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29 San Francisco, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27-35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 27
Asian, White, Other
Relationship Type
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Dropped out of University
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i'm a fairly private person. paradoxically gregarious, outgoing. i've been told by friends i should do stand-up. my typical response is to curl up into a fetal position and cry. my awkwardness serves me well in social situations--it puts people at ease, is ever so slightly hypnotic.

friends opine:
"charming like a serial killer."
"basement-dwelling girl next door."
"awkward dad."
"you'd make a great grandma. just skip the mom part."
"wait. aren't you a lesbian?"

places i'm from: dallas, tx; queens, ny; bayou la batre, al; miami, fl; nashville, tn. i've settled in san francisco for the time being and have developed an addiction to steamed buns, lotus filling. (just found out: lotus is psychoactive. thank you, knowledgable members of okc.)

having an intellectual rapport with you is important, but it's your soul-stuff that gets me. also, can you make me laugh?

no pressure.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
'missing thunderstorms. the kind that turns the sky black, but for its jagged snaps of white-hot judgment. the kind that charges the air around you, pricking up the little hairs on your arms and neck. the kind that rumbles low and deep, shaking the earth, rattling that window you're looking out of from the inside, watching the storm's mournful fury as you take a shaky sip of warming cold honey-lemon tea,' said the southe'na.

watching clean clothes wrinkle. this, definitely.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
capitalizing, being simultaneously hyper-observant and completely oblivious, listening, half-listening, catching things before they break, writing premature but nevertheless heartfelt eulogies for friends, hating on twee, assuming accents accidentally, arbitrary alliteration, and assembling bedroom furniture to teddy pendergrass.
The first things people usually notice about me
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that my ancestral continent is, perhaps, asia. and maybe somewhere else? cheeks. dimple. the sun-sapped pallor of my skin.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
get to know me, via these lists of things:

books: east of eden, the idiot, in cold blood, franny and zooey, the things they carried, short stories by fitzgerald, carver, chekov, yates, etc.

movies: operation condor, lost in translation, stranger than fiction, infernal affairs, fargo, moon, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, in bruges, the departed, donnie brasco, annie hall, the hunt (mads mikkelsen, praise), jack's back, toy story, the princess bride, cool hand luke, little miss sunshine, blade runner, star wars, nights of caibiria, seven samurai, departures, gone baby gone, se7en, miyazaki films, kon films, etc.

tv: the wire, breaking bad, twin peaks, sherlock, louie, frasier, an idiot abroad, cowboy bebop, ken burns, firefly, stand-up, wishbone

music: michael jackson, sam cooke, talking heads, talk talk, prince, chet baker, the bee gees, count basie, roxy music, sidney bechet, nujabes, joy division, new order, modern lovers, nina simone, marvin gaye, the isley brothers, the jacksons, etc.

food: indian, mexican, japanese, italian, thai, french toast--i don't discriminate.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
let's narrow it down to one: imagination.

okay, two: french toast.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the outrageous, the mundane.

that strange whistling sound the wind makes when it passes through the hole in my heart.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
reading, writing, solo-strolling through the city, watching a movie (home base or big screen), binge-watching a show, stumbling into dive bars with a buddy in tow, y'know.

truth: most likely working.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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sometimes i do things i regret.
You should message me if
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you, too, have an adverse reaction to bullshit. and while inconvenient (due to ubiquitous nature of bullshit), you're rather grateful for the reaction.

you understand that you can be full of it, too.

a keanu reeves marathon with cheap wine sounds like a good idea. (and no, that's not code speak.)

you're the wingman.