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38 Boston, MA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Well, I’m still getting over a failed marriage. My partner and I both contributed to the worsening situation. But I’ve got to stop being depressed and heart broken. We have been separated for about half a year. I haven’t been on the dating scene for more than 8 years and never had any experience or interests in online dating. But I decided to give it a try since there seem to be many interesting people here. If you are reading this and happened to be one of my friends, please don’t be surprised since it’s not public yet that we’ve split up. There is no cheating. Other than that my life is together and going well.
I’m a fun and very outgoing person although the last relationship has made me more solitary. I like sarcasm and sometimes make silly jokes that can sound challenging. I consider myself very independent, optimistic and confident. These are the traits that I value a lot. My ex told me that my confidence sometimes can appear egotistic. So I’m trying to be more aware and soft spoken. It’s true that I don’t fit the stereotype of humble and shy Asian guys.
I’m interested in wide variety of things including arts, music, cultures that I’m not familiar with, nature, cooking, tinkering…… I like to play and make music and always wish to practice more. I was in a few bands in high school, college and grad school. I’m pretty active and try to tune myself to the geography and seasonality. Snowboarding in the winter, hiking and camping in the summer are what I love to do more. I also do yoga regularly. But don’t expect too much because I’m no expert in any of those and I don’t want to underwhelm you if we meet. Oh, I cook well and I guarantee that you won’t be disappointed.
I enjoy traveling a lot and have spent many hours on the plane both for work and for vacations. Actually, I’m writing this offline on a 14 hour long flight over the North Pole. There is a long list of countries that I want to go to or revisit.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in a design industry and try to make it benefit the environment more. I enjoy what I do but always open to new directions and ambitions. I’ve made a few major changes in my 20s and I don’t think it’s ever too late to try something new.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being myself and keeping my life in order. I’m also pretty good at problem solving. But I want to become good at deep listening to people.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I guess my hair? Well you can tell me when we meet. It can be a good way to start the conversation.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Some Books: JD Salinger’s short stories, Norwegian woods, To kill the mocking bird, Just the kid, Louise Gluck's poems.
Movies: there are just too many to name. I love all of Pedro Almodovar’s films, especially the most recent two, Volver and The skin I live in. A few others that I can think of right now include Life of others, goodbye Lenin, Spirited Away, Tombstone for fireflies, Lover letter, Swallowtail butterfly, A separation, old boy, to live, life is beautiful, city of God, Happy together, In the heat of Sun
Shows: South Park, Top Chief and sometimes New Girl are pretty much the only TV shows that I occasionally watch online. I haven’t owned a TV for about 15 years because I believe television is a time and brain sucker.
I listen to radio and podcast all the time though. Here are some of my favorites: this American life, radio lab, the moth, snap judgment, fresh air, selected shorts, car talk, On point….
Music: just too difficult to list since I listen as broadly as possible. Some examples currently on my iphone are Tarwater, Cinematic Orchestra, Matthew Dear, Einstzende Neubauten, Bjork, Sufjan Stevens, Bon Iver, Massive attack, Tricky, Radiohead, blur, Gorillaz, Can, Bang on a Can, Miles Davis, Erik Truffaz, John Coltrane, Jan Garbarek, Patti Smith, Pink Floyd, Philip Glass, John Zorn, Steve Reich, Laurie Anderson, P J Harvey, Notwist, Ali Farka Toure, Anouar Brahem, Apparat, Arve Henriksen, beck, Califone, DJ Shadow, Kings of Convenience, Leonard Cohen, Underworld, The cure, Nirvana, John Lennon, Jeff Buckley, Jeff Beck, Arovane, David Bowie, The books, outcast.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family, home, mindful presence, friends, nail clippers, my wallet (not about cash but about my ID, T pass etc.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The balance between the present and the future.
How to become a better and more ethical person. I also often think about how to be more productive while procrastinating.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Well it will be different since what I did in my last relationship is not relevant anymore. These days I would cook some good food then have a beer while watching a movie, or go to a yoga class or occasionally go out to the happy hour with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Actually there are a few questions in the profile that I think are quite private. See if you can find them.
You should message me if
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You are genuine, independent, respectful and fun.

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