, had pets when I was younger, but do not
approve of them being kept indoors and certainly not sleeping on
beds. That doesn't mean I approve of them being chained or harmed
in any way. It is just a personal choice.
Looks like I can reinvent myself...time and time again. I believe
that finding a guy who does the same, yet remaining charming,
playful and attractive, would suit me best.
I believe in people and in their ability to fulfil their potential,
no matter where we come from.
Update: Different perspective - career-wise
Professionally proud: Somebody I worked with (career-wise) is
happy. She attended 3 job interviews and has landed the desired
Since the UK government does not need interpreting and translation
services, except when it comes to cheap rates or volunteering, I
have moved onto careers coaching and there are plenty of people who
need and appreciate such services.
As for the rest, still into dance, still enjoying life to its
fullest and, of course, meeting companions alike is still on the
Enjoy life, no matter what: from what I hear, nobody has ever got
out alive from it. :)
My time is divided into personal and professional
On a personal level I endeavour to meet people, virtually or in
real life and develop my personality and skill-set just by sharing
experiences and networking. On a professional level, I am good at
finding the hidden potential in people and motivating them to use
their transferable skills to achieve their desired results.
I'm not the type that does no matter what for the money, nor am I a
money slave. I either do what I do with passion or enthusiasm or
don't do it at all.
London life suits me, as I enjoy organising and participating in
outdoor and indoor events with professional and educated
I've been told I look younger than my age and that's true, I look
and feel younger thanks to dance and to the people that surround me
and I'm sure that you, my special one, are just round the
I dance and I love it, but not only that...it has taken me to
another level, where we meet and dance in the park, have picnics
and go to the barbecues of those involved on their birthday or just
because....we are a big family.
After a busy/bad day at work, I go and dance bachata and every bit
of worry/tension vanishes into thin air. It's like alcohol and
drugs, except it's good for your health. It might look immature of
me in the eyes of the others, but that's who I am, I enjoy life to
the fullest and hope to find somebody like me...one day. Or, at
least someone who accepts my lifestyle, because it's not cheating
and I can still be responsible and dedidated in the relationship.
Tens of couples are either both in dance, or have separate hobbies,
and they are in love with each other, but accept that their partner
has other hobbies and that eliminates the neediness in the
I love Bachata, Salsa, Zouk and Kizomba in the company of my new
friends and teachers at Pasión (Latin Passion), Salsatricity, Ritmo
Latino, London Dance Cartel, Latin Mix and Bachata Spice.
I feel like I'm in a family there, as these are venues where people
greet each other with smiles, hugs and kisses, alcohol does not
take over the evening and elegance and politeness are of
I used to get bored quite easily and those who know me ask me how
come I'm still doing it. I guess all of the above and the sheer
atmosphere are the answer...
All this makes me appreciate the beauty of life in its
Would you like to try? I am not the jealous type and nor should you
be. It's just dance...
An interesting article to read:
If not, no worries, we don't need to share all of our hobbies if we
can find time for each other. Neither would I impose my hobbies on
you, nor would I have you change what you like, just so you can
please me. I would prefer it, though, that we have some activities
in common...the fact is, in trying to fill my time after the
breakup... with something, I have found this and it has proved to
be more than a filler...a resumption of the passion I developed 12
years ago, quite strong at the time, too.
Still single, independent and complete.:)
So, my life is sweet and full and will be only more sweet and full
with a wonderful man –you? Believe me, if you are the right man, I
will make life sweeter for you every day and every night. We are
here to enrich and celebrate each other. Let’s explore and enjoy
and play and see what wonders we can create together.
I have a language degree and am currently a tutor, because I love
children and their creativity, and an interpreter and translator on
the National Register of Public Service Interpreters (NRPSI), as I
have a genuine desire to help; a thirst for knowledge and truth;
and am passionate about foreign languages and cultures and, of
small, but not chubby, green-eyed and some say I'm even cute and
. I'm 37 now, but I'd like to think of myself as stylish
and modern (in some ways).
I guess what I'm saying is that I am pretty feminine, I feel good
in my own skin and I'm confident that once you get to know me
better and we fall in love you will appreciate this the way I
friendly, sociable, active, bubbly girl, but responsible when
, looking for friends and...true love.
I'm confident and assertive, but not in an intimidating way, and I
look for the same in a partner. I'm passionate about love, while
in-control when it comes to managing my life. I am also comfortable
relinquishing control to those that have earned my trust. I love to
have fun in many different ways, from cooking/sharing a nice
dinner, to salsa dancing, or traveling to exotic places. I want to
continuously grow as a person with a strong man by my side to grow
with me. I would be happiest with an intelligent, sexy, educated,
romantic, attractive man whom I can respect, admire and adore.
During the day, I expect you to go out and conquer and you will
have my wind at your back. If you need to work late, I promise, I
won't shrivel up and cry. Do your thing and do it well! Then, when
you've taken care of business, come take me dancing, make me laugh,
tell me your truth without fear and I will make you feel like a
king every day of your life.
So, as I said, I'm on the lookout for an
educated and intelligent man, a bit good-looking, romantic,
sociable and responsible when necessary, non-smoker and with
European values and traditions, preferred- respect, trust and
family orientation are among those I value the most
turns me on more than a man who knows how to be a loving,
thoughtful, creative, playful father! I'm an extremely open and
honest communicator - so be ready for that! A secure, sensual man
who is an open and skilled communicator... the ability to express
oneself well means everything to me. An ultimate gentleman in
public and a passionate lover in private. An educated man who has
many diverse interests, has control of his life and achieves his
goals. Someone who can take pride in his lady and above everything
else is HONEST.
Please do not feel offended, but it is important to me to find a
guy who is strong enough to make decisions by himself
and doesn't feel so insecure that he has to check everything he
does with his peer group to see if they approve. Furthermore, it is
important that he lives on his own
, either renting or
owning the place, but definitely by the age of 30+ he would have
flewn away from the parental nest.
Due to the fact that I'm 'wild at heart', but mature when it comes
to real life situations and profession, I'd rather my sweetheart
was close to my age, please see my age boundaries- and that, I'm
afraid, includes being involved in a distance relationship.
I'm not here to marry
into a fortune
...I believe in sincere love
, but BOTH parties must
"click", both physically and personality-wise.
I am happiest when I am dancing, and can feel the pulse of music
traveling up and down my body, setting me free. Come dance with me
and we will make the dancefloor disappear as we flow right into
I love all kinds of music, but when I hear Salsa, nothing in the
world can stop my hips from swaying, my heart from singing, and my
hands from reaching out for a man who can feel the music too.
If you haven’t yet tried Salsa, don’t worry. Come join me –we’ll
get into the groove together!
"La vida es un carnaval" y una fiesta, and should we decide to
waste it, it may take a loooooooooooooong time, if ever, to get a
And...because we both love the snow, you and I will hop on a plane
some weekends and head to where the powder is. We don't have to
splurge on an expensive hotel. Just being together, weaving paths
in the snow by day and cuddling up at night is what really matters.
And because we celebrate each other rather than pick on each other
(why do so many couples do that!?) every meal will feel like an 8
course gourmet treat, even at some diner, because it will be spiced
and flavoured with listening, laughter, kindness and kisses.
I like sharing good humour, too. We're only human...so let's give
this a funnier side
You've been patient enough to read this, so here's your prize: some
"true" jokes- I may update later:
LOVE, AFFAIRS AND REVENGE
A woman comes home and says to her husband, "Remember all the
headaches I've had in recent years? Well, I no longer have them.
'No more headaches?' husband asks, 'What's happened?'
His wife responds: 'One of my friends recommended me a hypnotist
... He told me to stand in front of a mirror, stare at myself and
repeat 'I have no
headache, I have no headache, I have no headache. ' And it worked!
Headaches are gone .. '
The husband replied, 'Well, this is amazing.'
Then his wife said to him, 'You know, you have not really been a'
macho 'in bed in recent years. 'Why don't you go to the hypnotist
and see if he can help you in this matter? '
Husband agreed to try.
After the appointment, the husband comes home, tears off his
clothes, picks up his wife and takes her to the bedroom. He puts
her on the bed and says to her: 'Do not move, I'll be right back.'
He goes into the bathroom, comes back after a few minutes, jumps on
the bed and makes passionate love to his wife as he had not done
His wife is amazed, 'Honey, that was wonderful!' The man says 'Do
not move, I'll be right back.' He returns to the bathroom, stays
there for a few minutes, returns to the bedroom and round two was
even better than the first time. His wife remains dizzy and
The man tells her again, 'Do not move, I'll be right back.' And
returns to the bathroom. This time, his wife quietly follows him
and there, in the bathroom, she sees him standing in front of the
mirror and repeating: 'She's not my wife. She is not my wife. She
is not my wife ...! '
The man's burial and funeral will take place tomorrow.
A married man was having an affair with his secretary. One day they
went to her place and made love all afternoon. Exhausted, they fell
asleep and woke up at 8 PM.
The man hurriedly dressed and told his lover to take his shoes
outside and rub them in the grass and dirt. He put on his shoes and
'Where have you been?' his wife demanded.
'I can't lie to you,' he replied, 'I'm having an affair with my
secretary. We had sex all afternoon.'
She looked down at his shoes and said: 'You lying bastard! You've
been playing golf!'
A middle-aged couple had two beautiful daughters but always talked
about having a son.
They decided to try one last time for the son they always wanted.
The wife got pregnant and delivered a healthy baby boy. The joyful
father rushed to the nursery to see his new son. He was horrified
at the ugliest child he had ever seen.
He told his wife: 'There's no way I can be the father of this baby.
Look at the two beautiful daughters I fathered! Have you been
fooling around behind my back?'
The wife smiled sweetly and replied: 'Not this time!'
A man walked into a cafe, went to the bar and ordered a beer.
'Certainly, Sir, that'll be one cent.'
'One Cent?' the man exclaimed.
He glanced at the menu and asked: 'How much for a nice juicy steak
and a bottle of wine?'
'A nickel,' the barman replied.
'A nickel?' exclaimed the man.. 'Where's the guy who owns this
The bartender replied: 'Upstairs, with my wife.'
The man asked: 'What's he doing upstairs with your wife?'
The bartender replied: 'The same thing I'm doing to his business
Right- Enough talk about me and my dreams, I'm interested to know
more about you: what you like doing, how you spend your time...your
Care to share? :)
Still want to contact me? :P
The SUN SHINES from now on...:)
Thank you. Bonne chance a tous!
PS I'd like to (re)take up ballroom dance classes
Anyone into that? As you know, I already do salsa and bachata and
love it to bits.