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28 M Berkeley, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 20
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English, C++

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My self-summary
I'm driven by sustainable happiness, a balance between my long term intentions and short term wins. I'm not one to settle for 'either-or' - I desire and will work for both. My priorities are personal growth, social relationships, and giving back to my community, but I’m actively making more space for simple pleasures as well. Laughs, smiles and fun are non-negotiable. I exercise daily, cook healthy meals with my housemates, and I’m exploring deeper avenues of sexuality - embracing and expressing desires, cultivating orgasm, to name a couple. Living in the present, without getting trapped on a hedonistic treadmill and ignoring the future, is my goal.

One of my most prized values is open-mindedness. But I'm very selective with my time - the 'who', 'how', and 'why' make all the difference and trump the 'what'. My lifestyle is often more straight-arrow and vanilla than my extreme openness would suggest but when aligned with my values and with the right people, I'm eager to push boundaries and have all kinds of experiences.

I believe in unfenced/polyamorous relationships. I seek people who actively embrace sensuality and abundant love, but who are NOT looking for indiscriminate sex. Simply put: I'm seeking intimacy in all forms (physical, emotional, intellectual, experiential), in as much depth, and with as many amazing people, as possible. For example, I like group events and connecting awesome people (you?!) with other awesome people. I host and attend events such as hikes and game nights that include both friends and lovers. If you can be comfortable with (or ideally excited about!) meeting other partners, even if it means seeing me be affectionate with others, we'll likely get along!

Keywords that sum up me, and what I'm looking for:
humble, genuine, kind, loving, grounded, open-minded, integrity, solid (family) values, laughing uncontrollably, massage, health, fitness, no drugs/smoking, outdoors, leadership, growth/continuous improvement, people/relationships, humor, transparent, communication, honest, questions, deep conversations, philosophy, poly-friendly, sex-positive, orgasmic meditation, self-awareness, confidence, trust, compersion, nerdy, coder, fun, coaching, volunteering, passionate, hard working, drama free, optimistic, idealistic, purposeful, logical, organized, goofball, efficiency, intensity, blunt/straight forward, cooking, maturity, high standards, energy, enthusiasm!
What I’m doing with my life
UC Berkeley grad now doing and teaching web/mobile development and training/coaching. Life dream: building "Happy Homes".
I’m really good at
Laughing so hard that I cry and my eyes hurt and everyone around me is so confused but also laughing simply because I'm on the floor laughing. Seriously, ask my brother, sister, or family - it's bizarre. But laughing is good for you right? And I'm an optimist. So I'm going to call it a gift :)
The first things people usually notice about me
Eyes. I honestly don't know what color they are. I used to say hazel but now they've changed..
Oh, and that I'm almost always wearing sandals. Or Five Fingers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Documentary: Happy

Atlas Shrugged (no I'm not a crazy Republican. Yes John Galt's circle is awesome). Harry Potter (of course). Bourne Identity (books = AWESOME. Movies = ruined it!). Golden Compass - fantasy wonderland.

Soooo many nerdy non-fiction books, ranging from fitness to leadership to people and sensuality: Three Simple Steps, Switch, 4 Hour Body, Good to Great, Outliers, The Ethical Slut, Slow Sex, Omnivores Dilemma, Chi Running, ...

Matrix 1 and 7/8. No that's not a typo. Matrix Reloaded, up until where Neo gets powers in the real world (wtf?!) is my favorite movie of all time. Matrix Revolutions was a huge letdown.

COMEDIES! Zoolander, Old School, Wedding Crashers, Austin Powers, Weekend at Bernie's, etc.

Shows: How awesome would it be to be on Survivor or Amazing Race (accepting teammate applications.. ;)

Music: You don't want to know.. From crazy techno/trance mashups to Nintendo music to Call Me Maybe. I have "songs of the week" since I'll literally listen to them 50+ times..

Food: Healthy & home cooked.
The six things I could never do without
Mind, Body, Love, The question "why?", Growth Mindset, Great People (Relationships). Bonus 7th: Balance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
This is by far my favorite question and I will gladly answer this in person. Bonus points if you too are an (over) thinker who delights in profound questions and deep conversations (including, but not limited to, "taboo" topics - anything's game!).
On a typical Friday night I am
- game night + potluck: friendly (or not so friendly if you can hang ;) competition in charades, board games, bean bag toss, ping pong, sports, you name it!
- out in nature - on a weekend camping/backpacking adventure or just lying under the stars or walking around. The best things in life often are the simple things.
- volunteering / mentoring
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm 100% an open book and more private is often more interesting. No topic is off limits, nothing is too soon, and you can't go too far - try me :)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're confident, know what you want, can make me laugh/smile and you're seeking the same in others :)

You can't remember the last time you were "bored".

NOTE: I'm serious about seeking "just friends" too - while physical intimacy/lovers are preferred of course, if you're not down with poly (or romance with me for whatever reason), that's fine too. Just communicate as such and we can keep it platonic and still build a great relationship/friendship!

On the flip side, if you are open to/seeking physical intimacy, I do have one important boundary: I take health (both mine and yours) very seriously (and I hope you do too!) so clean and (very) low STD risk is a must.