VERY IMPORTANT: I am polyamorous and have a husband (drspooky) and we just had a baby. I am also a poly rights activist, a sex work activist, and a sex education teacher. I am an intersectional feminist, an indigenous rights ally, and generally open-minded. I am happy to talk to you about any of the things that I do, say, or am.
I'm probably the worst person to tell you about myself. I like dogs and my mom and people who can use apostrophes properly. I used to think I was an introvert, but it turned out I was very mistaken. I was married for eight years, and have a tendency to be very attracted to a) megalomaniacal charismatic cult leaders, b) Jews, and c) snappy dressers...bonus points if you combine all three.
I'm an activist. If you don't have a lot of stuff going on, I'm not really that interested; I never want to be someone's only focal point again. I'm equally happy making plans to go out dancing as I am to go out dumpster diving. I don't cycle for fun, only to get from place to place. I spent two and a half years in Australia, so my speech is peppered with strange Aussie-isms.
I've been to Burning Man five times. I used to play the piano. One of my most important items of clothing is my tutu. I'll bend over backwards to take care of people I like. Coffee makes me hallucinate if I have it on an empty stomach. I drink tea instead; boy, do I drink tea.
I lived in a series of Buddhist monasteries in Thailand for a month. I am allergic to alcohol and find going out drinking, talking about drinking, and people who do nothing but drinking to be incredibly, almost stupefyingly, boring. I ticked "mostly" vegetarian because three months in southeast Asia taught me to be flexible about what has fish sauce in it, but I'm not gonna chow down on a bacon cheeseburger anytime soon.
I also seem to spend a lot of time doing yoga. And baking.
Reading quietly with a cup of tea. If this was an Olympic sport, I'd have all the gold medals. Except I don't like sports. But you get the drift.
Finding the ugliest thing in a thrift store and buying it.
And yes, I always have hilarious clothing on. I don't see the point in getting dressed if your clothes don't make you smile.
I don't really watch TV, but when I do, I like it to be either clever or so un-clever it's ridiculous. Example the first: Buffy. Example the second: the HBO series about theMoonlight Bunnyranch "Cathouse" or Showtime's "Gigolos".
Movies are harder. I like a lot of different things (although I think I've permanently overdosed on heist movies), but everyone seems to assume I only like fancy depressing foreign films with subtitles. Weird. I must look intellectual.
Food: anything with cheese. Anything with sugar. Not together.