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lydianblues

59 / M / Straight / Single

Oakland, California

His Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:48am
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other but not too serious about it
Sign
Cancer but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Well, I've tried to be more factual and open in my "self-summary", but the cute jokes just sort of appear by themselves...

1) I keep an unabridged dictionary under my bed, and I know how to use it (the dictionary, that is).
2) Have "Pride and Prejudice" just about memorized.
3) Favorite bumper sticker: "Always remember you are unique, just like everybody else".
4) Am listening to "Moby Dick" on my iPod, not sure why, but how else can one make it through thirty pages of descriptions of the anatomical differences between the different species of whales...
5) I'm still an incurable romantic.
6) Play Jazz guitar badly. I used to be able to play the piano OK, I even attended a music conservatory briefly.
7) I'll never tell you about a great "cab" or talk about visiting the "wine country". These terms just seem pretentious to me.
8) I've never been to Prague and have no plans to do so, although that drops me out of the upscale man-about-town competition. Most people here seem to have been to Prague.
9) I've been to India... viewing the poverty and suffering is a life-changing experience.
10) I agree with Bertrand Russell's "Why I am not a Christian". Also with Steven Fry's amazing speech on the same subject.
11) I am slender and strong.
12) I am constant, faithful, and loyal.
13) I sometimes listen to P.G. Wodehouse stories on my iPhone as I fall asleep. Hugh Laurie says that P.G. Wodehouse saved his life.
14) I have one Ph.D. and almost have another. I just like learning.
15) I have had about 1500 ballet classes.
16) I'm mostly vegetarian, but not fanatic.
17) I've never applied for a job without receiving an offer.
18) I have worked for a two failed startups. Not my fault.
19) I have NEVER told anyone "it's your fault". I don't believe in that
way of thinking. Everyone tries.
20) I'd so much like to have a partner for the (partner required) acro yoga class on Valentine's weekend. (All levels are OK).

Yoga is becoming my passion as I get older. I used to be a ballet dancer, and now it is yoga and running that is keeping me strong and flexible. I love the bit of spirituality and sense of community that is sometimes a part of yoga classes. I don't know much yet about Eastern Philosophy, but I would love to find a partner who would be interested in finding out more about this. Who will go to Bali with me for a yoga retreat?

The most important attribute to me is kindness. And the kind of unselfishness that shows itself a dozen ways in every day that you spend with your partner. There are many other things that are important to me, like a sense of humor (how else can you keep your perspective when things go wrong?), but I don't want to turn this into a list. I can't resist adding one more "trust". Trust is harder to get then love, it requires much more time.

Last winter, the furnace guy came to replace my furnace. He said I had a broken heat-exchanger. Yes, it's true, there has been precious little heat-exchanging going on in my house... How did he know?
What I’m doing with my life
Raising my sweet, beautiful, 14 year old daughter (50% custody).
Working on web site server-side.
Getting more and more into yoga.
Playing my guitars.
I’m really good at
Being empathetic. Finding humor in lots of unexpected circumstances. I believe it's a key to happiness. Being flexible and supportive to my partner.
The first things people usually notice about me
Too honest, no good at putting up a front and hiding things. I have been de-invited from a series of corporate merger meetings for being too straight-forward. Later people find out that there are layers and layers (like Shrek's onion?)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Shakespeare (especially King Henry IV). I just got that new acclaimed translation of "War and Peace". Will read it some day.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Database driven web site design.
Information dispersal data storage architectures.
What I can do to make my daughter happier and less stressed.
What can I possibly find to cook that said daughter will actually eat.
On a typical Friday night I am
Taking a yoga class. Then feeding and walking "Downward" my daughter's dog. Then practicing my guitar. Then checking out "okcupid". Ok, she's not really named downward... I wanted to name her "Edison" because she's a "Lab", you see, but my daughter with her much greater sense of propriety, named her "Lila".
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Under my bed, within easy access to pull out is..... an unabridged dictionary.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 48–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You are kind, kind, kind. No sarcasm, ever. I believe it is always a veiled form of criticism.

You don't have to be a yogini, maybe just sympathize with the concept.